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In a world of adversity, division at its extreme, despair and death; I know I need to learn how to bond and work together so I/we can help more people.

I don’t want to just sit around, moan and groan.

I’m sure I can be outspoken yet tender-hearted and insightful or the very least – willing to learn.

  • Personally I absolutely feel we have to continue to SHOW deep love for each other
  • Cheerfully share y/our home with those who need a meal or a place to stay
  • Use the creative, gifting, heart, strengths to impact the world around you

Coach Vince Lombardi on making a winning team. Lombardi said, “There are a lot of coaches with good ball clubs who know the fundamentals and have plenty of discipline but still don’t win the game. Then you come to the third ingredient: if you’re going to play together as a team, you’ve got to care for one another. You’ve got to love each other. Each player has to be thinking about the next guy. You’ve got to do your job well in order that he can do his. The difference between mediocrity and greatness is the feeling these guys have for each other.”

SPORTS, BUSINESS, CHURCH, EDUCATION, CHARITY, GOVERNMENT, CITY, NATION, COUNTRY – every team must care.

Not just to care But Love not just to love But Show Love.

Love is not an abstract idea. Love must be manifested.

True love is not just something you feel – it’s something you demonstrate!

 

  • Marriages have problems when partners don’t show love to one another. A husband and wife may love each other deeply but have a miserable marriage because they don’t know how to show their love for one another.
  • You can’t raise kids properly without showing them love.
  • You can’t have true, lasting, satisfying friendships if your friends can’t tell that you love them.
  • You can’t experience relationships in the community or in your church family without showing and receiving love.

 

Some people find it rather easy to show love. It’s natural as breathing.

Others find it difficult – in fact they feel uncomfortable – simply because of your upbringing.

So HOW do we show love to others.

Treat others just as you want to be treated -The Golden Rule

This is basic.  How do I want to be treated?

 IN no particular order:

  • Listen to me when I talk
  • Show Love to me
  • Forgive me
  • Try Understanding me
  • Give me a Second chance
  • Respect me
  • Think about me
  • Be in the moment/ engaging
  • Relax with me
  • Meet some of my needs
  • Be patient with me
  • Be kind to me
  • Be Faithful to me
  • Do right by me
  • Remember with me
  • Include me in Making memories
  • Honor me
  • Be genuine with me
  • Appreciate me

Oh Dear

Sounds needy

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.

It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

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But in reality we are all fragile, delicate, sensitive and utterly in need of love.

Thanks for stopping by……Beverley

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Listen to this letter written to Ann Landers.

“Dear Ann, I’m a 46-year-old woman, divorced, with 3 grown children. After several months of chemotherapy following a mastectomy for breast cancer, I was starting to put my life back together when my doctor called with the results of my last checkup. They had found more cancer, & I was devastated.

“My relatives had not been supportive. I was the first person in the family to have cancer & they didn’t know how to behave toward me. They tried to be kind, but I had the feeling they were afraid that it was contagious. They called on the phone to see how I was doing, but kept their distance. And that really hurt.

“Last Saturday I headed for the laundromat. You see the same people there almost every week. We exchange greetings, & make small talk. So I pulled into the parking lot, determined not to look depressed, but my spirits were really low.

While taking my laundry out of the car, I looked up & saw a man, one of the regulars, leaving with his bundle. He smiled & said, ‘Good morning. How are you today?’ Suddenly I lost control of myself & blurted out, ‘This is the worst day of my life! I have more cancer!’ Then I began to cry.

“He put his arms around me & just let me sob. Then he said, ‘I understand. My wife has been through it, too.’ After a few minutes I felt better, stammered out my thanks, & proceeded on with my laundry.

“About 15 minutes later, here he came back with his wife. Without saying a word, she walked over & hugged me. Then she said, ‘I’ve been there, too. Feel free to talk to me. I know what you’re going through.’

“Ann, I can’t tell you how much that meant to me. Here was this total stranger, taking her time to give me emotional support & courage to face the future at a time when I was ready to give up.

“Oh, I hope God gives me a chance to do for someone else what that wonderful woman & her husband did for me. Meanwhile, Ann, please let your readers know that even though there are a lot of hard-hearted people in this world, there are some incredibly generous & loving ones, too.”

I have no idea where this lady is today but her life was changed because of kindness and compassion.

 

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I know there are a lot of different kinds of people in our world and sometimes it can break our heart or encourage us in our darkest moments.

There is this really smart and cool guy called Paul and he said to get rid of unwholesome but concentrate on what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen… Get rid of all bitterness, rage & anger, brawling & slander, along with every form of malice. Now before you say to much I know that is often a challenge.

We are also encouraged to Be kind & compassionate to one another, forgiving each other. I believe this is a major focus of our creator God.

Often I look around and question; Is Kindness almost a lost art today? So many people are rude & self-centered, worried about themselves, & not worried very much about others.

I will simply say; continue to Be a part of each others lives by being compassionate.

Love and Kindness talked about is easily ignored. But Love and Kindness demonstrated is irresistible. I really want to model this; always.

Let’s flood our mind with good thoughts and I promise you it will compel you and I to a greater level of kindness and compassion. Believe it or not it will show on our face like moonbeams, sunbeams and a glorious light.

Thanks for dropping by.  I missed you.

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Missed opportunity

Missed opportunities
When
We
Don’t
Listen

Missed opportunities
Seize the Day
Living in the moment
Being sensitive
Gracious in speech
Bring out the best In others
See good
Listen before you speak
Forgive now
Willing servant
Love
Smile

What makes my
Life sincere
All of the above
But remember
Let the
Missed opportunities
Become opportunities
Don’t shed bitter tears
Over unsaid words
Words undone
Live now
Reconnect
Stop stalling

Don’t miss an opportunity
To make a positive difference
To be a blessing
To be prepared
To be a good neighbor
To be honest
To be fruitful

We are human
And humans make
Mistakes
What’s
Important
It’s how we
Fix it

Don’t miss another opportunity….©

Beverley Hoyles

February 2014

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In a time
That oft is toxic
Depressing –
Surrounded by
So much Tragedy
And violence –
Negative vibes and words
Bombard
Our Thoughts
That
Affect us on every level
Of our existence –
Naturally weighs heavily
On our psyche, Our spirit,
Our soul.

This Toxic corrosive weed- similar to an unwanted weed in a garden-
Unexpectedly changes you
Like a virus and makes one sick.

If you take control you will gain the upper hand and regain your balance.

balance

The taking control or
Detoxification Process:

A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you.

Don’t worry about the toothpick in a brother’s eye concentrate on removing the telephone pole in your own eye.

Choose – We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.

Take total responsibility for our attitudes. Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.

Purposely think and utilize Positive emotions – like joy, contentment, inspiration.

Nurture Gratitude – takes nothing for granted and you will constantly awaken to new wonder.

Recognize the Love of The creator God in everything He has given us – and He has given us everything.
Every breath we draw is a gift of Love.

Offer the Grace card
I promise to pray for you every day
Ask for forgiveness
Grant you the Same
And be your friend always.

Be kind – with zero zip zilch non naught nil agenda –  just cause.

Giving Spirit –
To all, charity.
To every child, a good example.
To yourself, respect.

Happy New Year

Beverley Hoyles
December 31, 2013

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Deana Hoyles – “Kindness”

 

EnCourage Others by your ATTITUDE.

Positive-Attitude

The famous question almost redundant but I will ask anyway. When you see half a glass of water sitting on the counter – is the glass half empty or is it half full? Those who have a positive outlook on life see the glass as half full. Some people see life full of problems – others see life full of challenges. What is your outlook on life? We encourage one another by our attitudes.

I am reminded of the story of two shoe salesmen who went to a tropical island where no one wore shoes. The first shoe salesman came back with a negative attitude and was somewhat depressed. He said, “It was so discouraging – NO ONE WORE SHOES! I’ll never sell shoes there.” The second salesman came back and he was all excited. He said, “What great potential! What great opportunity! NO ONE WORE SHOES! I gave away a pair of shoes to the tribal leader and he loved them. All the other tribal members want shoes now. We have a wide open market! NO ONE WORE SHOES!”

What is your outlook on life? Do you need an attitude check?

Yes there are moments when we flail and get a negative attitude but when we allow a positive attitude to dominate our life everything looks so much better.

I start fresh every day.

  • Be thankful
  • Be kind
  • Be at ease and have fun
  • Be good to yourself and think good thoughts about yourself
  • Be a good detective and find positive things

Our attitudes can affect our behaviors.

Let me encourage you – to be an encourager. Encourage others with the words you speak to them.

Encourage others by having a positive outlook on life.
“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
Abraham Lincoln

“We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
Charles R. Swindoll

I love jokes so here’s one…..

The Good Deed

A lady lost her handbag in the bustle of Christmas shopping.
It was found by an honest little boy and returned to her. Looking
in her purse, she commented, “That’s funny. When I lost my
bag there was a $100 bill in it. Now there are 100 $1 bills.” The
boy quickly replied, “That’s right, lady. The last time I found
a lady’s purse, she didn’t have any change for a reward.”
 

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You can encourage one another with your ACTIONS.

Remember to listen to the video at the end of the post; Bruno Mars is fabulous.

Who was it that said Actions speak louder than – WORDS?
The values you/I have in life are judged more by how you/I live y/our life than by what you say.

People notice what you DO.

By our actions – we are setting an example for others to follow.

James a well known guy said to be Be doers not hearers only.

Love is more than emotion/s.
“Love is patient; love is kind. Love does not envy; is not boastful; is not conceited; does not act improperly; is not selfish; is not provoked; does not keep a record of wrongs; finds no joy in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

Love is “ACTION”

I can choose to show kindness or not to show kindness.

I can choose to be compassionate or not.

I can choose to brag or not to brag.

I can choose to hold a grudge or to let it go.

I can choose..

Just the other day I was talking to a government official at the pardons Canada dept. Before I go any further I was talking to pardons Canada as a liaison for someone else.  We talked about giving people second chances.  People may have taken many wrong paths but there comes a time when someone needs to give them a chance.  Who knows we could be the very person whose act of kindness- a giver of second chances – could give someone back their life.

ACTIONS

It is wise to have good role models.  We all need them.  We all need someone to cheer us onward.
I have a few good earthly flesh and blood role models. I also have the creator; I am safe to follow the creator.

In a world with such negativity and trash;There are so many people that are in need of encouragement so then it is required of me whenever possible to do just that. Actions speak louder than words

Touch of Love

AT the touch of love
adoration abounds
clarity in change
fragrance of delight
cry together
touch the wounds
share the pain
healing rain
of heaven
who touches
my soul
inside cradle
of comfort
as a lullaby song
I’m
not alone..©
beverleyhoyles
march 30, 2013
 
 
When it’s all said and done…just keep spreading the love.
 

Well done is better than well said.  ~Benjamin Franklin

Talk doesn’t cook rice.  ~Chinese Proverb

Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.
Mahatma Gandhi

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”
William James

I know you can be a great person of action.  I have faith in you.

Love and keep loving.  Remember you make the world a better place.

Blessings to you.

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Words

Encouragement means: “to add courage to”.

I’ll go out on a limb and say that A person who gives words of encouragement is helping another person become bolder and braver and blessed.

By giving encouragement I believe you are adding courage to that person- helping a person stand firmer and go farther.  Often give them meaning in their life.

I remember [many years ago as a youth] my friend and I would run races; she usually came in first and I usually the last. Believe me It doesn’t matter if you are coming in first place or last place – if people are there cheering you on – it gives you the added boost to finish the race.

A wise saying: Encourage each other daily, while it is still called today and keep each other on your toes.

You CAN encourage one another with your WORDS.

This is probably the most common way that we encourage one another – we tell people how much we appreciate them.

A word spoken at the right time is like golden apples on a silver tray.

or better yet

The right word at the right time is like a custom-made piece of jewelry.

or

The right word is music to my ears. 😀

But of course; Even when we don’t really mean to, we say dumb things and foul things up. Even when we have high hopes and honorable intentions – words sometimes get all backwards and twisted around.

But please don’t give up trying to encourage.

For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body.

Just think about all the things you said or wanted to say and the effect it did or would have if you would only encourage.

  • The effect the words of a parent have on a child.
  • The effect the husband’s words have on a wife and vice versa.
  • The impact the boss’s words have on an employee.
  • Words said in love to a family member or stranger.
  • Words said in anger.
  • The last words on a death bed.
  • Words help shape y/our lives – just as we have shaped the lives of others.
  • Words that impact a child with self esteem.

 The right word at the right time is like a Priceless Piece of Jewellery.

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It’s been a difficult few weeks..No signs of drastic improvement but there is change so for that I am most grateful.  This lull that I have felt has pulled me in once again with reflection.

What is it I really need in this life?

Whom shall I talk to to unload this burden?

Where shall I run for solace?

 

Where shall I Run

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Where should I run?

 

In that moment

of encumbrance

when faith would wane

grapple with grace

and wonderment

i want to run away,

where too should i run?

i shall run to you

to silence

near the fountain of all being

at the fane

where wizards of wonderment

and wisdom are free

grand graces grow

transfigured

by a-mazing voyage

i run to the centre

of who i am –

the Eye of the Universe….©

Beverleyhoyles

May 11, 2013

A teardrop on earth summons the King of heaven.  Chuck Swindoll

Have a glorious Day!

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Words must be weighed, not counted.

As a writer counting the words are often important because you/I/they often want a certain word count and page count to complete a book or novel.  Some have an obsession with word count. I’m not sure where it all started but some even believe a good  novel hinges on word count. Hence the controversy over word count.
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Today, however let’s weigh our words.

Do they value?

Do they place value on someone else?

Do they encourage?

Do they incite a positive outcome?

Will our words slander?  John Chrysostom said that Slander is worse than cannibalism.

I would also venture to say that what we say matters and what we do not say matters.  There is also a time for silence; however I won’t be silent today.

Too often we judge people based on our own backgrounds, failures, mistakes, problems  and experiences, but when you understand people’s stories, present circumstances, it’s easier to understand their demeanor and their faults.

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I hope these words will encourage:

    • Don’t look for faults in others, but focus on what YOU can control!
    • Time spent gossiping is a waste of time! Don’t give a place to plant the seed of hypocrisy in your life, because it will destroy you as a role model and your witness for the creator.
    • Be true to the creator God, and  be honest with yourself.
    • Next to God, the most important thing in your life is your family.
    • Remember, a man’s wealth or happiness is not found in the multitude of material things he possesses.
    • Commit uninterrupted time in your schedule for those you love.
    • Learn from your failures and use them as stepping stones to success,
    • Experience is a great teacher and trials result in patience and endurance.

Unless you have never been tempted, don’t pass judgement on anyone who has yielded.  I often fail at this but I try to keep these words before me.

Let’s practice by looking in the mirror first and then proceed to be more concerned with encouraging and building up others and love, love, love.  Looking in the mirror is more than issues of color but of actions, thoughts, deeds and words.

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“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” ― John Holmes

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A Safe Place

There is this line in the song
…looking for one safe place…
That triggered my thoughts.

Marc Cohn – One Safe Place Lyrics

How many roads you’ve traveled
How many dreams you’ve chased
Across sand and sky and gravel
Looking for one safe place

Will you make a smoother landing
When you break your fall from grace
Into the arms of understanding
Looking for one safe place

Oh, life is a trial by fire
And love’s the sweetest taste
And I pray it lifts us higher
To one safe place

How many roads we’ve traveled
How many dreams we’ve chased
Across sand and sky and gravel
Looking for one safe place

The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned. Maya Angelou

I think every human on the planet will admit our basic physical needs are for food, water, sleep, and warmth. I believe the needs close to those basic needs is the need for safety and security.

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Every child should have a safe place in their life. Joe Manchin
There is a place of reconciliation.
There is a place for forgiveness.
AT least for those that want it with the person/s who has abused you.

There is a place where you have never spoken the truth about the abuse with the abuser.

There is a place where you can pretend a normal relationship with the abuser and pretend it never happened but as we get older that plays havoc with your body and mind and emotions. You will gradually get sicker and sicker. Your spirit and psyche will become more disturbed.

No man or woman on the face of this earth can ignore it forever without suffering for it.

Some say a safe place may be where we live or maybe in whom we live.

I believe a safe place is compiled of many things and if either is damaged we could live in a non-safe zone. Safety is required where we live, how we live, where we were raised, and in whom we trust in our spiritual safety.

For me spiritual safety is simple I walk the path knowing that the creator God is behind me, before me, in my footsteps.

Where I live is fairly simple most of the time. I trust that my immediate family will be respectful and loving. Will protect me when I’m sick. Will see that I am cared for in my aging process and probable death. My husband and I try to keep working to maintain a safe home.

How I live is sometimes Dicey but I simply apply some honest cardinal rules that assist in living safe. My spiritual beliefs flow into how I live which actually protects me and I am free to be as creative and excited about living and learning. The How helps me to be loving albeit I sometimes lose my patience with people but I try to keep the what I consider to be spiritual fruits before me and make it my life long goal to daily work at each of them. Namely; love, temperance, peace, joy, goodness, gentleness, patience, self-control and kindness. Of course they are worthless if I did not continue to do service for others and acts of grace each day.

I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings. This would give credence to spiritual security.
 
I saved this one for last; Safety in where [how] we raised.
I have made peace with the person/s that have abused me in my childhood. I have forgiven long ago and I have done all I could to make things right. Some would say then that’s the end of it. It’s all over now.

No.

I feel I must speak about abuse, be an advocate, educate about abuse, help those who neglect or cannot seek for recovery.

The door to safety hinges on our common sense.

When safety is taken from a child it messes up adult safety.
How we raise our kids is imperative to their safety, to their emotional safety, their spiritual safety, their growth, their whole humanity.

Nothing is too difficult for a creator God to help us to handle. It doesn’t mean you will bypass the necessary steps of hard work to healing.

One encouragement I would give: start a journal, write, talk about the pain. It will start the journey to healing.
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“We attach our feelings to the moment when we were hurt, endowing it with immortality. And we let it assault us every time it comes to mind. It travels with us, sleeps with us, hovers over us while we make love, and broods over us while we die. Our hate does not even have the decency to die when those we hate die–for it is a parasite sucking OUR blood, not theirs. There is only one remedy for it. [forgiveness] Lewis B. Smedes – Forgive & Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve

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All the years you have waited for them to “make it up to you” and all the energy you expended trying to make them change (or make them pay) kept the old wounds from healing and gave pain from the past free rein to shape and even damage your life. And still they may not have changed. Nothing you have done has made them change. Indeed, they may never change. Inner peace is found by changing yourself, not the people who hurt you. And you change yourself for yourself, for the joy, serenity, peace of mind, understanding, compassion, laughter, and bright future that you get.” –   Lewis B. Smedes – The Art of Forgiving: When You Need To Forgive And Don’t Know How

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“Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.”    —Lewis B. Smedes

Talking about abuse helps.

I Turned 60 Christmas 2012 and I have so much to learn. All I know for sure I have to keep loving the best I can and then learn some more and then loving the best I can.

ShootingStars

I am
sojourner of truth
on the path
not sauntering
a racer
in
the
race of my life
where to you ask?
to the golden streets
to the tree by the river eternal
musical realm
it’s heaven
a place
i want to be
every step every sprint
every movement
through earth
is like a shooting star
to my destiny
but
between
here
and
there
no looking back
a time to prepare
learn love
share love
now..©

Beverleyhoyles
May 6, 2013

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