Day 29 of my 30 Day Thankfulness Challenge; I am thankful for the essence of Family.  😀

Family for me; includes parents, brothers and sisters, caregivers, extended family of my spouse, sons-in law’s and daughter-in law’s family, people I have met that are now a part of my family, people from different churches, even pets, and people from the most unusual places such as Facebook.  For friends that have stayed faithful  to me through many years are all really family. For others there are blended families and many more complexities form families.

The key to any family is to love lavishly. Care cuddles, provide safety and comfort for each member. Kids thirst for parental acceptance — they long for their mother and father to reinforce their worth. Parental priority is to purpose in guiding each child’s emotional life.

If a parent fails here and reinforce a dysfunctional family by any type of abuse or trauma or neglect or suppression that child’s life is changed forever.

Being parents or leaders of a family is God-given with an important duty to meet a child’s need for affirmation. First and foremost is to pour blessing not cursing upon your child.

God has given mother and father but especially mothers the loving, nurturing quality that care for our children – feeding them, dressing them, changing diaper after diaper, it is God who gives them breath so we are not in this alone. God knows the number of hairs on their head and the days of their life.

As I ponder the life of children I am amazed once more by the awesome power of God to give life. I cannot begin to imagine that there is another out there that could love my children, grandchildren more than me except God.  I am comforted on many occasions knowing That God hold them and me in the creator’s hands.

A very important part of the family is forgiveness.  We all need forgiveness at different times.  Some have to forgive normal ordinary things others have to forgive abuse or crime or addiction.

Forgiveness is letting it go, to release.  With all one’s heart/wholeheartedly, freely granting freedom and blessing. Mind you it has little to do with feelings or trust.  It is a decision to let it go, let go of disappointments, let go of hurts and pain, let go of regrets or what we view as justice or what is right.

In abusive relationships the dynamics and healing process is critical.

Lily Tomlin said: To forgive is to give up all hope for a better past.

“There comes a critical time in each person’s life when the truth is accessible. Faced with it, you can either run and hide, denying it, or you can face your truth, accept it, and grow stronger,” wrote Gregory Jantz in Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse.

“While the optimum situation is for both parties in an abusive situation to seek help, Dr. Tim Clinton, President of the American Association of Counselors, insists one person can change the relationship. 

“Change a person; change a relationship,” he says.

Dr. Tim Clinton says that “with professional help—and by following some basic principles you can break the cycle of abuse in your life and begin your healing journey”

I know I have oversimplified 6 of his suggestions but you get the drift.

  • Truth and disclosure is the first step
  • Seek professional help and guidance
  • Set appropriate boundaries
  • Find and maintain healthy relationships by surrounding yourself with a group of people that will support you
  • Do what you can and trust God for added strength
  • Forgiveness is not denying but opens door to healing

In Any Family – Love, respect, kindness, warmth, fun, challenge, learning and affection are some important ingredients in the family. If we’re going to grow and mature in spirit, then we’ve got to grow in love.

Stages of Family

The family is like a human body everyone needs each other, and everyone helps another.

I really want a family atmosphere that will be a center of love, created in such a way that any hurts, brokenness, worry or fear is healed and God is seen always. Plenty of hugs, kindness, tears and laughter given freely.

Pertinent Quotes:

“This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.”

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love”

Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.”   ― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving

When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice. – Cherokee

Psalmist said, Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me.

Continually forgive others. Forgive AT ONCE, not one second later, not one half second later, because if you hesitate to forgive, jealousy comes in the door, than hatred and envy. Forgive instantly as Christ forgives instantly.  Gerontissa Makrina

“When love, acceptance and forgiveness prevail, the church becomes what Jesus was in the world: a center of love, designed for the healing of broken people, and a force for God… One of the greatest services a church can offer a community is to provide a place for people to be brought to wholeness – to be healed physically, spiritually and emotionally… People are fragmented. They are torn. Life doesn’t work for them because they are without Jesus… They need a place to be healed.” (Jerry Cook).

 

We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves.  Henry Ward Beecher

People who have good relationships at home are more effective in the marketplace. Zig Ziglar

Charity begins at home, but should not end there.  Thomas Fuller

Proverb  “The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.”

Thanks for reading my bLoG!

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