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On Being Positive

I want to keep  ‘that’ light,  ‘that’ sparkle, ‘that’ positive vibe in my life.

To be completely honest I’ve had to fight to maintain that lately.

I learned from my childhood that a negative attitude brings grief to the whole family. My mom hardly ever had a conversation that was not negative. No matter the day, the situation, meal hour at the table, in the yard, after school, bedtime, my siblings and I had a bad stomach as a result of the stress.  I must say now in her 70’s she is making an effort to change. I understand her more now.

An abusive past that included childhood, adolescence,  periods of public life gave me the foundation to be negative.

Our choices especially wrong, immoral, unthoughtful, unsafe, inconsiderate, selfish choices impacts those around us. Although choices made by people with health and mental illness are not always choices but challenges that affect us and totally a different matter.

I remember; I determined at a young age to be a positive influence however that did not always translate into reality.

Personally I thing good choices have good consequences. Choices I make today affect my body, soul and spirit that affect others. To begin the process of good choices I certainly need a positive attitude, God’s guidance and some good ole common sense. If my choices are good then that is very good.

I know instinctively I have to Focus on the Positive. At 62 the days of daydreaming for a better life is over, I can watch as many romantic, feel good, get rich, Christmas movies I want but my life is what it is. When I thought the worse was over; My heart breaks knowing that someone close to me is suffering cyber bulling, another with marital issues, a dear friend has just been diagnosed with cancer, and far to many of my friends are now dealing with life threatening diseases.  To know that someone I know is homeless.

The goals I have not realized YET now seem insignificant compared to these concerns. Still I must go on, life still happens and the choice is mine to persevere and pursue dreams, loves. I’m  thinkin’ many have experienced accomplishments later in life and in spite of tragedy and difficulty.

Michelangelo sculptured masterfully at eighty-nine. Monet painted his best pictures after he was eighty-five so maybe I should get back to painting. I am still a 60’s Possibility.

It was only the catharsis of writing my book  “Feet First ” and the grace and mercy of God that I’ve moved beyond abuse.

While I have overcome the pain of the past there are hurdles in the ‘here and now’ on a daily basis we all must overcome.

I must at any cost practice positive thinking.

Say Yes here’s another hurdle that I must stop and ask, how shall God and I overcome this thing?

Say thank you for everything.

Say I shall do good today.

You See- when I focus on the positive side it actually help me make more choices to look on the bright side.

I’m naturally a serious person but I do try to relax and shake it off. I want to anticipate a fun future even if I do not have at present a plan for our senior years. I’m still workin’ on that.

There is So much I can get bitter about But then why don’t I have the right to get angry and stay angry? So many arbitrarily choose things to impact and hurt me, why not?

Bitterness the unresolved anger turned inward eventually becomes hate towards all those that have wronged me.

BUT I want to be SWEET not a sourpuss.

What of you? Have you experiences in the past that caused you deep hurts whether it is illness or choices by others?

O God help me see there is positive in this day in spite of a new bump in the road.

How?

Firstly, to get a best perspective on today, Help me to be helpful and maintain a servants caring attitude just like the lowly carpenter.

Secondly, help me to continue to praise you and uplift others.

Thirdly, I wish to be grateful every day.

It’s not hard to believe I get discouraged but every kind word; smile I give to others through my discouragement is like a natural injection of meds.

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a downcast spirit dries the bones. (Prov. 17:22) Yesterday as I was writing this post a dagger of disappointment pierced my soul when a family member gives me more news that breaks the heart and darkens my countenance as a blind.

Then just as quickly I was reminded of  David who said ‘I WILL’ encourage myself in The Lord.

“WE are pressed on every side by troubles, but not crushed and broken. We are perplexed because we don’t know why things happen as they do, but we don’t give up and quit. We are hunted down, but God never abandons us. We get knocked down, but we get up again and keep going.”

I want to be ‘that’ light  ‘that’ sparkle of encouragement for my children  and grandchildren. You may not give credence to scripture but may it be an encouragement to you anyway; it helps me daily.

Philippians 4: 4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Today serendipitously the following example was given to me and I would love to share it.

So often many are like Gideon; at our weakest moment to be found a prisoner of fear and hiding in the most inappropriate place like an awful wine press. I too have been so afraid of losing and living in the dungeon of fear, frustrated, perspiring. But then suddenly an Angel of the Lord appeared and said; The Lord is with you, you mighty man/woman of fearless courage.  Judges 6  

A mighty person of courage while others may see a loser; God sees a winner. Wow. I am so glad the way God sees me…He sees more in us then we see ourselves.

May You and I be Sweet!

Thanks for stopping by.

Beverley

 

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In a world of adversity, division at its extreme, despair and death; I know I need to learn how to bond and work together so I/we can help more people.

I don’t want to just sit around, moan and groan.

I’m sure I can be outspoken yet tender-hearted and insightful or the very least – willing to learn.

  • Personally I absolutely feel we have to continue to SHOW deep love for each other
  • Cheerfully share y/our home with those who need a meal or a place to stay
  • Use the creative, gifting, heart, strengths to impact the world around you

Coach Vince Lombardi on making a winning team. Lombardi said, “There are a lot of coaches with good ball clubs who know the fundamentals and have plenty of discipline but still don’t win the game. Then you come to the third ingredient: if you’re going to play together as a team, you’ve got to care for one another. You’ve got to love each other. Each player has to be thinking about the next guy. You’ve got to do your job well in order that he can do his. The difference between mediocrity and greatness is the feeling these guys have for each other.”

SPORTS, BUSINESS, CHURCH, EDUCATION, CHARITY, GOVERNMENT, CITY, NATION, COUNTRY – every team must care.

Not just to care But Love not just to love But Show Love.

Love is not an abstract idea. Love must be manifested.

True love is not just something you feel – it’s something you demonstrate!

 

  • Marriages have problems when partners don’t show love to one another. A husband and wife may love each other deeply but have a miserable marriage because they don’t know how to show their love for one another.
  • You can’t raise kids properly without showing them love.
  • You can’t have true, lasting, satisfying friendships if your friends can’t tell that you love them.
  • You can’t experience relationships in the community or in your church family without showing and receiving love.

 

Some people find it rather easy to show love. It’s natural as breathing.

Others find it difficult – in fact they feel uncomfortable – simply because of your upbringing.

So HOW do we show love to others.

Treat others just as you want to be treated -The Golden Rule

This is basic.  How do I want to be treated?

 IN no particular order:

  • Listen to me when I talk
  • Show Love to me
  • Forgive me
  • Try Understanding me
  • Give me a Second chance
  • Respect me
  • Think about me
  • Be in the moment/ engaging
  • Relax with me
  • Meet some of my needs
  • Be patient with me
  • Be kind to me
  • Be Faithful to me
  • Do right by me
  • Remember with me
  • Include me in Making memories
  • Honor me
  • Be genuine with me
  • Appreciate me

Oh Dear

Sounds needy

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.

It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Wow

But in reality we are all fragile, delicate, sensitive and utterly in need of love.

Thanks for stopping by……Beverley

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“Once Upon A Time” or Maybe I could call it “The Princess Lessons”

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Once upon a time there was a young princess who lived in a beautiful castle.
Living in luxury; nice clothes, tasty food, fun toys, playmates and family.

Over time she grew bored and tired of where and what she lived in.

She lost a Contentment in her surroundings.

Unknowingly She looked at her world with regret.

One day as she was strolling around the castle grounds she became more discontented. Envy crept into her heart also.

She made her way to her high tower.

Standing at the highest point in the tower of her castle looked across the land.

To her surprise, she saw a magnificent castle that emanated a golden glow. She saw a land pristine and green. In her heart rose an angry jealousy. She demanded THAT castle.

Hurriedly the princess demanded her servants to prepare for their journey. Exhausted from days of travelling; she finally arrived at her destination.

Clearly upset she said, this cannot be the castle. Looking throughout the castle, she slowly felt that THIS castle was not elaborate as she thought.

She quickly went to the tower to get a better view. Suddenly she began to scream; I KNEW we did not arrive at the correct castle. See there it is, over there. That golden glow is stupendous. But my lady, said a servant, that is YOUR castle.
It IS, she said sheepishly.

The journey back to her castle was a humbling experience. During the rigorous journey towards home, the princess had many reflective moments.

Everything that looks like gold isn’t Gold. It was the glow and reflection of the sun that made the other castle look like gold.
Finally, she arrived home, After Such a rigorous but pondering journey.

A hot bath relaxed her tired bones. A glass of cool water quenched her thirst and warm meal satisfied her hunger.

Slowly looking at her familiar surroundings, she realized the grass truly isn’t greener on the other side.

Feeling refreshed, she ran towards her father’s outstretched arms. She said, “Home”

It’s up to you how you end the story…

 

What are some reflective moments:
• Appreciate what you have and not desire what belongs to someone else. Do not touch what does not belong to you.
• Sometimes what you see is often obscured by the vantage point; present circumstances.
• When we allow our heart to look elsewhere, there will be disappointment.
• Don’t run/ travel to temptation; run away.
• Don’t exhaust yourself looking in other directions for something or someone better.
• Selfishness caused her to forget all lovely people in her life.
• Be grateful for the people in your life and stop with the regrets and what if’s. Humbling moments aren’t deadly but can be enriching.
• Don’t be fooled. Temptation usually comes through the door that has been deliberately left open.
• Own up; resist the things that do not have the Creator and angels approval. But if you make a mistake, simply confess immediately.
• Learn to appreciate what you have; wealth is all in one’s point of view.
• What lens do you use to see life?
• Sometimes you’re blessed and don’t even know.

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Childhood lessons also reflect adult lessons.

Little Discipline and lack of restraints can often affect your future.

I think it is very unfortunate that our culture places such a high premium on the things of this world. What the “eye” see and desires, the hand is all too ready to take. This society is more accepting of immorality, pornography, greed, strife, hate, unkindness, intolerance, crime and revenge.

Learn to think of your problems positively for example your relationships. People who cannot look at their own relationship problems/conditions positively go on to make dumb mistakes/choices.

Truly know in your heart what is right and wrong. Learn to have self control.

Who are the monsters in the story; yeah, they are sneaky like ninja’s that come out of the shadows:
Self-centeredness
Ungratefulness
Wrong thinking
Anger
Lust of the eyes
Envy
Jealousy
Pride
Fear
Over familiarity
Negativity
Immorality

If we allow it, WE can become monsterous.

But God made you beautiful and glorious, so pull up your boot straps live your best life and make me proud.
Be courageous you have it in you.
Be positive it gets easier with practice.
Be committed to God, family, to yourself.
See the good in you- you’re more than An angel
Be forgiving
Be gracious
Love others, even When they don’t meet your expectation.
Do what is right

Stay beautiful God made you after His image.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

 

I hope you are having a great day and being blessed and blessing others.

Thanks for reading my blog!

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In my opinion;
Some of the most popular literature in the world is found in the book of Psalms; the songbook of Israel which most were set to music.

I am only one of millions who love Psalm 23,The Lord is my Shepherd, Psalm 90, the oldest Psalm, written by Moses, Psalm 46, a favorite read at funerals, God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Post adultery Psalm 51.

Have you ever had trouble- trying to silence a guilty conscience?

Guilt in the back of our minds can drive us nuts.

Many people try all sorts of ways to deal with the terrible feelings of guilt and the low self-esteem that inevitably comes after they’ve messed up.

Some people try to Deny it or make excuses or they try to ignore it

OR you can Deaden your guilt, by eating, drinking, inhaling, or injecting something to make the pain go away.

Sometimes people try to compensate by doing something good -Guilt is a powerful motivator.

It’s not unusual for people to goof up and be stupid or be unwise or get loss in the moment and make a mistake or get lazy let down their guard and commit a sin.

When we do something wrong, you or I can try to cover it up or fess up.

Because I have friends who have suffered the after effects of adultery I often think of the story of King David and his adultery with Bathsheba.

David wrote Psalm 51 after his sin of adultery right after being found out his attempt to cover up didn’t work.

So here’s the true story: David is lazing around in the palace when he should have been at work with his armies [fighting the Ammonites] with too much time on his hands and happens to see a woman taking a bath, and instantly lust takes hold, and he tells his servant, bring her to me. Bathsheba of course, being the wife of Uriah One of the highest ranking men who helped him win many victories…

And wouldn’t you know that after this little affair Bathsheba gets pregnant and the great cover up begins. He brings Uriah home from the war, and try’s several times to get him to sleep with Bathsheba, but being an honorable soldier – he won’t.

Since that didn’t work David put Uriah in front of a battle to get him killed – The plan works, Uriah dies.

David immediately marries Bathsheba.

I wonder, did David have a guilty conscience? I believe the creator was displeased with David’s actions.

I often wonder what 8 months of Bathsheba’s pregnancy were like. Was she suspicious of David, what were his thoughts.

I think he was gonna try to deal with it by not dealing with it.

Ignore it.

But creator God is not gonna let him forget it.

Enter; God’s prophet Nathan came to confront him.

 

What has history told us what David said; “I have sinned against the Lord!”

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Even if you aren’t a Bible believing person Psalm 51- a psalm of David is amazing.

Psalm 51

1  Have mercy on me, O God,
    according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
    blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
    and cleanse me from my sin.

For I know my transgressions,
    and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
    and done what is evil in your sight;
so you are right in your verdict
    and justified when you judge.
Surely I was sinful at birth,
    sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb;
    you taught me wisdom in that secret place.

Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
    wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Let me hear joy and gladness;
    let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
Hide your face from my sins
    and blot out all my iniquity.
10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
    and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
    or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
    and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me

 

I guess what I am saying is that the Only way to deal with a guilty conscience – ADMIT.

 

We are responsible for our own lives and It does no good to blame other people, or blame my circumstances.

Edgar Allen Poe’s story, “The Telltale Heart”?

In that story, the main character has committed murder and he buries the body under floorboards in his house. But the murderer can’t escape the guilt of his deed.

He begins to hear the heartbeat of his dead victim. A cold sweat pours over him as that heartbeat goes on and on, relentlessly, getting louder and louder.

Finally the noise in his head is driving him crazy, he can’t take it anymore, he’s sure everyone else must hear it too, and they’re just taunting him by ignoring, it, just playing with him. And so finally in a fit of desperation, he confesses everything and shows policemen the body.

I would be stupid to think that our/my actions doesn’t hurt others. For me personally because of my commitment I have to make it right with the creator before I can make it right with my family or neighbor.

Guilt is good if we allow it to guide us to better decisions.

Dr. Brand who spent much of his life in India working with leprosy patients made a major discovery – Because of the lack of pain they were constantly injuring themselves which would result in amputation.

Guilt is just as important to our lives as pain and it is a warning sign that helps us know that something needs to change.

There are bad choices, mistakes, neglects that are not sins, but may require forgiveness.  But there are things I choose to believe are sin. We are caught in a web -in a mess, sin, stupidity – we need mercy and grace – well I do.

Mercy to escape the bad, and grace to be given the goodness of forgiveness and freedom to go forward.

Forgiveness does not come cheaply neither physically, emotionally nor spiritually. (Someone pays)

For the psalmist David he understood this –  in his day they dipped hyssop in the blood of sacrificed animals and applied to the altar or doorposts over the house.

As I follow the teachings of Christ – it is inherent in his teachings that if we ( I ) sin it is paid by his shed blood. My relationship with my creator allows a Higher accountability for my thoughts, words and actions.

In the case of adultery blood spills because the lifeblood of the relationship dies.

Rarely, it is recovered through forgiveness.

It’s that powerful force of love That gives us forgiveness, mercy and grace.

The psalmist said Create in me a pure heart, O God, renew a steadfast spirit within me. Restore unto me the joy. We all need strength and power to keep us on tract and stay away from that which caused us guilt in the first place.

What’s the use of guilt alone – but “I’m sorry” “I repent” and I want to make a change is necessary.

A change of heart.
A change of mind.
and A change of direction.

Such contrition removes guilt AND joy replaces inner anguish.

Truly each of us is in charge of our lives and choices and we are often challenged by them.

However, it is important to note that whatever we do there are ripple effects.

Don’t get me wrong; we will make mistakes, but whatever happens in your life – Admit and Go Forward.

I know it’s been a serious tone tonight on my blog, but do come back.

Stay Kind Hearted!
Stay Safe!

 

Thanks for reading my blog.

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Words

Encouragement means: “to add courage to”.

I’ll go out on a limb and say that A person who gives words of encouragement is helping another person become bolder and braver and blessed.

By giving encouragement I believe you are adding courage to that person- helping a person stand firmer and go farther.  Often give them meaning in their life.

I remember [many years ago as a youth] my friend and I would run races; she usually came in first and I usually the last. Believe me It doesn’t matter if you are coming in first place or last place – if people are there cheering you on – it gives you the added boost to finish the race.

A wise saying: Encourage each other daily, while it is still called today and keep each other on your toes.

You CAN encourage one another with your WORDS.

This is probably the most common way that we encourage one another – we tell people how much we appreciate them.

A word spoken at the right time is like golden apples on a silver tray.

or better yet

The right word at the right time is like a custom-made piece of jewelry.

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The right word is music to my ears. 😀

But of course; Even when we don’t really mean to, we say dumb things and foul things up. Even when we have high hopes and honorable intentions – words sometimes get all backwards and twisted around.

But please don’t give up trying to encourage.

For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body.

Just think about all the things you said or wanted to say and the effect it did or would have if you would only encourage.

  • The effect the words of a parent have on a child.
  • The effect the husband’s words have on a wife and vice versa.
  • The impact the boss’s words have on an employee.
  • Words said in love to a family member or stranger.
  • Words said in anger.
  • The last words on a death bed.
  • Words help shape y/our lives – just as we have shaped the lives of others.
  • Words that impact a child with self esteem.

 The right word at the right time is like a Priceless Piece of Jewellery.

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The truth so help me God.

Surreal God moment that I did not orchestrate.
It was a compulsion to write, yes it was cathartic and yes it changed my life forever.

I don’t do something of this magnitude (writing my life story exposing secrets of my heart) in a rash way.
I thought, prayed, weighed it time and again. But there was a moment of no return; Through tears and sobs and soul’s agony as the words began to pour out.

60 days to write and 10 years in draft format then to the publisher. All our life savings and what seem to be a thousand conversations, legalities, explanations, edits and approvals.

I remember the day my husband and i went to the publisher – my hubby waited in the car as I went inside. It was like a spiritual walk. I was taken to the conference room and actually feeling a little anxious. The lady in charge of my book entered the room and after a few formalities gave me the first copy. Holding it close meant I was holding my whole life and others close to my heart. I have to admit it was a huge surreal moment.

The copy of the book was a result of a type of birth that should not be trifled with but looked at, touched, felt and cherished, examined, loved even, but then again that’s an author’s viewpoint.

At first I thought family and friends supported ME and FEET FIRST.
It was false. Many lacked courage to read it. Many felt by reading somehow betrayed my mother.

Yes I faced disappointment.
The question was asked of me: “why you? Why did you have to write it, there are thousands of books written about abuse?”

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Truth doesn’t always give the response you expect.
Truth doesn’t mean you don’t love.
In fact courage to speak truth for me was the greatest love.

I found that in speaking truth brought an array of disappointments.

Some read the book in critical condescending ways with a criticism to find ways to destroy my credibility. Others got bits and pieces from the book via another’s negative opinion thereby tarnishing what would have been something special for them.

I have tried to overlook that part of the disappointment for many reasons.

Then there were numerous people via the Internet, amazon, book signings came a multitude of comments, emails, thank you’s and calls. Simply an unexpected humbling experience.

Do I give up because some would not support my efforts?
No!
I am in the draft process of the manual that would accompany Feet First.

It has been mind-boggling when I think of the people who have contributed to the manual.

I am humbled AND honored by the path to each one of them.

I know I may not have a ‘come over for tea on Saturday and we’ll chat’ type relationship but my life has been enriched by them, their values, blogs, books, heart.

I took 9 months off; a type of sabbatical from the manual because I felt physically drained but I’m ready to get cracking again toward its completion.

I pray someday that all of my family would have the courage to read my book Feet First.

I do hope many more will  read Feet First on sale at amazon or available from our office. It’s okay you can love it or hate it; your choice.

If you are willing to do a review I will give you a complimentary hard copy or Ebook format.

Here are three ways to purchase Feet First from Amazon:
Amazon UK

Amazon .COM

Amazon.CA
Or by email at:  feetfirstbook@gmail.com

It’s silly to say I wrote a book for no one to read it. I want people to read it and be blessed or the very least, a book to read.

Childhood abuse can cast a long shadow over your life influencing your emotional state, psychological state, physical state, health and how you relate to others. I believe I learned that while writing the book as the author of my life story and so much more as I am writing this second book.

I guess that gives clarity of why I wrote Feet First. I would like to lighten the shadow on the lives of my siblings, my family, my friends, my world. To personally make a positive impact on anyone that would allow my words to enter their world. To expose abuse for what it is and be willing to warn, to educate.

Patty Rase Hopson said that Abuse changes your life…Fight Back and change the life of your abusers by Breaking Your Silence on Abuse!

I believe this initial step puts the control of your life back into your hands and a necessary step toward healing and recovery.  I also sincerely believe it will help thousands in peril at this very moment.

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For not only does sound reason direct us to refuse the guidance of those who do or teach anything wrong, but it is by all means vital for the lover of truth, regardless of the threat of death, to choose to do and say what is right even before saving his own life. A.W. Tozer

Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now – always.   Albert Schweitzer

Even in literature and art, no man who bothers about originality will ever be original: whereas if you simply try to tell the truth (without caring twopence how often it has been told before) you will, nine times out of ten, become original without ever having noticed it.”
― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

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Y is for Yogurt and Yield!

Yogurt or yoghurt or yoghourt; is a dairy product (nut milks, such as almond milk, and coconut milk can also be used) produced by bacterial fermentation of milk. The bacteria used to make yogurt are known as “yogurt cultures”. Fermentation of lactose by these bacteria produces lactic acid, which acts on milk protein to give yogurt its texture and its characteristic tang.[Wikpedia.]

Yogurt is nutritionally rich in protein, calcium, riboflavin, vitamin B6 and vitamin B12. It has nutritional benefits beyond those of milk. Lactose-intolerant individuals can sometimes tolerate yogurt better than other dairy products.

To offset its natural sourness, yogurt is also sold sweetened, flavoured or in containers with fruit or fruit jam on the bottom.

Nondairy yogurts -Since at least 1977 yogurt has been made from soymilk.

Yogurt is pretty much enjoyed all over the world.

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I love yogurt with fruit/granola or wheat germ. More and more my family enjoys Greek yogurt or yogurt made from goat’s milk.

In today’s society of nutritional awareness Yogurt does not yield to sugar.

Yield – one amazing often troublesome word.

Yield  may refer to [so says Wikipedia]:

Physics/chemistry

Earth science

Finance

Other uses

BUT what does Yield really mean:

  • to give or render as fitting, rightfully owed, or required
  • to give up possession of on claim or demand
  • to surrender or relinquish
  • to surrender or submit (oneself) to another
  • to give (oneself) up to a temptation or habit
  • to relinquish one’s possession of (as a position of advantage or point of superiority)
  • to be fruitful or productive
  • to give up and cease resistance or contention -submit
  • give way to pressure, persuasion
  • to give way under physical force (as bending, stretching, or breaking)
  • to give place or precedence or acknowledge the superiority of someone else
  • to give way to or become succeeded by someone or something else

In this self-usurping/self-sufficient/don’t tell-me-what-to-do society; Yield is a very difficult word!  Don’t go off the cuff let’s slow down just for a few moments. Yield is not necessarily a bad thing.  Yes I agree in some rare cases it is.

In its place there is nothing wrong with a surrender or submit (oneself) to another:

In New Brunswick I came to a covered, one lane bridge with a yield sign on both end. Yes yield signs had been placed at both ends of the bridge. Drivers from both directions were requested to give right of way. It was a reasonable and gracious way of preventing a head-on collision.


I personally try my best to follow the commands of the Bible one of which is to “be subject to one another”- it is simply a reasonable and gracious command to let the other have the right of way and avoid interpersonal head-on collisions.

In the summer of 1986, two ships collided in the Black Sea off the coast of Russia. Hundreds of passengers died as they were hurled into the icy waters below. News of the disaster was further darkened when an investigation revealed the cause of the accident. It wasn’t a technology problem like radar malfunction–or even thick fog. The cause was human stubbornness. Each captain was aware of the other ship’s presence nearby. Both could have steered clear, but according to news reports, neither captain wanted to give way to the other. Each was too proud to yield first. By the time they came to their senses, it was too late.

The word ‘Yield’ is also obedience to what is right. Here is a funny; hilarious story.

Neil Marten, a member of the British Parliament, was once giving a group of his constituents a guided tour of the Houses of Parliament. During the course of the visit, the group happened to meet Lord Hailsham, then lord chancellor, wearing all the regalia of his office. Hailsham recognized Marten among the group and cried, “Neil!” Not daring to question or disobey the “command,” the entire band of visitors promptly fell to their knees!  You get it NEIL not KNEEL.


Back to the thought of submitting/surrender or acknowledge someone of superiority.

When I say I follow God and the principles of Jesus Christ it does not absolve me of my responsibilities in life nor the consequences of my decisions or lack thereof. There are so many variables and uncertainties in life we need the power of heaven to guide us.  To follow an example of perfection always helps and guides and produces growth.


Open to learn and change.

Be open to learning and change no matter where the advice comes from. Simply this; when we are criticized we ought to ask ourselves is there any truth to the criticism. If it does, we should learn from it, even when it’s not in the right motivation or right spirit. IF you acted wrongly; admit and go on with a new vigor to change.

yield


Surrender your walk, journey, lessons, reputation to please the creator and bring honor to yourself and your community and family.


There are some things we should never allow to dictate how we should live our lives and succeed.

CRADLES OF EMINENCE

In a famous study by Victor and Mildred Goertzel, entitled Cradles of Eminence, the home backgrounds of 300 highly successful people were investigated. These 300 subjects had made it to the top. They were men and women whose names everyone would recognize as brilliant in their fields, such as Franklin D. Roosevelt, Helen Keller, Winston Churchill, Albert Schweitzer, Clara Barton, Gandhi, Einstein, and Freud. The intensive investigation into their early home lives yielded some surprising findings:

* Three fourths of the children were troubled either by poverty, by a broken home, or by rejecting, over possessive, or dominating parents.

* Seventy-four of 85 writers of fiction or drama and 16 of the 20 poets came from homes where, as children, they saw tense psychological drama played out by their parents.

* Physical handicaps such as blindness, deafness, or crippled limbs characterized over one-fourth of the sample.

And yet from such poor circumstances, God was able to bring success.

SOURCE: Cradles of Eminence by Victor and Mildred Goertzel. Little Brown & Company, June 1962

There are some things we never yield to. There are some pressures we never bow to. To give way to dysfunctional pressure, abuse, violence, demeaning behaviour where we find ourselves lost and undone.  WE can learn to be fearless in the face of fear, abuse and dysfunction.

The flip side to this is when a family is free of abuse and oppression, it can be the place of joyful learning where we share our deepest secrets. Where we are willing to sacrifice to give without losing who we are as individuals but making the family unit beautiful and loved.

I love what J. Dobson says. “By learning to yield to the loving authority…of his/her parents, a child learns to submit to other forms of authority which will confront him later in his life, his teachers, school principal, police, neighbors and employers.”

Gandhi said that all compromise is based on give and take, but there can be no give and take on fundamentals. Any compromise on mere fundamentals is a surrender. For it is all give and no take.

“Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”  Winston Churchill

Tozer speaks of faith. A surrender that does not demean or loss but enhances.  Faith, as Paul saw it, was a living, flaming thing leading to surrender and obedience to the commandments of Christ.

True Godly surrender and worship is more than singing and praising God. Worship involves us doing, not just singing. It involves us caring for others, and meeting the needs of others. If we truly worship God, we will be involved in the activities of kindness, compassion and love selflessly. What God can do with a life who loves and lives in humility. Nothing but amazing.

Rick Warren said that The heart (core) of worship is an attitude of complete surrender to God, which is an unnatural concept in light of today’s competitive culture. But it is the natural response of the Christian into God’s love and mercy.

“God is a Lover and a Liberator, and surrendering to Him brings freedom, not bondage. When we completely surrender ourselves to Jesus, we discover that He is not a tyrant, but a Savior; not a boss, but a Brother; not a dictator, but a Friend.” (pg. 79) Purpose Driven LIfe.

I know there is a certain amount of faith and trust required to trust God to be a major source of living life on this beautiful planet.

For me God is amazing and God’s love is amazing and God helps me be a better me.

The ‘yield’ is more than progeny but the yield of our life. If our yield is great we leave some wonderful memories behind.

May you be blessed this week with wonderful experiences.

Thanks for reading my bLoG!

broadbordered beehawk moth estherPhoto by Esther Hull-Saunders

Day Two of my 30 Days of Thankfulness Challenge.  

I am thankful for my firstborn, #1 son. I prayed for a son and God gave us the best possible son. WE knew within our hearts we would have a loving and respectful son. Sure, that he is!

#1 Son is an Intellectual, athletic, law abiding, integral son; A father of great value. What more could a mother and father and society wish for.

#1 Son Loves golf and basketball and volleyball. He can master anything he touches whether music, sports, theology, sciences, writing, speaking etc.  He excels in playing the drums, guitar and singing.

He loves star trek and all things sci-fi.

I actually want to laugh out loud here. I too love Star Trek! Do You?

He is a teacher in a high school and students tell me all the  time how much they like him. He is a smashing great teacher who has respect and compassion for all students and co-workers.

Thus far he’s not ashamed of his mother so that’s a big bonus.

I leave you with two pertinent quotes:

The foundation stones for a balanced success are honesty, character, integrity, faith, love and loyalty. Zig Ziglar

Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children. ~ Charles (Chuck) Swindoll

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Clothe Yourself With Kindness

Personally; I believe we are to be kind and compassionate to one another!

Just for one moment how do you truly want people to treat you? Simple! Treat others the way you’d like to be treated.

The win-win game or strategy is designed to benefit all participants.
So according to Beverley [ that’s me 😀 ] it’s like a man or woman or child who is kind to others – but in reality it benefits oneself.  That’s a true win-win. Kindness brings harmony.

Children instinctively know how to be gentle, kind and loving. These two children showing affection without being prompted to do so.

 


Here is a song entitled “kindness” that says it all.

Kindness by Deana Hoyles

You can go to the site to take a listen –  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oaIhxy-J7vk

 
Verse 1:
  
How can I
be a light
in the Darkest night?
To touch your heart
and break apart the fear.
And speak words that heal
Instead of words that steal.
Can you hear the cries
of the young eyes?
 
 
Chorus:
 
They’re saying:
Kindness is what we need
Kindness is what we need,
Is what I believe.
Your Kindness
Will bring us, peace.
 
 
Verse 2:
 
What will it take
to undo our mistakes?
To awake and erase
their heartache.
And when will we see
We need to believe
in humanity?
Can you hear the cries
of the young eyes?
 
 
 


Quotes on Kindness:
 

Philip Keller -“KINDNESS involves finding ways to “brighten and cheer” the lives of others”.

Stephen Winward – “Kindness includes sympathy, generosity and benevolence.”

Webster defines kindness as- “Of a sympathetic, forbearing, gentle, pleasant nature.”

The KJ translators translate it –  “gentleness.”

Dr. Paul – “Be kind, to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another…..”

When you show kindness to a stranger, they are surprised. Why? Because in today’s society it is no longer a normal behavior. However I am hopeful that we will see kindness on a more regular basis.

I remember a humorous story I read somewhere [I do not recall where] quite a few months ago..

The Confused Samaritan
A man was beaten up by robbers on a road to London. He lay there, half dead and in bad shape. A Vicar came along, saw him and passed by on the other side. Next, a monk came by but also walked quickly on the other side. Finally, a social worker came along, looked at the man and said “Whoever did this needs help!”


Pay it Forward

How can you pay it forward; rephrased; How can you express Kindness?

1000’s of little ways- one act at a time- really it is – however in all  honesty it is going to cost us something in every little way by our time, our convenience, our labor, our strength, our money, our way.

Very few of us can do great things but we all can do numerous small things with great love.

It most certainly should be a purpose behind your acts of kindness.  Why are you doing random acts of kindness? I’m doing this because God has shown His kindness to me and in my lifetime people has shown kindnesses to me. When people have shown me acts of kindness it encouraged/hurried me on my life’s journey.


More inspirational Quotes

What do the greats have to say about kindness?

“For Attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.”  Sam Levenson

Kind hearts are the gardens,
Kind thoughts are the roots,
Kind words are the flowers,
Kind deeds are the fruits,
Take care of your garden
And keep out the weeds,
Fill it with sunshine
Kind words and kind deeds.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


How to teach your kids kindness
:

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.” – Plato

  1. Show them in your own actions; kinda like a model.

  2. Show kindness toward your own kids-Reward your children who show kindness and love acts

  3. Read books on kindness

  4. Pay it forward- join charity groups, benefit events

  5. Show your child how to be a true friend

  6. Speak words that uplift and encourage; negativity is not an option.

  7. Have fun, fun, fun.


Animals Show Kindness

In a Pinch – a story from kids national geographic

The African savanna elephant must have been surprised. He was grazing alone in a swamp, in Kenya’s Masai Mara National Reserve, when a stranger arrived. The stranger was a forest elephant. Forest elephants are smaller and have more rounded ears than savanna elephants do. And they usually stay in the forest.

But this fellow had caught his trunk in a trap. While freeing himself, he’d torn off the tip. “Once the pain stopped, he’d be able to feed on his own,” says wildlife biologist Kayhan Ostovar of Billings, Montana. Until then, he’d need help.

As if to explain, “the injured elephant walked up and stuck his trunk into the healthy elephant’s mouth,” says Ostovar, who witnessed the encounter between the two elephants. And that’s all it took. Elephants often aid members of their herd. But this savanna elephant didn’t care that they weren’t related. He reached down, uprooted a small acacia tree, and stuffed it into his new friend’s mouth.

To see more stories check out  http://kids.nationalgeographic.com


Our Pets/Animals show kindness to our children:


Continue to Show kindness to nature:

Kindness in Marriage

If love is kind and God is love, then God is kind!! Maybe we should allow our hearts to be open to kindness.

Kindness is rare in society and in marriages.  I wonder is that one reason for so many failed marriages.

Admittedly it is easier to be mean and hard and angry when someone does not show love, but the way to overcome [in many cases] is with a reaction of kindness!

I really can’t speak for someone else but for me marriage has to be a priority even over career and activities in this world.

I read a story of a man who committed adultery and wanted to save his marriage. Here is an excerpt.

“At a loss for what to do I sought the advice of another Christian brother. John had committed adultery on his wife several years earlier, and his marriage had made it. When I asked John how long it took his wife to heal from his betrayal, John’s response was short and to the point: “Years.”

My mouth dropped. “Years ???” I said in disbelief. “Years ??? I thought surely you were going to say a few weeks or maybe even months… but… years??!!

“Yes, years” John repeated firmly. “The old marriage you had is dead and you have to build a new one. This is going to take a lot of time and effort on your part; you’ve got to kill her with kindness and win her all over again.”

This story is found at:    http://www.urbanministry.org/bg/brokenmarriage


Final Comments:

Yes People will forget what you said [verbatim] and they may forget what you did for them or the gifts you gave; But people will never forget how you made them feel about themselves and life. Just me thinking….:D

Before I shove off I want to ask a question.

How do you speak to yourself?  Would you speak to others the way you speak to your own thoughts?

Do you criticize, put down or thrash yourself?

  • Give yourself a break.  Be kind to yourself!

  • Start cheering yourself forward.

  • Speak kindly to yourself.

  • Don’t  force yourself to impossible standards.

  • Stop with the harsh judging.

  • Stop comparing yourself to others.

You are Beautiful…Just be your best self…

Who shall separate us from the love of God.  Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?

Nothing…..


Endnote:

I usually try to have my blog ready a month in advance of publishing  just in case something comes up and save myself that last minute panic.

I had this blog `Kindness` ready before I started my pilgrimage of sorts followed by a two day vacation.  I have to admit I relearned some things and had many great reminders along the way.

One of which was actually [ put your money where your mouth is ]….I came face to face with my opening statement. Just for one moment how do you truly want people to treat you? Simple!  Treat others the way you’d like to be treated.

My husband and I knew we had to do some physical maintenance underneath our cottage. It was going to be slow and difficult especially in this July heat. A job that required two people to complete and I would be of little use to the situation. Before we even had a chance to think of how to proceed a relative called. He was upset, actually more of a panic and fed up with life. A thirty something  in the throes of life, on the street, no job,no food, no money. He needed a little money. It is so easy to judge and say your old enough, get a grip, get a job, settle down.  He has had so many misfortunes, made so many bad choices and did not have a very good start in life tainted with drugs, neglect and the center of a custody battle. To say the least – he was looking for love ever since that horrible day.

My husband  and I decided to get him to come to the cottage with us.  He could help with repairs , three square meals, a couple of snacks and we would pay him a decent wage for two or three days. Now we don`t have money but if we didn`t sacrifice for this young man who would.

I had this brilliant plan that if we gave him a bit of money in exchange for his time and labor it would help with food and basic necessities for a few days.  That is so true of many people when giving to anyone in need- give them food, shelter that`s enough. For some that is all they can manage and that’s okay. It was a good thing but as we began to talk to him and get up close you see some larger problems. Teeth rotting, one tooth cracked off and causing him great pain.  Eye Glasses held together with wire. Very little undergarments.  His driver’s license will be run out in four days. So do you still want to be kind and generous.

It always cost us something to love and to be kind. It is often painful to step outside of our comfort zone.  Even if our comfort zone is a mere pittance it gradually becomes a place of comfort.  Are we willing after that to help someone in need.  Do we ignore it and pretend the need does not exist.

Generosity without cost I guess isn’t generosity.

Well what happened?  I’m glad you asked.

Gave him a generous wage for 2 days work and encouraged him to renew his drivers license and see if there were any outstanding fines. Of course there were. A $100 renewal became $239.  On his return I gave him the $230 back..he still has the original amount we gave for his labor.  The delight and excitement in his eyes was priceless.

Someone gave a hoot!

Appointment booked for the extraction of tooth number one.

Now let’s see if we can find some financial support to get him through a 16 week trucker’s course.  Helping a person regain their dignity is worth any price.

A most unusual thing happened a few hours later.  We had a problem with our old jalopy.  My hubby brought it to a friend’s garage.  After 2 or 3 hours of electrical work the problem was fixed.
How much do I owe? Said hubby
Nothing sir, my treat!
What would it have cost? I’m glad you asked.
$ 239…

You cannot outdo kindness and generosity.

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I am diverging a little, well a lot, to what I normally write on this blog. My goal is to have a positive and inspirational blog. I hope to have guest bloggers in the near future and highlight inspirational stories. I love the story telling skills of other authors and artists. There is so much negative in the world it is nice to have a positive place.  I try to write things that will allow people to know they are loved, uplifted and encouraged..

Today I will take a moment to mention sexual abuse.  A nasty topic but sadly a reality. With education and action maybe we can abolish this in our lifetime.

What I have to say today can apply to any problem you or I may have. This is not meant to be an in depth study and certainly will not provide all the answers and most likely cause more questions.  But that’s okay as well.

The horror and trauma of sexual abuse is that no matter how severe the physical pain, the mental torment is even worse.

This is a tribute to all Victims of all forms of abuse

in the beginning

God created you

no matter where conceived

you are beautiful…

God created you perfect

but the bloody abuser

tried to ruin you

I believe you are beautiful…

blood mixed in night sweats

self harm of depression

broken wounds linger near

I feel you are beautiful…

deep calleth unto deep

the pain the dark

the misery

I perceive you are beautiful…

confused internal pain

I want to dry your tears

bring you back from despair

I trust you are beautiful…

on behalf of those

who committed heinous actions

I apologize

for all wounds inflicted

punishment within

I validate you as a human being

I know you are beautiful…

in your suffering from abuse

it was wrong and without excuse

if I could turn back time and space

I would go back and prevent

the hurt caused or any

feelings of dimishment  of your

humanity and manhood

for I am sure you are beautiful….

I would exchange hopelessness for hope

nightmares for dreams

fears for courageous love

sense of loss for peace

please know you are not less

then perfect

yes you are beautiful….

you are not alone

you will know you are complete

and whole

someday the glorious

martyr’s crown

but for now,

remain inside the hug

remember you ARE beautiful…©

by beverley hoyles -06 12 –


I
have met far too many people who still suffer from abuse.

From her voice – “The actual pain of the sexual abuse ended when I was eleven; but I still feel an inner pain and distress at 76.”

The trauma of sexual molestation is so horrific and distorts our self-image. Sadly the horrific acts replay like a sadistic recorder over and over. Anxiety, guilt and shame and depletion of energy making you sick. Physical Sickness, depression, self harm and so much more is a recurrent among sexual abuse victims.

Does this sound like little hope? No, Healing is available.

I hope you will continue to read…

In order to reach the level of growth and healing and life you need to not only know but acknowledge the reality of the mess the abuser caused you to be in.  A mess of pain, depression and for some near death. Healing begins when the secret is disclosed and the chains and shackles of silence and inward pain are broken.

I know the hurt has many layers like an onion and  can make you cry – deep calleth unto deep.  I also realize each of us have different coping skills but we don’t have to settle just with coping alone.

I am a believer that there can be an exchange; in reality a miracle. I Know this sounds bizarre to so many. I assure you I am not a weirdo just someone who truly believes in God’s willingness and power to help us.  I also believe Creator God will make a way where the impossible grins at you and where there seems to be absolutely NO Way..

I have experienced this myself.  It is real. I believe in the power of God and God’s word the Bible and that there are keys of passages of scripture that can give us a roadmap/guidance out of the hurt, anger, fear, depression and confusion. I have seen instant miracles but for most its a long journey but God accompanies you every step of the way.

It is possible you will also need professional help; there are some great counselors willing to help you. 

Don’t feel you are alone because I am travelling with you and so is God.

Probably you may have thought God was also the abuser and cannot be trusted. After all, is He not the one who saw what was going on and did nothing about it?  Even though the church has failed us in many aspects there are still many who are compassionate and willing to help us.

Jesus knows what it means to suffer for others’ wrongdoing. It doesn’t seem fair that someone should hurt you so deeply and then leave you wounded by the road as he goes on his merry way through life with no signs of guilt or remorse, no desire to make things right or compensate in some way for your loss of innocence. The abuser did the abuse and sinning, but you have done the suffering.

So when you come to God with the anguish of abuse and your sense of separation from the world and relationships, the creator God  understands.  Draw near, knowing that the caring God is “touched with the feeling of [your] infirmities” -This has calmed me many times…

  • God feels what you feel and is touched by your sense of hopelessness. 

  • God is profoundly impacted by your hurt.

  • God is profoundly impacted by your confusion and depression or whatever you have right now in your life.

  • God mourns with you.

  • God has compassion. You can talk openly and honestly with God.

  • God is angry over the crimes committed against you.

  • God is near the broken hearted. Take heart and take faith.

If you think you do not have faith and desire to have faith; ask God for faith first!

There can be a unique spiritual exchange at Calvary. Jesus takes all your humiliation, pain, emotional turmoil, hatred, failure, in exchange you receive perfection and honor and holiness and life. I firmly believe that on this journey at the place where we would be willing to pass to Jesus all this humiliation; we can receive peace and healing.

Regardless your believe system;I do respect differences; I have found Jesus to be honest, loving and of a great example.

God says; I have loved you with an everlasting love and I will build you up at the pace you are able to handle.  Don’t feel you are alone. God cares about you. How God wants to show you great love.

There are people who do not believe in God nor the power of Jesus blood; For that I am very sad.

Your past may always be a heavy load, but you can lighten that heavy load of baggage by shifting your focus from what happened to you back then to what God is doing or can do in you right now. Abuse is not good, but growing into God’s likeness is good. It is very, very good. 

You are not suddenly gonna lose your memory but the sting will eventually go away.

The next step is to rebuild your self-esteem.

It may sound unbelievable but I can assure you; You can become strong.  Surround yourself with people who believe in you, who value you. You will know they are true friends when they cause you to be better, encouraged and uplifted.

People who have suffered abuse feel completely powerless. Gain new strength and confidence by facing your fears one at a time.

Baby steps. Let God be a part of your healing process.

I firmly believe you will find yourself on the road of forgiveness to thriving…

When God looks at you – God does not see “contaminated or damaged goods.”

God sees a person of value and worth.

You are beautiful.

Allow God’s love to flow into every wound, over your pain and sweeten every thought.

Victims of Self Abuse/harm have to deal with a whole gamut of healing in relation to their present relationships but it is possible.

These are most comforting words for me:

You are the everlasting God

The everlasting God

You do not faint,

You won’t grow weary

You’re the defender of

The Weak

You comfort Those in Need

You lift us up on

Wings like Eagles

What has been stolen from you God wants to restore…..Allow Him to create new thoughts, emotions, feelings, patterns.

God is not against you BUT FOR YOU!  

God loves you with an everlasting love and  will build you up at the pace you are able to handle.

God wants to rebuild your life, to restore, repairing the broken thoughts, renovate our broken dreams and lives.

God understands what you have gone through- When you pass through the waters, God will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.

I can assure you that Self-destructive behaviors—alcohol, drugs, eating disorders, promiscuity, poor health habits, negative attitudes, and threats of suicide— fade away as we surrender to God’s help.

Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.

Hugs to You!
Did you know [I’m sure you do] that human contact through hugs lowers blood pressure and reduces stress.

Hugs have also been shown to improve overall mood, increase nerve activity, and a host of other beneficial effects. Positive physical touch has an immediate anti-stress effect, slowing breathing and heart rate.

A good hug speaks directly to your body and soul, making you feel loved and special- in fact –

Hugging is a natural and wonderful medicine; a salve if you will on the sores of your heart and soul.

Begin to see yourself  free from the chains of the abuser …

My next blog will be entitled “Kindness”  I think you will enjoy it..

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