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golden-rule

In a world of adversity, division at its extreme, despair and death; I know I need to learn how to bond and work together so I/we can help more people.

I don’t want to just sit around, moan and groan.

I’m sure I can be outspoken yet tender-hearted and insightful or the very least – willing to learn.

  • Personally I absolutely feel we have to continue to SHOW deep love for each other
  • Cheerfully share y/our home with those who need a meal or a place to stay
  • Use the creative, gifting, heart, strengths to impact the world around you

Coach Vince Lombardi on making a winning team. Lombardi said, “There are a lot of coaches with good ball clubs who know the fundamentals and have plenty of discipline but still don’t win the game. Then you come to the third ingredient: if you’re going to play together as a team, you’ve got to care for one another. You’ve got to love each other. Each player has to be thinking about the next guy. You’ve got to do your job well in order that he can do his. The difference between mediocrity and greatness is the feeling these guys have for each other.”

SPORTS, BUSINESS, CHURCH, EDUCATION, CHARITY, GOVERNMENT, CITY, NATION, COUNTRY – every team must care.

Not just to care But Love not just to love But Show Love.

Love is not an abstract idea. Love must be manifested.

True love is not just something you feel – it’s something you demonstrate!

 

  • Marriages have problems when partners don’t show love to one another. A husband and wife may love each other deeply but have a miserable marriage because they don’t know how to show their love for one another.
  • You can’t raise kids properly without showing them love.
  • You can’t have true, lasting, satisfying friendships if your friends can’t tell that you love them.
  • You can’t experience relationships in the community or in your church family without showing and receiving love.

 

Some people find it rather easy to show love. It’s natural as breathing.

Others find it difficult – in fact they feel uncomfortable – simply because of your upbringing.

So HOW do we show love to others.

Treat others just as you want to be treated -The Golden Rule

This is basic.  How do I want to be treated?

 IN no particular order:

  • Listen to me when I talk
  • Show Love to me
  • Forgive me
  • Try Understanding me
  • Give me a Second chance
  • Respect me
  • Think about me
  • Be in the moment/ engaging
  • Relax with me
  • Meet some of my needs
  • Be patient with me
  • Be kind to me
  • Be Faithful to me
  • Do right by me
  • Remember with me
  • Include me in Making memories
  • Honor me
  • Be genuine with me
  • Appreciate me

Oh Dear

Sounds needy

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.

It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Wow

But in reality we are all fragile, delicate, sensitive and utterly in need of love.

Thanks for stopping by……Beverley

I’m sure you have seen this video but before you leave check it out again thanks……Have a wonderful week.

guilty-conscience

In my opinion;
Some of the most popular literature in the world is found in the book of Psalms; the songbook of Israel which most were set to music.

I am only one of millions who love Psalm 23,The Lord is my Shepherd, Psalm 90, the oldest Psalm, written by Moses, Psalm 46, a favorite read at funerals, God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Post adultery Psalm 51.

Have you ever had trouble- trying to silence a guilty conscience?

Guilt in the back of our minds can drive us nuts.

Many people try all sorts of ways to deal with the terrible feelings of guilt and the low self-esteem that inevitably comes after they’ve messed up.

Some people try to Deny it or make excuses or they try to ignore it

OR you can Deaden your guilt, by eating, drinking, inhaling, or injecting something to make the pain go away.

Sometimes people try to compensate by doing something good -Guilt is a powerful motivator.

It’s not unusual for people to goof up and be stupid or be unwise or get loss in the moment and make a mistake or get lazy let down their guard and commit a sin.

When we do something wrong, you or I can try to cover it up or fess up.

Because I have friends who have suffered the after effects of adultery I often think of the story of King David and his adultery with Bathsheba.

David wrote Psalm 51 after his sin of adultery right after being found out his attempt to cover up didn’t work.

So here’s the true story: David is lazing around in the palace when he should have been at work with his armies [fighting the Ammonites] with too much time on his hands and happens to see a woman taking a bath, and instantly lust takes hold, and he tells his servant, bring her to me. Bathsheba of course, being the wife of Uriah One of the highest ranking men who helped him win many victories…

And wouldn’t you know that after this little affair Bathsheba gets pregnant and the great cover up begins. He brings Uriah home from the war, and try’s several times to get him to sleep with Bathsheba, but being an honorable soldier – he won’t.

Since that didn’t work David put Uriah in front of a battle to get him killed – The plan works, Uriah dies.

David immediately marries Bathsheba.

I wonder, did David have a guilty conscience? I believe the creator was displeased with David’s actions.

I often wonder what 8 months of Bathsheba’s pregnancy were like. Was she suspicious of David, what were his thoughts.

I think he was gonna try to deal with it by not dealing with it.

Ignore it.

But creator God is not gonna let him forget it.

Enter; God’s prophet Nathan came to confront him.

 

What has history told us what David said; “I have sinned against the Lord!”

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Even if you aren’t a Bible believing person Psalm 51- a psalm of David is amazing.

Psalm 51

1  Have mercy on me, O God,
    according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
    blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
    and cleanse me from my sin.

For I know my transgressions,
    and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
    and done what is evil in your sight;
so you are right in your verdict
    and justified when you judge.
Surely I was sinful at birth,
    sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb;
    you taught me wisdom in that secret place.

Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
    wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Let me hear joy and gladness;
    let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
Hide your face from my sins
    and blot out all my iniquity.
10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
    and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
    or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
    and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me

 

I guess what I am saying is that the Only way to deal with a guilty conscience – ADMIT.

 

We are responsible for our own lives and It does no good to blame other people, or blame my circumstances.

Edgar Allen Poe’s story, “The Telltale Heart”?

In that story, the main character has committed murder and he buries the body under floorboards in his house. But the murderer can’t escape the guilt of his deed.

He begins to hear the heartbeat of his dead victim. A cold sweat pours over him as that heartbeat goes on and on, relentlessly, getting louder and louder.

Finally the noise in his head is driving him crazy, he can’t take it anymore, he’s sure everyone else must hear it too, and they’re just taunting him by ignoring, it, just playing with him. And so finally in a fit of desperation, he confesses everything and shows policemen the body.

I would be stupid to think that our/my actions doesn’t hurt others. For me personally because of my commitment I have to make it right with the creator before I can make it right with my family or neighbor.

Guilt is good if we allow it to guide us to better decisions.

Dr. Brand who spent much of his life in India working with leprosy patients made a major discovery – Because of the lack of pain they were constantly injuring themselves which would result in amputation.

Guilt is just as important to our lives as pain and it is a warning sign that helps us know that something needs to change.

There are bad choices, mistakes, neglects that are not sins, but may require forgiveness.  But there are things I choose to believe are sin. We are caught in a web -in a mess, sin, stupidity – we need mercy and grace – well I do.

Mercy to escape the bad, and grace to be given the goodness of forgiveness and freedom to go forward.

Forgiveness does not come cheaply neither physically, emotionally nor spiritually. (Someone pays)

For the psalmist David he understood this –  in his day they dipped hyssop in the blood of sacrificed animals and applied to the altar or doorposts over the house.

As I follow the teachings of Christ – it is inherent in his teachings that if we ( I ) sin it is paid by his shed blood. My relationship with my creator allows a Higher accountability for my thoughts, words and actions.

In the case of adultery blood spills because the lifeblood of the relationship dies.

Rarely, it is recovered through forgiveness.

It’s that powerful force of love That gives us forgiveness, mercy and grace.

The psalmist said Create in me a pure heart, O God, renew a steadfast spirit within me. Restore unto me the joy. We all need strength and power to keep us on tract and stay away from that which caused us guilt in the first place.

What’s the use of guilt alone – but “I’m sorry” “I repent” and I want to make a change is necessary.

A change of heart.
A change of mind.
and A change of direction.

Such contrition removes guilt AND joy replaces inner anguish.

Truly each of us is in charge of our lives and choices and we are often challenged by them.

However, it is important to note that whatever we do there are ripple effects.

Don’t get me wrong; we will make mistakes, but whatever happens in your life – Admit and Go Forward.

I know it’s been a serious tone tonight on my blog, but do come back.

Stay Kind Hearted!
Stay Safe!

 

Thanks for reading my blog.

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We know that we ought to be thankful for the good things and use the not so great things to teach us to count our blessings.

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One of the greatest blessing in our lives is to love and know love.

It is far too easy to camouflage the very people we love that make life worthwhile, with the business and busyness of life.

Tis the Season-
It’s Christmas, it’s a miracle, it’s love, it’s a gift –
To fall in love is a precious gift, a miracle.

Would you like to fall in love all over again?

To fall in love all over again brings tears to my heart and rain to my eyes.

Would you like to fall in love again this Christmas season?

To look into the eyes of creator God afresh and see the miracles of his love for you. To once again have hope because of the Man whose birth we celebrate on Christmas Day. To fall in love with the creator not just his creation.

To look into the eyes of your spouse as once you did and caused that head over heels butterfly feeling. The commitment in your heart of your youth to never take him/her for granted.

As a youth or young adult in love it is so natural to want to explore, to touch, to feel that warm body of another human being. To immerse in that sensual electrifying experience. The desire to be in love came so naturally; could that happen again?

I believe that one of the biggest reasons that people are miserable especially at Christmas is because they refuse to let go of the hurts, disappointment, and offenses of others. They justify their pain and keep themselves and others locked in a prison of unforgiveness. Believe me It isn’t easy making the choice to forgive But living with unforgiveness can be deadly! There is a great need to forgive.

A need to rekindle, refresh, fan the flame of love.

To make a date every day. Re-establish connection with your life-companion the forever friendship. There’s a good man in there- there’s a good woman in there.
In sickness and in health. To be captivated once again.

To look into the eyes of your now grown child/ren and remember the naivety of that new mom feeling. To remember your heart swell with love for the little one. The smell, the touch of his/her silky newborn skin of this little human who needs you every second of every day. The promise you made to nurture and keep them safe all wrapped in the warmth of your love. To disrespect or allow harm near your child would be unthinkable. Remember – you would never let anyone or anything interfere with that sweet baby smile. Honor your children.

As we fall in love with God, spouse and child remember those who suffer. For those who are ill, forgotten, lonely; for those who are homeless and are huddled on dark winter nights in the unseen corners of cities all over the world.

Don’t let this season be the greatest regret of your life.
Let it be the greatest love’s rebirth of your Existence. Let it bring you back to life.
To feel, to touch, to hug, to forgive, to kiss, to recommit, bringing joy thought lost.

No it doesn’t have to be a fairy tale but true life.

Thanks for reading my blog!

Merry Christmas

 

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Every day children die from long drawn out painful debilitating diseases [cancer is one].
This poem is just my reminder to love our family and those that come in our path As if it was their last day. Make it count!

too many today
are holding
their little one
with all their might
soft touch
hoping
to save their life,
pain too much
disease too strong
as they sing
one last song,
earth’s thistles
and weed
extreme fight
tears
cannot hide
the tragedies,
no reason
for sickness
for grieving,
the pain
spur
to pray
hope
strength
reason
stir,
love
release
of life
is hardest easy
to learn…©.

beverleyholes
october 5, 2013

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a passion for lifeCan we live without passion?

  • To live compelling and vigor we need passion
  • To make things last we need passion
  • To make life worthwhile we need passion
  • To have healthy relationships we need passion

Isaac Watts said, May I govern my passions with absolute sway, and grow wiser and better as life wears away.

Without passion most likely we will be without energy.

We need passion to keep our marriage alive, to pursue education, to pursue art, pursue relationships, to pursue and understand history, to pursue spiritual matters.

 “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

WHAT WE TREASURE REFLECTS OUR PASSION AND WE HAVE A PASSION FOR WHAT WE CONSIDER TO BE OUR TREASURE.

For me I look to God my creator for inspiration. There lies my treasure.

In a day where I/me/my/self-interest is the order of the day faith can somehow be dwindling away or in times of distress be swept away.

A.W. Tozer said it like this … “We may WANT God, but we want something else more. And we get what we want most.”

I want a passion for the creator God, for life, for family, for every moment of every day.

Life will rob spiritual passion. Circumstances of life will destroy passion. When those times come, nothing less than restoration will do. An Extreme Makeover of our personal spiritual pursuits.  Enthusiasm reclaimed.  Have a vigor to be more helpful for hurting mankind.



The Passion I’m talking about and desire is touched by Webster’s definition: A STRONG, EXTRAVAGANT FONDNESS, ENTHUSIASM, OR DESIRE FOR SOMETHING.

I wonder do purpose give us a reason to wake up and start the day but is it passion that keeps us going kinda propel us forward.

It is the passion that draws us out of depression, elevate the soul.

 A passion to pursue should always make ourselves and our world a better place to live.

 passion

I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. He taught me that if you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it at full speed ahead. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good. Hot is no good either. White hot and passionate is the only thing to be. – Roald Dahl; British Novelist

Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours. – Audrey Hepburn;
Actress, Humanitarian

 Our passions are the winds that propel our vessel. Our reason is the pilot that steers her. Without winds the vessel would not move and without a pilot she would be lost. – Proverb

A great leader’s courage to fulfill his vision comes from passion, not position.”
– John Maxwell,

Never underestimate what passion can do in your life.

  • Passion; without it you give up.
  • Passion; without it time becomes hard.
  • Passion without it endurance runs thin.

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Living life
to the fullest doesn’t mean without regulations, boundaries or some honorable do’s and don’ts.

Come and serve.

When you serve you’ll discover that you don’t have it so bad after all.

You were born

No matter the past

Or circumstance your birth

Irrelevant, then-come-what-may

Your responsibility is to live it.

“We have this moment today”, Gloria Gaither penned these words, “We have this moment to hold in our hands and to touch, as it slips through our fingers like sands.” If we only have one life, if there is only one opportunity, and if we are to live our lives to the fullest, “HOW DO WE GO ABOUT IT?”

What is the primary purpose of an ink pen? The answer, of course, is to write. If you have a $20.00 gold emblem engraved pen that is out of ink [like the one I have]. It may be pretty to look at, but it is a failure as a pen; it is not fulfilling its purpose. It is useless. So what will you do when the time comes to sign your paycheck that you desperately need come payday, and this pen doesn’t work? You’ll bypass the nice looking gold pen, and use a $.20 Bic that works.

Sounds Simple but just as a pen has a primary purpose, every individual that God has created has a primary purpose.

Our lives will be without meaning – we’ll be failures – unless we find out what is our purpose … our reason for living. Facing the present means that we choose to live life as it comes to us day by day. Not in the past, not in the future, but right here and right now.

Live Life Now!

I am

sojourner of truth

on the path

not sauntering

a racer

in

the

race of my life

where to you ask?

to the golden streets

to the tree by the river eternal

musical realm

it’s heaven

a place

i want to be

every step every sprint

every movement

through earth

is like a shooting star

to my destiny

but

between

here

and

there

no looking back

a time to prepare

learn  love

share love

now..©

Beverleyhoyles

May 6, 2013

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Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.

Be patient and you will finally win, for a soft tongue can break hard bones.

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

Great Quote:

“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”   ― Eleanor Roosevelt

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Y is for Yogurt and Yield!

Yogurt or yoghurt or yoghourt; is a dairy product (nut milks, such as almond milk, and coconut milk can also be used) produced by bacterial fermentation of milk. The bacteria used to make yogurt are known as “yogurt cultures”. Fermentation of lactose by these bacteria produces lactic acid, which acts on milk protein to give yogurt its texture and its characteristic tang.[Wikpedia.]

Yogurt is nutritionally rich in protein, calcium, riboflavin, vitamin B6 and vitamin B12. It has nutritional benefits beyond those of milk. Lactose-intolerant individuals can sometimes tolerate yogurt better than other dairy products.

To offset its natural sourness, yogurt is also sold sweetened, flavoured or in containers with fruit or fruit jam on the bottom.

Nondairy yogurts -Since at least 1977 yogurt has been made from soymilk.

Yogurt is pretty much enjoyed all over the world.

DEanas Yogurt

I love yogurt with fruit/granola or wheat germ. More and more my family enjoys Greek yogurt or yogurt made from goat’s milk.

In today’s society of nutritional awareness Yogurt does not yield to sugar.

Yield – one amazing often troublesome word.

Yield  may refer to [so says Wikipedia]:

Physics/chemistry

Earth science

Finance

Other uses

BUT what does Yield really mean:

  • to give or render as fitting, rightfully owed, or required
  • to give up possession of on claim or demand
  • to surrender or relinquish
  • to surrender or submit (oneself) to another
  • to give (oneself) up to a temptation or habit
  • to relinquish one’s possession of (as a position of advantage or point of superiority)
  • to be fruitful or productive
  • to give up and cease resistance or contention -submit
  • give way to pressure, persuasion
  • to give way under physical force (as bending, stretching, or breaking)
  • to give place or precedence or acknowledge the superiority of someone else
  • to give way to or become succeeded by someone or something else

In this self-usurping/self-sufficient/don’t tell-me-what-to-do society; Yield is a very difficult word!  Don’t go off the cuff let’s slow down just for a few moments. Yield is not necessarily a bad thing.  Yes I agree in some rare cases it is.

In its place there is nothing wrong with a surrender or submit (oneself) to another:

In New Brunswick I came to a covered, one lane bridge with a yield sign on both end. Yes yield signs had been placed at both ends of the bridge. Drivers from both directions were requested to give right of way. It was a reasonable and gracious way of preventing a head-on collision.


I personally try my best to follow the commands of the Bible one of which is to “be subject to one another”- it is simply a reasonable and gracious command to let the other have the right of way and avoid interpersonal head-on collisions.

In the summer of 1986, two ships collided in the Black Sea off the coast of Russia. Hundreds of passengers died as they were hurled into the icy waters below. News of the disaster was further darkened when an investigation revealed the cause of the accident. It wasn’t a technology problem like radar malfunction–or even thick fog. The cause was human stubbornness. Each captain was aware of the other ship’s presence nearby. Both could have steered clear, but according to news reports, neither captain wanted to give way to the other. Each was too proud to yield first. By the time they came to their senses, it was too late.

The word ‘Yield’ is also obedience to what is right. Here is a funny; hilarious story.

Neil Marten, a member of the British Parliament, was once giving a group of his constituents a guided tour of the Houses of Parliament. During the course of the visit, the group happened to meet Lord Hailsham, then lord chancellor, wearing all the regalia of his office. Hailsham recognized Marten among the group and cried, “Neil!” Not daring to question or disobey the “command,” the entire band of visitors promptly fell to their knees!  You get it NEIL not KNEEL.


Back to the thought of submitting/surrender or acknowledge someone of superiority.

When I say I follow God and the principles of Jesus Christ it does not absolve me of my responsibilities in life nor the consequences of my decisions or lack thereof. There are so many variables and uncertainties in life we need the power of heaven to guide us.  To follow an example of perfection always helps and guides and produces growth.


Open to learn and change.

Be open to learning and change no matter where the advice comes from. Simply this; when we are criticized we ought to ask ourselves is there any truth to the criticism. If it does, we should learn from it, even when it’s not in the right motivation or right spirit. IF you acted wrongly; admit and go on with a new vigor to change.

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Surrender your walk, journey, lessons, reputation to please the creator and bring honor to yourself and your community and family.


There are some things we should never allow to dictate how we should live our lives and succeed.

CRADLES OF EMINENCE

In a famous study by Victor and Mildred Goertzel, entitled Cradles of Eminence, the home backgrounds of 300 highly successful people were investigated. These 300 subjects had made it to the top. They were men and women whose names everyone would recognize as brilliant in their fields, such as Franklin D. Roosevelt, Helen Keller, Winston Churchill, Albert Schweitzer, Clara Barton, Gandhi, Einstein, and Freud. The intensive investigation into their early home lives yielded some surprising findings:

* Three fourths of the children were troubled either by poverty, by a broken home, or by rejecting, over possessive, or dominating parents.

* Seventy-four of 85 writers of fiction or drama and 16 of the 20 poets came from homes where, as children, they saw tense psychological drama played out by their parents.

* Physical handicaps such as blindness, deafness, or crippled limbs characterized over one-fourth of the sample.

And yet from such poor circumstances, God was able to bring success.

SOURCE: Cradles of Eminence by Victor and Mildred Goertzel. Little Brown & Company, June 1962

There are some things we never yield to. There are some pressures we never bow to. To give way to dysfunctional pressure, abuse, violence, demeaning behaviour where we find ourselves lost and undone.  WE can learn to be fearless in the face of fear, abuse and dysfunction.

The flip side to this is when a family is free of abuse and oppression, it can be the place of joyful learning where we share our deepest secrets. Where we are willing to sacrifice to give without losing who we are as individuals but making the family unit beautiful and loved.

I love what J. Dobson says. “By learning to yield to the loving authority…of his/her parents, a child learns to submit to other forms of authority which will confront him later in his life, his teachers, school principal, police, neighbors and employers.”

Gandhi said that all compromise is based on give and take, but there can be no give and take on fundamentals. Any compromise on mere fundamentals is a surrender. For it is all give and no take.

“Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”  Winston Churchill

Tozer speaks of faith. A surrender that does not demean or loss but enhances.  Faith, as Paul saw it, was a living, flaming thing leading to surrender and obedience to the commandments of Christ.

True Godly surrender and worship is more than singing and praising God. Worship involves us doing, not just singing. It involves us caring for others, and meeting the needs of others. If we truly worship God, we will be involved in the activities of kindness, compassion and love selflessly. What God can do with a life who loves and lives in humility. Nothing but amazing.

Rick Warren said that The heart (core) of worship is an attitude of complete surrender to God, which is an unnatural concept in light of today’s competitive culture. But it is the natural response of the Christian into God’s love and mercy.

“God is a Lover and a Liberator, and surrendering to Him brings freedom, not bondage. When we completely surrender ourselves to Jesus, we discover that He is not a tyrant, but a Savior; not a boss, but a Brother; not a dictator, but a Friend.” (pg. 79) Purpose Driven LIfe.

I know there is a certain amount of faith and trust required to trust God to be a major source of living life on this beautiful planet.

For me God is amazing and God’s love is amazing and God helps me be a better me.

The ‘yield’ is more than progeny but the yield of our life. If our yield is great we leave some wonderful memories behind.

May you be blessed this week with wonderful experiences.

Thanks for reading my bLoG!

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W is for Watermelon and Wisdom!

Watermelon; hmm; one of my favorite fruits of all time.

Watermelon is a vine-like flowering plant; Its fruit, which is also called watermelon, is a special kind referred to by botanists as a pepo, a berry which has a thick rind (exocarp) and fleshy center. Watermelon is thought to have originated in southern Africa, where it is found growing wild.

A good source of Potassium, and a very good source of Vitamin A and Vitamin C.

Watermelons

A cold slice of watermelon has long been a July holiday staple. But according to recent studies, the juicy fruit may be better suited for Valentine’s Day. That’s because scientists say watermelon has ingredients that deliver Viagra-like effects to the body’s blood vessels and may even increase libido.

Here is the website that discusses the above sentiment.

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/06/080630165707.htm

Watermelon is refreshing, and it’s vitamins and nutrition and its benefits within have a mysterious wisdom.

WhooHoo Wisdom.  What a wonderful word but difficult to master.

One of the most important ingredients to wisdom is the willingness to learn and willingness to share your wisdom.

How wonderful wisdom is! It sparks life into other virtues. If a person has wisdom he/she will also have prudence (sensibleness, good sense), knowledge, and discretion. Wisdom inhabits caution/discretion. Prudence is the ability to discriminate between truth and error.

Be Wise:

  • Decide what is valuable
  • What are the goals
  • Know what is right and important
  • Don’t make a decision that will harm anyone else
  • Take special attention to hard decisions
  • Remember your family and your responsibilities
  • Explore choices
  • What are the consequences
  • Evaluate
  • Know yourself; weakness and strengths
  • Take time to contemplate
  • Be humble and be there for others
  • Surround yourself with wise people
  • Will this decision bring honor to the creator, to humanity, to the community
  • Never Give Up
  • Be Wise Parents and teach children to accept responsibility and consequences to behaviour

Grandchildren are the crowning glory of the aged; parents are the pride of their children

Let’s face it, none of were perfect angels growing up. We all made mistakes, some big, some not so big. One thing I think we all need to guard against is letting our own shortcomings keep us from doing the right thing when it comes to raising our own children and caring for family; use wisdom.

“Learning how to be an approachable parent is one of the most important gifts we can give our children. Being approachable means being willing to talk about and deal with subjects that make us uncomfortable. . .without judging or lecturing. When our kids see that we don’t dodge difficult issues and that we are good listeners, they will come to us for help and guidance.”
 Paula Statman, M.S.S.W., Founder and Author, KidWISE Institute, Inc.

Abraham Lincoln, the movie has been much talked about in these past weeks.  It is amazing to read of  the candor and wisdom and words of Lincoln.

In a speech made in 1863, Abraham Lincoln said, “We have been the recipients of the choicest bounties of heaven; we have been preserved these many years in peace and prosperity; we have grown in numbers, wealth, and power as no other nation has ever grown. But we have forgotten God. We have forgotten the gracious hand which preserved us in peace and multiplied and enriched and strengthened us, and we have vainly imagined, in the deceitfulness of our hearts, that all these blessings were produced by some superior wisdom and virtue of our own. Intoxicated with unbroken success, we have become too self-sufficient to feel the necessity of redeeming and preserving grace, too proud to pray to the God that made us.”

 

If you are a leader in any way shape or form; you are likened to the driver of the school bus.  You need love to lead and the knowledge to know the direction and under extreme circumstances wisdom to direct the path.

WISDOM AND KNOWLEDGE

Wisdom is still ahead of knowledge even though knowledge is important. You can have knowledge much knowledge in fact but if you don’t have wisdom how can you use it or disperse it for the good of all.

WISDOM CALLS OUT

Does not wisdom cry out, And understanding lift up her voice? She takes her stand on the top of the high hill, Beside the way, where the paths meet. She cries out by the gates, at the entry of the city, At the entrance of the doors: “To you, O men, I call, And my voice is to the sons of men. O you simple ones, understand prudence, And you fools, be of an understanding heart. Listen, for I will speak of excellent things, And from the opening of my lips will come right things; For my mouth will speak truth; Wickedness is an abomination to my lips. All the words of my mouth are with righteousness; Nothing crooked or perverse is in them. They are all plain to him who understands, And right to those who find knowledge. Receive my instruction, and not silver, And knowledge rather than choice gold; For wisdom is better than rubies, And all the things one may desire cannot be compared with her.  -Proverbs

 

TRUE WISDOM COMES FROM THE CREATOR; OUR GREATEST HELP!

A. W. Tozer and J. I. Packer have defined wisdom as follows:

“In the Holy Scripture’s wisdom, when used of God and good men, always carries a strong moral connotation. It is conceived as being pure, loving, and good.… Wisdom, among other things, is the ability to devise perfect ends and to achieve those ends by the most perfect means. It sees the end from the beginning, so there can be no need to guess or conjecture. Wisdom sees everything in focus, each in proper relation to all, and is thus able to work toward predestined goals with flawless precision.”1

“Wisdom is the power to see, and the inclination to choose, the best and highest goal, together with the surest means of attaining it. Wisdom is, in fact, the practical side of moral goodness. As such, it is found in its fulness only in God. He alone is naturally and entirely and invariably wise.”2

               1A. W. Tozer, The Knowledge of the Holy (San Francisco: Harper and Row, Publishers, 1961), p. 66.

                        2J. I. Packer, Knowing God, p. 80

 

To have the truest wisdom/true wisdom you need knowledge.  But where do you get knowledge.  For me the first place I gain knowledge is from the creator. True wisdom affects our entire pattern of life: our attitudes, priorities and interests, and all our relationships, from family to business to authority. It is not a matter of knowing a lot of rules or how-to’s. Rather, wisdom is built on a foundation of understanding human nature, including its weaknesses (such as the tendency to conform), and it works with basic principles, such as trust, respect, and responsibility. We can learn these principles from for example the Proverbs. The wisdom of God is the highest education in the world. I understand there is a great debate whether there is a God or should we believe the Bible on and on; I am not interested in this debate here. What I want to say is that a loving God is available to lend a hand in our growth, wisdom and love.

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Thoughts to Ponder!

“God’s definition of what matters is pretty straightforward.  He measures our lives by how we love.”
―    Francis Chan,    Crazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God


Eyes that look are common, eyes that see are rare.

J. Oswald Sanders

A wise man learns by the mistakes of others,
a fool by his own.
Latin Proverb

The more a man knows, the more he forgives.
Catherine the Great

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

happy valentines day

A Great Love Song entitled So Close:
 
 
 
One of my favorite love songs:
 
 
Night and day, you are the one
Only you ‘neath the moon or under the sun
Whether near to me or far, It’s no matter, darling, where you are
I think of you day and night
 
 
 
 
 
 
*

♫ ♥ ♫ ☺ ♫

May this year 2013

BE your year to learn to love, to love, be loved and renew your love!
Love isn’t perfect and the one you love isn’t perfect and you/I aren’t perfect

BUT we keep moving forward to make it work.

The poem below is the poem I wrote for my husband on our 40th Anniversary Sept 2012.

No holds barred imperfection and all.

Happy 40th Anniversary

Some would say
that loving is just a
piece of heaven
or maybe
somewhere between
here and there
the entrance
to the musical ladder of rainbow colors
or maybe
 between earth and that far off gal-axy
 in the midst of a whisper or a breathe
can this be true?
 i must believe the unbelievable truth
forever we could be, in love, eternally
inspired by a miracle
Magnetic

Your grin
your confident athletic stride
across that classroom
caught my heart by surprise
incredible
bending down
to spin the bottle
pick me! yes me! just once!
eye to eye
a glimpse of your glassy sea of love
hair locks of black ,brush mine
hush! time suspended
 i close my eyes
As your lips touch my cheek

All my prayers answered
in that moment
 when into my life he came
 for he was heaven sent,
 i believe in our love
too young to know your
olympian prowess
radiance
wanting, needing
carefree
compassion in your embrace
tender moments
your mouth invite kisses
forever changed
love flowed amidst
the vigor of a gazelle
and the courageous lioness
 n’er a gentler man
than this
caress of my brow
Your whispers

Let’s go for a ride
it’s such a warm evening
climbing into car
top down
your left hand on the wheel
my head on your shoulder
your arm on mine
my right hand catching the wind
to locking my fingers in yours
our hair tangled
many joyous tears flowed free
stopping the car jumping out
let’s dance in the rain
doesn’t matter
hold me tight
don’t let me go
noble steed was he
as his arm slowly stroke my back
pulled me close
precious moments were these
it’s gonna be
A beautiful night tonight

At lover’s lane
captivated by his charm
as he sang to me
 it is your strength i see, as you sing
you’ve opened a window to heaven’s light
my love for you will burn so bright
the night is young let’s swim
under this blanket of stars
refreshed
gathering driftwood to build a fire
your face shimmering in its blaze
enchanted
 as i sit here on the beach
my normal life seems so out of reach
the waves hitting the sand
flankers fly while you hold my hand
passion has seized my soul
ecstasy
all is quiet now
Only the ebb and flow of your breath

This is more
than picture perfect
it’s real
where naive love’s caress
and angels’ wings
 meet hallelujah
young love,
better than wine
unaware of ancient bliss
where once a vacant lot
 brokenness,
now a captivated heart
horizon clear,
hands turned fast
one, two, three, four,
fashioned by love
times are hard
but get back up
 your strength i make my own
for our future’s
Progeny

We forgot how to play
no, we’ve lost our way
bitter words
regret
let’s practise once more
into the depth
it shone again
savor love, love is beautiful
even at the end of your shift
at 4 am
tender touch
soft kiss on my cheek
snuggle in, warm my feet
tired, troubled
and how sweet magic returns
tender touch, lips sweet, fulfillment
 luminous door to the devine
our past came to kiss us here
wonderment, his voice, complete
Wholeness

But what about when I get old
will you still love me
on the ‘morrow?
 yea or née ’tis yea said i
oh love that wilt not let me go
love ’till evening fades
and dawn breaks
in another land
where happiness and love
fill an ocean eternal
who said?
there was ne’er a fountain of youth
ah we are sitting
at its feet
close to apple blossom flowers
With continuous ‘I Love You’!

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S is for Salmon and Sympathy!

Salmon is the common name for several species of fish in the family Salmonidae. Salmon live along the coasts of both the North Atlantic.

Typically, salmon are anadromous: they are born in fresh water, migrate to the ocean, then return to fresh water to reproduce.

Salmon is a highly nutritious food. Of course, it is high in protein, and the “good fats.” But did you know that a 4 oz serving of wild salmon provides a full day’s requirement of vitamin D? It is one of the few foods that can make that claim. That same piece of fish contains over half of the necessary B12, niacin, and selenium, and is an excellent source of B6 and magnesium. Salmon has omega 3, vitamin A.

fried salmon
Salmon fishing is a major part of recreation for the residents of my hometown of Deer Lake. One of the most enjoyed by my husband.

Some of my best memories focus around Big Falls, Newfoundland. Here the salmon is fantastic. Yes it is wonderful to taste the salmon but it is also a joy to watch nature in action.

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It is so refreshing to sit around the falls and watch people fly fishing for a salmon. It is also simply amazing to watch the salmon jump the falls. On one occasion a huge salmon tried to jump the falls and landed in my sister’s lap. Everyone I know has a story to tell about the salmon jumping the falls. How magnificent the fight, how splendid to see a salmon fly mid-air, spectacular sights and sounds of the falls.

salmon fishing at BF

Thes two pictures above is from the magazine from my home province.

http://www.downhomelife.com/

So here is my Newfie lingo coming out now.
It is such a joy and contentment perfect strangers on the waters just light up a conversation and become fast friends. Why, who would have known that a salmon the bonding ingredient to a conversation.

Around the falls watching salmon people in the like – camaraderie of nature open up their heart as unto a therapist. The joys of life and the tragedies that are still fresh in their mind and just opened up to you about. Sincere sympathy is the return in the conversation. Though you may have just met them for the first time it is a genuine response.

http://www.saen.org/?page_id=50

http://www.newfoundlandlabrador.com/planyourtrip/Detail/210319

There’s the magic; sympathy.

Sympathy is an extension of empathic concern, or the perception, understanding, and reaction to the distress or need of another human being. This empathic concern is driven by a switch in viewpoint, from a personal perspective with the perspective of another group or individual who is in need.

Sometimes we forget sympathy, harmony as this story of frustration illustrates.

Zig Ziglar tells a story of a successful big city businessman named Mr. B. Who ends up being late to work one day because of traffic. In the process he misses an important phone call. Irritated at traffic, Mr. B. calls in one of his managers into his office and yells at him about some missing reports he needed YESTERDAY! And guess what….the manager leaves the office noticeably upset.

He stomps right past his secretary and closes the door. She rings in his office and tells him she has an urgent message. He snarls at her, “My door was closed! Can’t you see I’m busy? Leave me alone.” The secretary doesn’t know what hit her. Now SHE is upset and she spends the rest of the day stewing about it is wondering what she did that was so wrong.

When she gets home she is still upset. She passes her 16 year old son’s bedroom. It is a grand mess. She hunts him down and finds him planted in front of the television set playing a video game. And she snaps. “If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you 1000 times, clean your room. Your grounded from electronics until your room is spotless.”

The teenager storms upstairs and heads to his bedroom. And guess who should cross his path but the family pet, “Fluffy” the cat. Without warning the teenager swings his foot back and lets’ fly. He gives Fluffy the cat a swift kick across the room. Fur flies as the cat skitters under the table wondering what it did that was so wrong.

Has the scene ever played out in your home? Zig Ziglar asks this question. He asks, “Wouldn’t it have been a lot easier on everybody if Mr. B went to the secretary’s home and kicked the cat himself?”
We ought to live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Actually to Be understanding of one another on an emotional level.

Here is a keen Illustration

Fathers, Mothers have you ever had one of your daughter’s have a bad day? She comes home from school distraught or crying. As a good father you listen, and you gather all the facts, and when you think you have heard enough of the facts you interject your sagely advice. You think to yourself, “This advice is REALLY GOOD!”

But then your daughter turns to you and stares and finally says, “Dad, you don’t get it. You still don’t understand.”

Father’s mother’s I can tell you, your daughter is not talking about facts. What she wants you to understand is her emotions, how she feels. She is reminding you that you need to try to understand where she is, not factual, but emotionally.

Sympathy and compassion should go hand in hand.

 Be compassionate and humble. Compassion is having a fellow feeling for. It’s allowing our heart to ache when someone else’s heart aches. That’s compassion.

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Sympathy is also very important when we see tragedies and death has affected our neighbors and friends.

Great Quotes –

Those we love don’t go away,
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear.
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,
Love leaves a memory no one can steal.

~ From a headstone in Ireland

“May tender memories soften your grief,
May fond recollection bring you relief,
And may you find comfort and peace in the thought
Of the joy that knowing your loved one brought…
For time and space can never divide
Or keep your loved one from your side.
When memory paints in colors true,
the happy hours that belonged to you.”

–Helen Steiner Rice

big falls

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