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On Being Positive

I want to keep  ‘that’ light,  ‘that’ sparkle, ‘that’ positive vibe in my life.

To be completely honest I’ve had to fight to maintain that lately.

I learned from my childhood that a negative attitude brings grief to the whole family. My mom hardly ever had a conversation that was not negative. No matter the day, the situation, meal hour at the table, in the yard, after school, bedtime, my siblings and I had a bad stomach as a result of the stress.  I must say now in her 70’s she is making an effort to change. I understand her more now.

An abusive past that included childhood, adolescence,  periods of public life gave me the foundation to be negative.

Our choices especially wrong, immoral, unthoughtful, unsafe, inconsiderate, selfish choices impacts those around us. Although choices made by people with health and mental illness are not always choices but challenges that affect us and totally a different matter.

I remember; I determined at a young age to be a positive influence however that did not always translate into reality.

Personally I thing good choices have good consequences. Choices I make today affect my body, soul and spirit that affect others. To begin the process of good choices I certainly need a positive attitude, God’s guidance and some good ole common sense. If my choices are good then that is very good.

I know instinctively I have to Focus on the Positive. At 62 the days of daydreaming for a better life is over, I can watch as many romantic, feel good, get rich, Christmas movies I want but my life is what it is. When I thought the worse was over; My heart breaks knowing that someone close to me is suffering cyber bulling, another with marital issues, a dear friend has just been diagnosed with cancer, and far to many of my friends are now dealing with life threatening diseases.  To know that someone I know is homeless.

The goals I have not realized YET now seem insignificant compared to these concerns. Still I must go on, life still happens and the choice is mine to persevere and pursue dreams, loves. I’m  thinkin’ many have experienced accomplishments later in life and in spite of tragedy and difficulty.

Michelangelo sculptured masterfully at eighty-nine. Monet painted his best pictures after he was eighty-five so maybe I should get back to painting. I am still a 60’s Possibility.

It was only the catharsis of writing my book  “Feet First ” and the grace and mercy of God that I’ve moved beyond abuse.

While I have overcome the pain of the past there are hurdles in the ‘here and now’ on a daily basis we all must overcome.

I must at any cost practice positive thinking.

Say Yes here’s another hurdle that I must stop and ask, how shall God and I overcome this thing?

Say thank you for everything.

Say I shall do good today.

You See- when I focus on the positive side it actually help me make more choices to look on the bright side.

I’m naturally a serious person but I do try to relax and shake it off. I want to anticipate a fun future even if I do not have at present a plan for our senior years. I’m still workin’ on that.

There is So much I can get bitter about But then why don’t I have the right to get angry and stay angry? So many arbitrarily choose things to impact and hurt me, why not?

Bitterness the unresolved anger turned inward eventually becomes hate towards all those that have wronged me.

BUT I want to be SWEET not a sourpuss.

What of you? Have you experiences in the past that caused you deep hurts whether it is illness or choices by others?

O God help me see there is positive in this day in spite of a new bump in the road.

How?

Firstly, to get a best perspective on today, Help me to be helpful and maintain a servants caring attitude just like the lowly carpenter.

Secondly, help me to continue to praise you and uplift others.

Thirdly, I wish to be grateful every day.

It’s not hard to believe I get discouraged but every kind word; smile I give to others through my discouragement is like a natural injection of meds.

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a downcast spirit dries the bones. (Prov. 17:22) Yesterday as I was writing this post a dagger of disappointment pierced my soul when a family member gives me more news that breaks the heart and darkens my countenance as a blind.

Then just as quickly I was reminded of  David who said ‘I WILL’ encourage myself in The Lord.

“WE are pressed on every side by troubles, but not crushed and broken. We are perplexed because we don’t know why things happen as they do, but we don’t give up and quit. We are hunted down, but God never abandons us. We get knocked down, but we get up again and keep going.”

I want to be ‘that’ light  ‘that’ sparkle of encouragement for my children  and grandchildren. You may not give credence to scripture but may it be an encouragement to you anyway; it helps me daily.

Philippians 4: 4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Today serendipitously the following example was given to me and I would love to share it.

So often many are like Gideon; at our weakest moment to be found a prisoner of fear and hiding in the most inappropriate place like an awful wine press. I too have been so afraid of losing and living in the dungeon of fear, frustrated, perspiring. But then suddenly an Angel of the Lord appeared and said; The Lord is with you, you mighty man/woman of fearless courage.  Judges 6  

A mighty person of courage while others may see a loser; God sees a winner. Wow. I am so glad the way God sees me…He sees more in us then we see ourselves.

May You and I be Sweet!

Thanks for stopping by.

Beverley

 

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“Twice in a Lifetime”

is still one of my favorite and old TV shows.

 

 

Change is a difficult thing.
Change has haunted my thoughts for many months now.
It has made me laugh but mostly made me cry with many a shed tear. Change and the resulting stretching is good for us; though often painful.
Here is my poem that gives a glimpse into my thoughts. 
 
Caterpillar Butterfly 

Change Change

Amid a world estrange

Seek perfection exchange

 

Change Change

A thousand times

Lord knows I tried

 

Change Change

Compassed this mountain

Long enough

 

Change Change

Herculean pain’s course

Search and check The value source

 

Change Change

Time for change

Season of change

 

Change Change

Tired of going round and round churn

Beyond the point of no return

 

Change Change

Dry bones hopeless

Impossible

 

Change Change

Seek Change

Seduction camouflage estrange

 

Change Change

Evaluate

Time and relationship reflection

In my hand activate

 

Change Change

Coming together

Bone found its matching bone – tether

 

Change Change

Taller than a sunflower

Not in futility rather empowered to flight

 

Change Change

Resist Or Adjust

And be the Butterfly

For real….©

 

Beverley Hoyles

August 10, 2014

 

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May you have a wonderful Sunday and everyday; May your future be very bright.

 

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Listen to this letter written to Ann Landers.

“Dear Ann, I’m a 46-year-old woman, divorced, with 3 grown children. After several months of chemotherapy following a mastectomy for breast cancer, I was starting to put my life back together when my doctor called with the results of my last checkup. They had found more cancer, & I was devastated.

“My relatives had not been supportive. I was the first person in the family to have cancer & they didn’t know how to behave toward me. They tried to be kind, but I had the feeling they were afraid that it was contagious. They called on the phone to see how I was doing, but kept their distance. And that really hurt.

“Last Saturday I headed for the laundromat. You see the same people there almost every week. We exchange greetings, & make small talk. So I pulled into the parking lot, determined not to look depressed, but my spirits were really low.

While taking my laundry out of the car, I looked up & saw a man, one of the regulars, leaving with his bundle. He smiled & said, ‘Good morning. How are you today?’ Suddenly I lost control of myself & blurted out, ‘This is the worst day of my life! I have more cancer!’ Then I began to cry.

“He put his arms around me & just let me sob. Then he said, ‘I understand. My wife has been through it, too.’ After a few minutes I felt better, stammered out my thanks, & proceeded on with my laundry.

“About 15 minutes later, here he came back with his wife. Without saying a word, she walked over & hugged me. Then she said, ‘I’ve been there, too. Feel free to talk to me. I know what you’re going through.’

“Ann, I can’t tell you how much that meant to me. Here was this total stranger, taking her time to give me emotional support & courage to face the future at a time when I was ready to give up.

“Oh, I hope God gives me a chance to do for someone else what that wonderful woman & her husband did for me. Meanwhile, Ann, please let your readers know that even though there are a lot of hard-hearted people in this world, there are some incredibly generous & loving ones, too.”

I have no idea where this lady is today but her life was changed because of kindness and compassion.

 

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I know there are a lot of different kinds of people in our world and sometimes it can break our heart or encourage us in our darkest moments.

There is this really smart and cool guy called Paul and he said to get rid of unwholesome but concentrate on what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen… Get rid of all bitterness, rage & anger, brawling & slander, along with every form of malice. Now before you say to much I know that is often a challenge.

We are also encouraged to Be kind & compassionate to one another, forgiving each other. I believe this is a major focus of our creator God.

Often I look around and question; Is Kindness almost a lost art today? So many people are rude & self-centered, worried about themselves, & not worried very much about others.

I will simply say; continue to Be a part of each others lives by being compassionate.

Love and Kindness talked about is easily ignored. But Love and Kindness demonstrated is irresistible. I really want to model this; always.

Let’s flood our mind with good thoughts and I promise you it will compel you and I to a greater level of kindness and compassion. Believe it or not it will show on our face like moonbeams, sunbeams and a glorious light.

Thanks for dropping by.  I missed you.

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“Once Upon A Time” or Maybe I could call it “The Princess Lessons”

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Once upon a time there was a young princess who lived in a beautiful castle.
Living in luxury; nice clothes, tasty food, fun toys, playmates and family.

Over time she grew bored and tired of where and what she lived in.

She lost a Contentment in her surroundings.

Unknowingly She looked at her world with regret.

One day as she was strolling around the castle grounds she became more discontented. Envy crept into her heart also.

She made her way to her high tower.

Standing at the highest point in the tower of her castle looked across the land.

To her surprise, she saw a magnificent castle that emanated a golden glow. She saw a land pristine and green. In her heart rose an angry jealousy. She demanded THAT castle.

Hurriedly the princess demanded her servants to prepare for their journey. Exhausted from days of travelling; she finally arrived at her destination.

Clearly upset she said, this cannot be the castle. Looking throughout the castle, she slowly felt that THIS castle was not elaborate as she thought.

She quickly went to the tower to get a better view. Suddenly she began to scream; I KNEW we did not arrive at the correct castle. See there it is, over there. That golden glow is stupendous. But my lady, said a servant, that is YOUR castle.
It IS, she said sheepishly.

The journey back to her castle was a humbling experience. During the rigorous journey towards home, the princess had many reflective moments.

Everything that looks like gold isn’t Gold. It was the glow and reflection of the sun that made the other castle look like gold.
Finally, she arrived home, After Such a rigorous but pondering journey.

A hot bath relaxed her tired bones. A glass of cool water quenched her thirst and warm meal satisfied her hunger.

Slowly looking at her familiar surroundings, she realized the grass truly isn’t greener on the other side.

Feeling refreshed, she ran towards her father’s outstretched arms. She said, “Home”

It’s up to you how you end the story…

 

What are some reflective moments:
• Appreciate what you have and not desire what belongs to someone else. Do not touch what does not belong to you.
• Sometimes what you see is often obscured by the vantage point; present circumstances.
• When we allow our heart to look elsewhere, there will be disappointment.
• Don’t run/ travel to temptation; run away.
• Don’t exhaust yourself looking in other directions for something or someone better.
• Selfishness caused her to forget all lovely people in her life.
• Be grateful for the people in your life and stop with the regrets and what if’s. Humbling moments aren’t deadly but can be enriching.
• Don’t be fooled. Temptation usually comes through the door that has been deliberately left open.
• Own up; resist the things that do not have the Creator and angels approval. But if you make a mistake, simply confess immediately.
• Learn to appreciate what you have; wealth is all in one’s point of view.
• What lens do you use to see life?
• Sometimes you’re blessed and don’t even know.

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Childhood lessons also reflect adult lessons.

Little Discipline and lack of restraints can often affect your future.

I think it is very unfortunate that our culture places such a high premium on the things of this world. What the “eye” see and desires, the hand is all too ready to take. This society is more accepting of immorality, pornography, greed, strife, hate, unkindness, intolerance, crime and revenge.

Learn to think of your problems positively for example your relationships. People who cannot look at their own relationship problems/conditions positively go on to make dumb mistakes/choices.

Truly know in your heart what is right and wrong. Learn to have self control.

Who are the monsters in the story; yeah, they are sneaky like ninja’s that come out of the shadows:
Self-centeredness
Ungratefulness
Wrong thinking
Anger
Lust of the eyes
Envy
Jealousy
Pride
Fear
Over familiarity
Negativity
Immorality

If we allow it, WE can become monsterous.

But God made you beautiful and glorious, so pull up your boot straps live your best life and make me proud.
Be courageous you have it in you.
Be positive it gets easier with practice.
Be committed to God, family, to yourself.
See the good in you- you’re more than An angel
Be forgiving
Be gracious
Love others, even When they don’t meet your expectation.
Do what is right

Stay beautiful God made you after His image.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

 

I hope you are having a great day and being blessed and blessing others.

Thanks for reading my blog!

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We know that we ought to be thankful for the good things and use the not so great things to teach us to count our blessings.

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One of the greatest blessing in our lives is to love and know love.

It is far too easy to camouflage the very people we love that make life worthwhile, with the business and busyness of life.

Tis the Season-
It’s Christmas, it’s a miracle, it’s love, it’s a gift –
To fall in love is a precious gift, a miracle.

Would you like to fall in love all over again?

To fall in love all over again brings tears to my heart and rain to my eyes.

Would you like to fall in love again this Christmas season?

To look into the eyes of creator God afresh and see the miracles of his love for you. To once again have hope because of the Man whose birth we celebrate on Christmas Day. To fall in love with the creator not just his creation.

To look into the eyes of your spouse as once you did and caused that head over heels butterfly feeling. The commitment in your heart of your youth to never take him/her for granted.

As a youth or young adult in love it is so natural to want to explore, to touch, to feel that warm body of another human being. To immerse in that sensual electrifying experience. The desire to be in love came so naturally; could that happen again?

I believe that one of the biggest reasons that people are miserable especially at Christmas is because they refuse to let go of the hurts, disappointment, and offenses of others. They justify their pain and keep themselves and others locked in a prison of unforgiveness. Believe me It isn’t easy making the choice to forgive But living with unforgiveness can be deadly! There is a great need to forgive.

A need to rekindle, refresh, fan the flame of love.

To make a date every day. Re-establish connection with your life-companion the forever friendship. There’s a good man in there- there’s a good woman in there.
In sickness and in health. To be captivated once again.

To look into the eyes of your now grown child/ren and remember the naivety of that new mom feeling. To remember your heart swell with love for the little one. The smell, the touch of his/her silky newborn skin of this little human who needs you every second of every day. The promise you made to nurture and keep them safe all wrapped in the warmth of your love. To disrespect or allow harm near your child would be unthinkable. Remember – you would never let anyone or anything interfere with that sweet baby smile. Honor your children.

As we fall in love with God, spouse and child remember those who suffer. For those who are ill, forgotten, lonely; for those who are homeless and are huddled on dark winter nights in the unseen corners of cities all over the world.

Don’t let this season be the greatest regret of your life.
Let it be the greatest love’s rebirth of your Existence. Let it bring you back to life.
To feel, to touch, to hug, to forgive, to kiss, to recommit, bringing joy thought lost.

No it doesn’t have to be a fairy tale but true life.

Thanks for reading my blog!

Merry Christmas

 

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Power of Words

Words

 

You can get quite good at using them
A Heated argument
Using words to hurt
Actually You can get quite good at hurting as well
But what if the relationship or the person dies. Such pain inflicted.
What then?

 

The alternative
Spend the rest of one’s life
For good
To heal
To encourage
 To lift the broken hearted
To bind and heal wounds
To make amends

Good words is therapy
Change is necessary

It takes practice
One word at a time!©

BeverleyHoyles
November 2, 2013

 

Words Don’t Come Easy

 

For those interested in this music here is a great song

See HIs Love

 

Love Me Do

 

While I do not aspire to all of Will’s beliefs; these words are great.

 

I’ve been away from my blog for quite some time fighting dragons.  I’m back now though.

Thanks for reading my blog!

 

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Every day children die from long drawn out painful debilitating diseases [cancer is one].
This poem is just my reminder to love our family and those that come in our path As if it was their last day. Make it count!

too many today
are holding
their little one
with all their might
soft touch
hoping
to save their life,
pain too much
disease too strong
as they sing
one last song,
earth’s thistles
and weed
extreme fight
tears
cannot hide
the tragedies,
no reason
for sickness
for grieving,
the pain
spur
to pray
hope
strength
reason
stir,
love
release
of life
is hardest easy
to learn…©.

beverleyholes
october 5, 2013

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EnCourage Others by your ATTITUDE.

Positive-Attitude

The famous question almost redundant but I will ask anyway. When you see half a glass of water sitting on the counter – is the glass half empty or is it half full? Those who have a positive outlook on life see the glass as half full. Some people see life full of problems – others see life full of challenges. What is your outlook on life? We encourage one another by our attitudes.

I am reminded of the story of two shoe salesmen who went to a tropical island where no one wore shoes. The first shoe salesman came back with a negative attitude and was somewhat depressed. He said, “It was so discouraging – NO ONE WORE SHOES! I’ll never sell shoes there.” The second salesman came back and he was all excited. He said, “What great potential! What great opportunity! NO ONE WORE SHOES! I gave away a pair of shoes to the tribal leader and he loved them. All the other tribal members want shoes now. We have a wide open market! NO ONE WORE SHOES!”

What is your outlook on life? Do you need an attitude check?

Yes there are moments when we flail and get a negative attitude but when we allow a positive attitude to dominate our life everything looks so much better.

I start fresh every day.

  • Be thankful
  • Be kind
  • Be at ease and have fun
  • Be good to yourself and think good thoughts about yourself
  • Be a good detective and find positive things

Our attitudes can affect our behaviors.

Let me encourage you – to be an encourager. Encourage others with the words you speak to them.

Encourage others by having a positive outlook on life.
“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
Abraham Lincoln

“We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
Charles R. Swindoll

I love jokes so here’s one…..

The Good Deed

A lady lost her handbag in the bustle of Christmas shopping.
It was found by an honest little boy and returned to her. Looking
in her purse, she commented, “That’s funny. When I lost my
bag there was a $100 bill in it. Now there are 100 $1 bills.” The
boy quickly replied, “That’s right, lady. The last time I found
a lady’s purse, she didn’t have any change for a reward.”
 

Thanks for reading my bLoG!

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Words

Encouragement means: “to add courage to”.

I’ll go out on a limb and say that A person who gives words of encouragement is helping another person become bolder and braver and blessed.

By giving encouragement I believe you are adding courage to that person- helping a person stand firmer and go farther.  Often give them meaning in their life.

I remember [many years ago as a youth] my friend and I would run races; she usually came in first and I usually the last. Believe me It doesn’t matter if you are coming in first place or last place – if people are there cheering you on – it gives you the added boost to finish the race.

A wise saying: Encourage each other daily, while it is still called today and keep each other on your toes.

You CAN encourage one another with your WORDS.

This is probably the most common way that we encourage one another – we tell people how much we appreciate them.

A word spoken at the right time is like golden apples on a silver tray.

or better yet

The right word at the right time is like a custom-made piece of jewelry.

or

The right word is music to my ears. 😀

But of course; Even when we don’t really mean to, we say dumb things and foul things up. Even when we have high hopes and honorable intentions – words sometimes get all backwards and twisted around.

But please don’t give up trying to encourage.

For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body.

Just think about all the things you said or wanted to say and the effect it did or would have if you would only encourage.

  • The effect the words of a parent have on a child.
  • The effect the husband’s words have on a wife and vice versa.
  • The impact the boss’s words have on an employee.
  • Words said in love to a family member or stranger.
  • Words said in anger.
  • The last words on a death bed.
  • Words help shape y/our lives – just as we have shaped the lives of others.
  • Words that impact a child with self esteem.

 The right word at the right time is like a Priceless Piece of Jewellery.

Thanks for visiting my bLoG!

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A Safe Place

There is this line in the song
…looking for one safe place…
That triggered my thoughts.

Marc Cohn – One Safe Place Lyrics

How many roads you’ve traveled
How many dreams you’ve chased
Across sand and sky and gravel
Looking for one safe place

Will you make a smoother landing
When you break your fall from grace
Into the arms of understanding
Looking for one safe place

Oh, life is a trial by fire
And love’s the sweetest taste
And I pray it lifts us higher
To one safe place

How many roads we’ve traveled
How many dreams we’ve chased
Across sand and sky and gravel
Looking for one safe place

The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned. Maya Angelou

I think every human on the planet will admit our basic physical needs are for food, water, sleep, and warmth. I believe the needs close to those basic needs is the need for safety and security.

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Every child should have a safe place in their life. Joe Manchin
There is a place of reconciliation.
There is a place for forgiveness.
AT least for those that want it with the person/s who has abused you.

There is a place where you have never spoken the truth about the abuse with the abuser.

There is a place where you can pretend a normal relationship with the abuser and pretend it never happened but as we get older that plays havoc with your body and mind and emotions. You will gradually get sicker and sicker. Your spirit and psyche will become more disturbed.

No man or woman on the face of this earth can ignore it forever without suffering for it.

Some say a safe place may be where we live or maybe in whom we live.

I believe a safe place is compiled of many things and if either is damaged we could live in a non-safe zone. Safety is required where we live, how we live, where we were raised, and in whom we trust in our spiritual safety.

For me spiritual safety is simple I walk the path knowing that the creator God is behind me, before me, in my footsteps.

Where I live is fairly simple most of the time. I trust that my immediate family will be respectful and loving. Will protect me when I’m sick. Will see that I am cared for in my aging process and probable death. My husband and I try to keep working to maintain a safe home.

How I live is sometimes Dicey but I simply apply some honest cardinal rules that assist in living safe. My spiritual beliefs flow into how I live which actually protects me and I am free to be as creative and excited about living and learning. The How helps me to be loving albeit I sometimes lose my patience with people but I try to keep the what I consider to be spiritual fruits before me and make it my life long goal to daily work at each of them. Namely; love, temperance, peace, joy, goodness, gentleness, patience, self-control and kindness. Of course they are worthless if I did not continue to do service for others and acts of grace each day.

I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings. This would give credence to spiritual security.
 
I saved this one for last; Safety in where [how] we raised.
I have made peace with the person/s that have abused me in my childhood. I have forgiven long ago and I have done all I could to make things right. Some would say then that’s the end of it. It’s all over now.

No.

I feel I must speak about abuse, be an advocate, educate about abuse, help those who neglect or cannot seek for recovery.

The door to safety hinges on our common sense.

When safety is taken from a child it messes up adult safety.
How we raise our kids is imperative to their safety, to their emotional safety, their spiritual safety, their growth, their whole humanity.

Nothing is too difficult for a creator God to help us to handle. It doesn’t mean you will bypass the necessary steps of hard work to healing.

One encouragement I would give: start a journal, write, talk about the pain. It will start the journey to healing.
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“We attach our feelings to the moment when we were hurt, endowing it with immortality. And we let it assault us every time it comes to mind. It travels with us, sleeps with us, hovers over us while we make love, and broods over us while we die. Our hate does not even have the decency to die when those we hate die–for it is a parasite sucking OUR blood, not theirs. There is only one remedy for it. [forgiveness] Lewis B. Smedes – Forgive & Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve

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All the years you have waited for them to “make it up to you” and all the energy you expended trying to make them change (or make them pay) kept the old wounds from healing and gave pain from the past free rein to shape and even damage your life. And still they may not have changed. Nothing you have done has made them change. Indeed, they may never change. Inner peace is found by changing yourself, not the people who hurt you. And you change yourself for yourself, for the joy, serenity, peace of mind, understanding, compassion, laughter, and bright future that you get.” –   Lewis B. Smedes – The Art of Forgiving: When You Need To Forgive And Don’t Know How

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“Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.”    —Lewis B. Smedes

Talking about abuse helps.

I Turned 60 Christmas 2012 and I have so much to learn. All I know for sure I have to keep loving the best I can and then learn some more and then loving the best I can.

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I am
sojourner of truth
on the path
not sauntering
a racer
in
the
race of my life
where to you ask?
to the golden streets
to the tree by the river eternal
musical realm
it’s heaven
a place
i want to be
every step every sprint
every movement
through earth
is like a shooting star
to my destiny
but
between
here
and
there
no looking back
a time to prepare
learn love
share love
now..©

Beverleyhoyles
May 6, 2013

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