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On Being Positive

I want to keep  ‘that’ light,  ‘that’ sparkle, ‘that’ positive vibe in my life.

To be completely honest I’ve had to fight to maintain that lately.

I learned from my childhood that a negative attitude brings grief to the whole family. My mom hardly ever had a conversation that was not negative. No matter the day, the situation, meal hour at the table, in the yard, after school, bedtime, my siblings and I had a bad stomach as a result of the stress.  I must say now in her 70’s she is making an effort to change. I understand her more now.

An abusive past that included childhood, adolescence,  periods of public life gave me the foundation to be negative.

Our choices especially wrong, immoral, unthoughtful, unsafe, inconsiderate, selfish choices impacts those around us. Although choices made by people with health and mental illness are not always choices but challenges that affect us and totally a different matter.

I remember; I determined at a young age to be a positive influence however that did not always translate into reality.

Personally I thing good choices have good consequences. Choices I make today affect my body, soul and spirit that affect others. To begin the process of good choices I certainly need a positive attitude, God’s guidance and some good ole common sense. If my choices are good then that is very good.

I know instinctively I have to Focus on the Positive. At 62 the days of daydreaming for a better life is over, I can watch as many romantic, feel good, get rich, Christmas movies I want but my life is what it is. When I thought the worse was over; My heart breaks knowing that someone close to me is suffering cyber bulling, another with marital issues, a dear friend has just been diagnosed with cancer, and far to many of my friends are now dealing with life threatening diseases.  To know that someone I know is homeless.

The goals I have not realized YET now seem insignificant compared to these concerns. Still I must go on, life still happens and the choice is mine to persevere and pursue dreams, loves. I’m  thinkin’ many have experienced accomplishments later in life and in spite of tragedy and difficulty.

Michelangelo sculptured masterfully at eighty-nine. Monet painted his best pictures after he was eighty-five so maybe I should get back to painting. I am still a 60’s Possibility.

It was only the catharsis of writing my book  “Feet First ” and the grace and mercy of God that I’ve moved beyond abuse.

While I have overcome the pain of the past there are hurdles in the ‘here and now’ on a daily basis we all must overcome.

I must at any cost practice positive thinking.

Say Yes here’s another hurdle that I must stop and ask, how shall God and I overcome this thing?

Say thank you for everything.

Say I shall do good today.

You See- when I focus on the positive side it actually help me make more choices to look on the bright side.

I’m naturally a serious person but I do try to relax and shake it off. I want to anticipate a fun future even if I do not have at present a plan for our senior years. I’m still workin’ on that.

There is So much I can get bitter about But then why don’t I have the right to get angry and stay angry? So many arbitrarily choose things to impact and hurt me, why not?

Bitterness the unresolved anger turned inward eventually becomes hate towards all those that have wronged me.

BUT I want to be SWEET not a sourpuss.

What of you? Have you experiences in the past that caused you deep hurts whether it is illness or choices by others?

O God help me see there is positive in this day in spite of a new bump in the road.

How?

Firstly, to get a best perspective on today, Help me to be helpful and maintain a servants caring attitude just like the lowly carpenter.

Secondly, help me to continue to praise you and uplift others.

Thirdly, I wish to be grateful every day.

It’s not hard to believe I get discouraged but every kind word; smile I give to others through my discouragement is like a natural injection of meds.

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a downcast spirit dries the bones. (Prov. 17:22) Yesterday as I was writing this post a dagger of disappointment pierced my soul when a family member gives me more news that breaks the heart and darkens my countenance as a blind.

Then just as quickly I was reminded of  David who said ‘I WILL’ encourage myself in The Lord.

“WE are pressed on every side by troubles, but not crushed and broken. We are perplexed because we don’t know why things happen as they do, but we don’t give up and quit. We are hunted down, but God never abandons us. We get knocked down, but we get up again and keep going.”

I want to be ‘that’ light  ‘that’ sparkle of encouragement for my children  and grandchildren. You may not give credence to scripture but may it be an encouragement to you anyway; it helps me daily.

Philippians 4: 4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Today serendipitously the following example was given to me and I would love to share it.

So often many are like Gideon; at our weakest moment to be found a prisoner of fear and hiding in the most inappropriate place like an awful wine press. I too have been so afraid of losing and living in the dungeon of fear, frustrated, perspiring. But then suddenly an Angel of the Lord appeared and said; The Lord is with you, you mighty man/woman of fearless courage.  Judges 6  

A mighty person of courage while others may see a loser; God sees a winner. Wow. I am so glad the way God sees me…He sees more in us then we see ourselves.

May You and I be Sweet!

Thanks for stopping by.

Beverley

 

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In a world of adversity, division at its extreme, despair and death; I know I need to learn how to bond and work together so I/we can help more people.

I don’t want to just sit around, moan and groan.

I’m sure I can be outspoken yet tender-hearted and insightful or the very least – willing to learn.

  • Personally I absolutely feel we have to continue to SHOW deep love for each other
  • Cheerfully share y/our home with those who need a meal or a place to stay
  • Use the creative, gifting, heart, strengths to impact the world around you

Coach Vince Lombardi on making a winning team. Lombardi said, “There are a lot of coaches with good ball clubs who know the fundamentals and have plenty of discipline but still don’t win the game. Then you come to the third ingredient: if you’re going to play together as a team, you’ve got to care for one another. You’ve got to love each other. Each player has to be thinking about the next guy. You’ve got to do your job well in order that he can do his. The difference between mediocrity and greatness is the feeling these guys have for each other.”

SPORTS, BUSINESS, CHURCH, EDUCATION, CHARITY, GOVERNMENT, CITY, NATION, COUNTRY – every team must care.

Not just to care But Love not just to love But Show Love.

Love is not an abstract idea. Love must be manifested.

True love is not just something you feel – it’s something you demonstrate!

 

  • Marriages have problems when partners don’t show love to one another. A husband and wife may love each other deeply but have a miserable marriage because they don’t know how to show their love for one another.
  • You can’t raise kids properly without showing them love.
  • You can’t have true, lasting, satisfying friendships if your friends can’t tell that you love them.
  • You can’t experience relationships in the community or in your church family without showing and receiving love.

 

Some people find it rather easy to show love. It’s natural as breathing.

Others find it difficult – in fact they feel uncomfortable – simply because of your upbringing.

So HOW do we show love to others.

Treat others just as you want to be treated -The Golden Rule

This is basic.  How do I want to be treated?

 IN no particular order:

  • Listen to me when I talk
  • Show Love to me
  • Forgive me
  • Try Understanding me
  • Give me a Second chance
  • Respect me
  • Think about me
  • Be in the moment/ engaging
  • Relax with me
  • Meet some of my needs
  • Be patient with me
  • Be kind to me
  • Be Faithful to me
  • Do right by me
  • Remember with me
  • Include me in Making memories
  • Honor me
  • Be genuine with me
  • Appreciate me

Oh Dear

Sounds needy

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.

It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Wow

But in reality we are all fragile, delicate, sensitive and utterly in need of love.

Thanks for stopping by……Beverley

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“Twice in a Lifetime”

is still one of my favorite and old TV shows.

 

 

Change is a difficult thing.
Change has haunted my thoughts for many months now.
It has made me laugh but mostly made me cry with many a shed tear. Change and the resulting stretching is good for us; though often painful.
Here is my poem that gives a glimpse into my thoughts. 
 
Caterpillar Butterfly 

Change Change

Amid a world estrange

Seek perfection exchange

 

Change Change

A thousand times

Lord knows I tried

 

Change Change

Compassed this mountain

Long enough

 

Change Change

Herculean pain’s course

Search and check The value source

 

Change Change

Time for change

Season of change

 

Change Change

Tired of going round and round churn

Beyond the point of no return

 

Change Change

Dry bones hopeless

Impossible

 

Change Change

Seek Change

Seduction camouflage estrange

 

Change Change

Evaluate

Time and relationship reflection

In my hand activate

 

Change Change

Coming together

Bone found its matching bone – tether

 

Change Change

Taller than a sunflower

Not in futility rather empowered to flight

 

Change Change

Resist Or Adjust

And be the Butterfly

For real….©

 

Beverley Hoyles

August 10, 2014

 

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Listen to this letter written to Ann Landers.

“Dear Ann, I’m a 46-year-old woman, divorced, with 3 grown children. After several months of chemotherapy following a mastectomy for breast cancer, I was starting to put my life back together when my doctor called with the results of my last checkup. They had found more cancer, & I was devastated.

“My relatives had not been supportive. I was the first person in the family to have cancer & they didn’t know how to behave toward me. They tried to be kind, but I had the feeling they were afraid that it was contagious. They called on the phone to see how I was doing, but kept their distance. And that really hurt.

“Last Saturday I headed for the laundromat. You see the same people there almost every week. We exchange greetings, & make small talk. So I pulled into the parking lot, determined not to look depressed, but my spirits were really low.

While taking my laundry out of the car, I looked up & saw a man, one of the regulars, leaving with his bundle. He smiled & said, ‘Good morning. How are you today?’ Suddenly I lost control of myself & blurted out, ‘This is the worst day of my life! I have more cancer!’ Then I began to cry.

“He put his arms around me & just let me sob. Then he said, ‘I understand. My wife has been through it, too.’ After a few minutes I felt better, stammered out my thanks, & proceeded on with my laundry.

“About 15 minutes later, here he came back with his wife. Without saying a word, she walked over & hugged me. Then she said, ‘I’ve been there, too. Feel free to talk to me. I know what you’re going through.’

“Ann, I can’t tell you how much that meant to me. Here was this total stranger, taking her time to give me emotional support & courage to face the future at a time when I was ready to give up.

“Oh, I hope God gives me a chance to do for someone else what that wonderful woman & her husband did for me. Meanwhile, Ann, please let your readers know that even though there are a lot of hard-hearted people in this world, there are some incredibly generous & loving ones, too.”

I have no idea where this lady is today but her life was changed because of kindness and compassion.

 

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I know there are a lot of different kinds of people in our world and sometimes it can break our heart or encourage us in our darkest moments.

There is this really smart and cool guy called Paul and he said to get rid of unwholesome but concentrate on what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen… Get rid of all bitterness, rage & anger, brawling & slander, along with every form of malice. Now before you say to much I know that is often a challenge.

We are also encouraged to Be kind & compassionate to one another, forgiving each other. I believe this is a major focus of our creator God.

Often I look around and question; Is Kindness almost a lost art today? So many people are rude & self-centered, worried about themselves, & not worried very much about others.

I will simply say; continue to Be a part of each others lives by being compassionate.

Love and Kindness talked about is easily ignored. But Love and Kindness demonstrated is irresistible. I really want to model this; always.

Let’s flood our mind with good thoughts and I promise you it will compel you and I to a greater level of kindness and compassion. Believe it or not it will show on our face like moonbeams, sunbeams and a glorious light.

Thanks for dropping by.  I missed you.

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Ta Da

what you talkin

‘bout

it’s the amazin

race of  my life

it’s the new outfit

it’s speaking up

it’s the rhythm

it’s music

it’s the voice

ta da

it’s sharin

it’s the speed

it’s the faith

making bad days bet-ter

ta da

it’s the kiss

it’s the upside down dream

it’s the day i was created

ta da

it’s the tears that flow

it’s the bucket list

it’s your birthday bear

it’s your death

it’s rebirth

after many years

it’s closing your eyes

see me everywhere

ta da

it’s the freedom

it’s walls come tumbling down

it’s never tearing us apart

it’s the laughter

ta da

it’s finding the time

it’s incomprehensible

now eureka

ta da

it’s the cocoa with marshmallows

it’s s’mores

it’s salty chips

it’s the family fire

it’s the smell of smoke

it’s the cheers

it’s always there

take a bow

ta da

ha ha moment

it’s celebration of wisdom

finished product

it’s inspiring

learn something new

not the end

it’s the power of

Ta Da…….©

 

BeverleyHoyles

May 14, 2014

 

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May you have a awesome week; Keep on lovin!

 

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EncourageWordleIn my lifetime, I have been at the nadir of despair –on occasion was not quite sure what to do next – someone called, wrote, or spoke a word of absolute encouragement. It was magical, miraculous and meaningful.

I would imagine you have felt that moment of encouragement.

I think it’s time that I take this opportunity to encourage you. 

Of course I encourage you to continue to encourage others – you just never know who needs it today.

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A story is told about a banker who always tossed a coin in the cup of a legless beggar who sat on the street outside the bank. But, unlike most people, the banker would always insist on getting one of the pencils the man had beside him. “You are a merchant,” the banker would say, “and I always expect to receive good value from merchants I do business with.” One day the legless man was not on the sidewalk. Time passed and the banker forgot about him, until he walked into a public building and there in the concessions stand sat the former beggar. He was obviously the owner of his own small business now. “I have always hoped you might come by someday,” the man said. “You are largely responsible for me being here. You kept telling me that I was a ’merchant’. I started thinking of myself that way, instead of a beggar receiving gifts. I started selling pencils — lots of them. You gave me self-respect, caused me to look at myself differently.”

Now isn’t that just the greatest story.

Many People often think of encouragement as ordinary, but I am more inclined to think it can be one amazing gift – so valuable.

1. Like a Birthday, Christmas, Anniversary Gift:  It’s free. Encouragement cost the recipient $0 but may at times cost the giver creativity and thoughtfulness; But isn’t that the fun if it all.

2. Unlike many of our gift giving It requires no, nil, zilch shopping. You can email, call or write a card/note of support.

3. Again, unlike other gifts It doesn’t have to be gift bagged/wrapped. It stands alone in its beauty. A Personal custom design -With a little thought you can give the best words of comfort, motivation, or support.

4. And guess what- no ever-ready batteries necessary – Aren’t you just sick of having to remember to get batteries.

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Just by example -you encourage a child – I will guarantee -It will last a lifetime. What other gift  could you give a child that will have value for years to come! Encouragement can lead a child, stop a suicide, cause growth, boost self esteem; comfort, console, strengthen.

 

May you continue to encourage and let it be a way of life.

While I was compiling my thoughts on encouragement, my daughter, Donna was having a very special moment in her life. I had to include it in my blog post. Hopefully it will encourage you as well.

Here is her brief Facebook excerpt of her day:

Helping others breathes life into your soul.

Was at St. Josephs [Hospital]for a bone density test. Was on my way to the elevators when an extremely old man who was partly blind and could barely walk was speaking out loud saying, “help me, I can’t see and I need to find where my appointment is”. I was waiting for the elevator doors to open. (I’m not the best person to ask for directions, not ashamed to vocalize that.. Hehe!) I said I can help guide you. (I’m in a lot of pain today and can barely walk myself) and the man said, “you’re in just as bad as shape as me.” I said, that’s ok, we’ll hold each other up and make sure we get to where we need to be.”

He said, “you’re such a beautiful girl”. I said thank you, I get that every now and then. He said, “no your outer beauty is very obvious, I nearly melted when I saw that smile. It’s what you have so strongly inside of you. I can tell. Do you love Jesus?”. Then of course I cried.. I said, “yes, yes I do, more and more each day He amazes me and I can’t live without Him.”

He said, “don’t worry sweet angel, before you know it you’re pain will be a distant memory. Don’t give up. See how God provided for me today? Your beautiful arms guiding me to safety. “

Ok… Break time.. Wiping the waterfall of tears…. K.. Back

It amazes me daily how God knows everything, and when we need a massive pick me up. Imagine if I allowed my weakness “of not doing well with directions” hold me back, I would have missed this blessing today. I really wanted to get out of there. (The pain in my body was awful).. But I did it anyway. It’s always best to listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit.

The man promised to pray for me and I promised to pray for him. GOD ROCKS!!!!

May you have a beautiful and encouraging day!

Thanks for coming back to read my blog!

I am truly honored.

“Once Upon A Time” or Maybe I could call it “The Princess Lessons”

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Once upon a time there was a young princess who lived in a beautiful castle.
Living in luxury; nice clothes, tasty food, fun toys, playmates and family.

Over time she grew bored and tired of where and what she lived in.

She lost a Contentment in her surroundings.

Unknowingly She looked at her world with regret.

One day as she was strolling around the castle grounds she became more discontented. Envy crept into her heart also.

She made her way to her high tower.

Standing at the highest point in the tower of her castle looked across the land.

To her surprise, she saw a magnificent castle that emanated a golden glow. She saw a land pristine and green. In her heart rose an angry jealousy. She demanded THAT castle.

Hurriedly the princess demanded her servants to prepare for their journey. Exhausted from days of travelling; she finally arrived at her destination.

Clearly upset she said, this cannot be the castle. Looking throughout the castle, she slowly felt that THIS castle was not elaborate as she thought.

She quickly went to the tower to get a better view. Suddenly she began to scream; I KNEW we did not arrive at the correct castle. See there it is, over there. That golden glow is stupendous. But my lady, said a servant, that is YOUR castle.
It IS, she said sheepishly.

The journey back to her castle was a humbling experience. During the rigorous journey towards home, the princess had many reflective moments.

Everything that looks like gold isn’t Gold. It was the glow and reflection of the sun that made the other castle look like gold.
Finally, she arrived home, After Such a rigorous but pondering journey.

A hot bath relaxed her tired bones. A glass of cool water quenched her thirst and warm meal satisfied her hunger.

Slowly looking at her familiar surroundings, she realized the grass truly isn’t greener on the other side.

Feeling refreshed, she ran towards her father’s outstretched arms. She said, “Home”

It’s up to you how you end the story…

 

What are some reflective moments:
• Appreciate what you have and not desire what belongs to someone else. Do not touch what does not belong to you.
• Sometimes what you see is often obscured by the vantage point; present circumstances.
• When we allow our heart to look elsewhere, there will be disappointment.
• Don’t run/ travel to temptation; run away.
• Don’t exhaust yourself looking in other directions for something or someone better.
• Selfishness caused her to forget all lovely people in her life.
• Be grateful for the people in your life and stop with the regrets and what if’s. Humbling moments aren’t deadly but can be enriching.
• Don’t be fooled. Temptation usually comes through the door that has been deliberately left open.
• Own up; resist the things that do not have the Creator and angels approval. But if you make a mistake, simply confess immediately.
• Learn to appreciate what you have; wealth is all in one’s point of view.
• What lens do you use to see life?
• Sometimes you’re blessed and don’t even know.

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Childhood lessons also reflect adult lessons.

Little Discipline and lack of restraints can often affect your future.

I think it is very unfortunate that our culture places such a high premium on the things of this world. What the “eye” see and desires, the hand is all too ready to take. This society is more accepting of immorality, pornography, greed, strife, hate, unkindness, intolerance, crime and revenge.

Learn to think of your problems positively for example your relationships. People who cannot look at their own relationship problems/conditions positively go on to make dumb mistakes/choices.

Truly know in your heart what is right and wrong. Learn to have self control.

Who are the monsters in the story; yeah, they are sneaky like ninja’s that come out of the shadows:
Self-centeredness
Ungratefulness
Wrong thinking
Anger
Lust of the eyes
Envy
Jealousy
Pride
Fear
Over familiarity
Negativity
Immorality

If we allow it, WE can become monsterous.

But God made you beautiful and glorious, so pull up your boot straps live your best life and make me proud.
Be courageous you have it in you.
Be positive it gets easier with practice.
Be committed to God, family, to yourself.
See the good in you- you’re more than An angel
Be forgiving
Be gracious
Love others, even When they don’t meet your expectation.
Do what is right

Stay beautiful God made you after His image.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

 

I hope you are having a great day and being blessed and blessing others.

Thanks for reading my blog!

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In my opinion;
Some of the most popular literature in the world is found in the book of Psalms; the songbook of Israel which most were set to music.

I am only one of millions who love Psalm 23,The Lord is my Shepherd, Psalm 90, the oldest Psalm, written by Moses, Psalm 46, a favorite read at funerals, God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Post adultery Psalm 51.

Have you ever had trouble- trying to silence a guilty conscience?

Guilt in the back of our minds can drive us nuts.

Many people try all sorts of ways to deal with the terrible feelings of guilt and the low self-esteem that inevitably comes after they’ve messed up.

Some people try to Deny it or make excuses or they try to ignore it

OR you can Deaden your guilt, by eating, drinking, inhaling, or injecting something to make the pain go away.

Sometimes people try to compensate by doing something good -Guilt is a powerful motivator.

It’s not unusual for people to goof up and be stupid or be unwise or get loss in the moment and make a mistake or get lazy let down their guard and commit a sin.

When we do something wrong, you or I can try to cover it up or fess up.

Because I have friends who have suffered the after effects of adultery I often think of the story of King David and his adultery with Bathsheba.

David wrote Psalm 51 after his sin of adultery right after being found out his attempt to cover up didn’t work.

So here’s the true story: David is lazing around in the palace when he should have been at work with his armies [fighting the Ammonites] with too much time on his hands and happens to see a woman taking a bath, and instantly lust takes hold, and he tells his servant, bring her to me. Bathsheba of course, being the wife of Uriah One of the highest ranking men who helped him win many victories…

And wouldn’t you know that after this little affair Bathsheba gets pregnant and the great cover up begins. He brings Uriah home from the war, and try’s several times to get him to sleep with Bathsheba, but being an honorable soldier – he won’t.

Since that didn’t work David put Uriah in front of a battle to get him killed – The plan works, Uriah dies.

David immediately marries Bathsheba.

I wonder, did David have a guilty conscience? I believe the creator was displeased with David’s actions.

I often wonder what 8 months of Bathsheba’s pregnancy were like. Was she suspicious of David, what were his thoughts.

I think he was gonna try to deal with it by not dealing with it.

Ignore it.

But creator God is not gonna let him forget it.

Enter; God’s prophet Nathan came to confront him.

 

What has history told us what David said; “I have sinned against the Lord!”

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Even if you aren’t a Bible believing person Psalm 51- a psalm of David is amazing.

Psalm 51

1  Have mercy on me, O God,
    according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
    blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
    and cleanse me from my sin.

For I know my transgressions,
    and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
    and done what is evil in your sight;
so you are right in your verdict
    and justified when you judge.
Surely I was sinful at birth,
    sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb;
    you taught me wisdom in that secret place.

Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
    wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Let me hear joy and gladness;
    let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
Hide your face from my sins
    and blot out all my iniquity.
10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
    and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
    or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
    and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me

 

I guess what I am saying is that the Only way to deal with a guilty conscience – ADMIT.

 

We are responsible for our own lives and It does no good to blame other people, or blame my circumstances.

Edgar Allen Poe’s story, “The Telltale Heart”?

In that story, the main character has committed murder and he buries the body under floorboards in his house. But the murderer can’t escape the guilt of his deed.

He begins to hear the heartbeat of his dead victim. A cold sweat pours over him as that heartbeat goes on and on, relentlessly, getting louder and louder.

Finally the noise in his head is driving him crazy, he can’t take it anymore, he’s sure everyone else must hear it too, and they’re just taunting him by ignoring, it, just playing with him. And so finally in a fit of desperation, he confesses everything and shows policemen the body.

I would be stupid to think that our/my actions doesn’t hurt others. For me personally because of my commitment I have to make it right with the creator before I can make it right with my family or neighbor.

Guilt is good if we allow it to guide us to better decisions.

Dr. Brand who spent much of his life in India working with leprosy patients made a major discovery – Because of the lack of pain they were constantly injuring themselves which would result in amputation.

Guilt is just as important to our lives as pain and it is a warning sign that helps us know that something needs to change.

There are bad choices, mistakes, neglects that are not sins, but may require forgiveness.  But there are things I choose to believe are sin. We are caught in a web -in a mess, sin, stupidity – we need mercy and grace – well I do.

Mercy to escape the bad, and grace to be given the goodness of forgiveness and freedom to go forward.

Forgiveness does not come cheaply neither physically, emotionally nor spiritually. (Someone pays)

For the psalmist David he understood this –  in his day they dipped hyssop in the blood of sacrificed animals and applied to the altar or doorposts over the house.

As I follow the teachings of Christ – it is inherent in his teachings that if we ( I ) sin it is paid by his shed blood. My relationship with my creator allows a Higher accountability for my thoughts, words and actions.

In the case of adultery blood spills because the lifeblood of the relationship dies.

Rarely, it is recovered through forgiveness.

It’s that powerful force of love That gives us forgiveness, mercy and grace.

The psalmist said Create in me a pure heart, O God, renew a steadfast spirit within me. Restore unto me the joy. We all need strength and power to keep us on tract and stay away from that which caused us guilt in the first place.

What’s the use of guilt alone – but “I’m sorry” “I repent” and I want to make a change is necessary.

A change of heart.
A change of mind.
and A change of direction.

Such contrition removes guilt AND joy replaces inner anguish.

Truly each of us is in charge of our lives and choices and we are often challenged by them.

However, it is important to note that whatever we do there are ripple effects.

Don’t get me wrong; we will make mistakes, but whatever happens in your life – Admit and Go Forward.

I know it’s been a serious tone tonight on my blog, but do come back.

Stay Kind Hearted!
Stay Safe!

 

Thanks for reading my blog.

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Missed opportunity

Missed opportunities
When
We
Don’t
Listen

Missed opportunities
Seize the Day
Living in the moment
Being sensitive
Gracious in speech
Bring out the best In others
See good
Listen before you speak
Forgive now
Willing servant
Love
Smile

What makes my
Life sincere
All of the above
But remember
Let the
Missed opportunities
Become opportunities
Don’t shed bitter tears
Over unsaid words
Words undone
Live now
Reconnect
Stop stalling

Don’t miss an opportunity
To make a positive difference
To be a blessing
To be prepared
To be a good neighbor
To be honest
To be fruitful

We are human
And humans make
Mistakes
What’s
Important
It’s how we
Fix it

Don’t miss another opportunity….©

Beverley Hoyles

February 2014

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This week as I was driving to my daughter’s home to help with the grandbabies; I thought of the “Smile”.

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What is it that a smile really does for humanity?
We shall never know the good and to the extent the smile actually does for someone especially in their hour of need.

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
Leo Buscaglia

Who knew that a simple curve and partial parenthesis on keyboard was so wonderful and it truly has no barriers and applies to all languages.

Maybe it’s the saving grace candle in the window sorta speak or maybe the bridge between two worlds.

Whenever I smile at my grandbaby who is only 4 months – he responds with a smile and a giggle.

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An untrained child responds to a smile.
So many of us at times need Just a Smile.

Smile

wow your smile
must be
the bestest
most wonderful smile
make a baby giggle
spread warmth of the sun
forces all the bad thoughts to flee
make me change my mind
mix it up it’s free
smiles give life
brightens my day
yup yipper yes sir ree
love that beautiful smile
makes everything right and puree..©

beverleyhoyles

January 29th, 2014

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