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Q is for Quiche and Quirky.

Quiche (/ˈkʃ/ KEESH) is a savory, open-faced pastry crust dish with a filling of savory custard with cheese, meat, fish or vegetables.  Quiche has a pastry crust and a filling of eggs and milk or cream which, when baked, become a custard.

quiche-lorraine

My favorite is Quiche Lorraine and I like the added twist of spinach that is not in the recipe.

http://allrecipes.com/recipe/quiche-lorraine-i/

Quiche Julia Child way.

http://www.boston.com/lifestyle/food/2012/08/21/recipe-for-quiche-lorraine/rWKZiFtm9PGjAvdOxdb1BL/story.html

Now don’t get to excited Quiche is not just for women.  It is not a sexist dish. Quiche is a quirky type dish that has lots of charm and nutrition.

That’s an unusual trait: Quirky. Characterized by peculiar or unexpected traits: “quirky charm”.

We can’t be perfect although we strive to be our best self. However what makes a person SO interesting is the quirky characteristic.

Quirkiness definitely first and foremost has these 6 qualities:

  • Curiosity about world
  • Find positive in things
  • Fully engaged in the moment
  • Gracious
  • Passion for LIfe

These 6 above then kick starts into the following:

Believe me it takes no strength to be a hater – real strength is pushing beyond your past, present, the flaws, and letting stuff go and embrace the positive more important virtues. In spite of all the virtues we should strive for, you don’t have to be a cookie cutter  person you can have your own quirky ways to display love, kindness and optimism.

To be quirky means a more original, to think out of the box some would say a little off the wall. Now don’t go overboard and become so freakish people will run when you walk down the street.

I think quirky means a uniqueness.  Be unique in representing the creator. Be unique in the way you love. Be unique in your creativity.  Be unique in a way you make your imprint on this planet.

It’s the humor and tenderness combined.  It’s the sensitivity and stalwart combined.

A truly quirky person does not, I repeat does not have to fall in line with current commercials and advertisements and society’s expectation of what is beautiful in body image, size or color schemes.  Not focused on mass media and trends not changing to please everyone except the creator. To know yourself well. To follow true to excelling in vitreous living.

Of course quirkiness has to allow for individual daily ways of living or rituals, likes and dislikes.

My quirks

Can’t sleep without 3 pillows
Love the feel of Clean sheets
Don’t spring out of bed Wake up in the morning very slowly
Love clean for others
Love clean floor

Love mirrors
Like neatness
Don’t like people yelling
Prefer children’s cartoons
Like to lay on the beach wrapped in quilt who am I kidding I love being wrapped in a quilt all day long
Love sitting on lazy boy chair with my laptop
Love the words ‘I love you’ – some days I may say it 50 times
Love licorice
I always announce that I have to go the washroom
Won’t drink after anyone [using the glass belonging to anyone] else not even my husband
Won’t use a facecloth used by someone else
I always have a ‘To do’ list
Must shower before housecleaning

I must know major parts or sometimes the ending of movies with a lot of suspense or I can’t watch them

I could say more but you might think I’m crazy 😀

How quirky are you?

Quirky Facts:

  • The leg muscles of a locust are about 1000 times more powerful than an equal weight of human muscle.
  • A sneeze travels out of your mouth at over 100 mph.
  • The blue whale can produce sounds up to 188 decibels. This is the loudest sound produced by a living animal and has been detected as far away as 530 miles.
  • There are between 100,000,000,000 and 1,000,000,000,000 stars in a normal galaxy.
  • By raising your legs slowly and laying on your back, you can’t sink in quicksand. [haven’t tested it though]
  • Diamonds are the hardest substance known to man.
  • On average, Elephants sleep for about 2 hours per day.
  • Shark’s teeth are literally as hard as steel.
  • Two out of every three couples turn their heads to the right when they kiss.
  • Talk about a rush! Kissing releases the same neurotransmitters in our brains as parachuting, bungee jumping, and running.

Quirky Quotes:

 

“I have wondered at times what the Ten Commandments would have looked like if Moses had run them through the U.S. Congress.”   ~ Ronald Reagan

 

Opportunity may knock once, but temptation bangs on your front door forever.

 

Originality is a by product of sincerity.  – Marianne Moore

Quirky Videos

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J is for Jam and Joyful!

Fruit preserves are preparations of fruits, vegetables and sugar, often canned or sealed for long-term storage. The preparation of fruit preserves today often involves adding commercial or natural pectin as a gelling agent, although sugar or honey may be used.

Putting Jam on bread or biscuit is simply delicious. Jam adds a Joyful Delight to an ordinary mundane cracker or croissant.

I like that word Joyful.

Feeling, causing, or indicating joy. Glad!

When was the last time you laughed and was happy and warm fuzzies just for the sheer joyfulness of life and living?

Try laughing out loud even if you don’t feel like it.  Smile even if you don’t feel like it…Something triggers our innermost self.

Joy is untouched by circumstance

We don’t live in a stress-free, trouble-free world; so we should learn to live it with joy.  Joy is an internal constant.  So if it’s not there then you have to rethink your heart.  Our viewpoint, perspective is very important and a direct link to that internal place of joy.

Internal JOY says; you meant it for evil but God meant it for Good.  IN other words this day is the pits but I am thankful and Joyful because I am living this day no matter what. All things will work out for the good in the end.

God is my center, innermost being that stirs a delight in my existence to life.

The psalmist encourages to “Delight yourself in the Lord and God will give you the desires of your heart.”

Once we have allowed ourselves the time and practice of a calmer joyful self there is little room for meltdowns and frazzled feelings. Once we realize that life doesn’t have to be perfect to be joyful and even happy.

I must confess the central source of my joy comes from God.  There are many who do not believe in a greater power and that is certainly their choice. However for me God gives me a center, balance and harmony. The joy of the Lord is my strength. That joyful inner strength cannot be accessed if I always want more and more but is accessed when I am gracious and tolerant and kind.

Please be encouraged. That internal joy helps us see the important things today. See the big picture.

Have you ever had moments when your spirit is frustrated or upset and not sure why?  I have and I have had to take a moment and think why?  Then I remember oOoOh it was that lapse in judgement or that moment I got angry, or that moment I was worried or that negative thought or that was selfish!  The negative overshadowed.  

I realize that there are many who suffer from depression and their day is most excruciating.  They find it hard to find their balance, their central joy.  Be assured of God’s love for you and God is touched and aware of feelings of y/our infirmities. Through my darkest hours I have encouraged myself by saying;  I can do all things through God who strengthens me.  If you are at a place of acute depression my prayer is you will find a caring professional help.

You or I can do things during these depressing times by making large projects or tasks into smaller segments thereby more manageable. Don’t stay in bed too long; change things up. Don’t expect too much from yourself doing the worst moments.
Though you may feel like you are being pulled under the shadow of despair find ways to resist lethargy, procrastination, obsession, negativity and the pull of violence.  Keep working, moving forward. Every step of movement will actually help you.
Fight to maintain positive thoughts. Keep working on making joy your goal.  Appreciate the little things.

If you are interested in understanding, a starting point of depression, here is a great book entitled Undoing Depression here is the site:

http://www.amazon.com/Undoing-Depression-Therapy-Doesnt-Medication/dp/0425166791

There is a Proverb that says Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flows the springs of life.

I encourage you and myself to supporting those who suffer from despair, depression and disappointment.  We all need Love; We all need Joy; We all need Hugs; We all need Acceptance; We all need Respect!  In giving love, joy, hugs, acceptance and respect; You guessed it we reap more JOY!

I declare; I’m not lettin anybody/anything steal my joy.


There is something about a child, innocence and an innate virtue of joyfulness.

Photo taken by Twila Auger Austin Photography

Photo taken by Twila Auger Austin Photography


I try to keep an inner humor, childlike joyful even silly humor alive especially for my grandbabies.

Q. How do you make seven an even number?

A. Take the s out!

Joyful springs to mind a movie Sister Act 2.

I love watching the movie starring Whoopi Goldberg] wtih Laurn HIll  singing with the choir an oldie but a goodie written “Joyful, Joyful We Adore Thee” is a poem written by Henry van Dyke in 1907 with the intention of musically setting it to the famous “Ode to Joy” melody of the final movement of Ludwig van Beethoven‘s final symphony, Symphony No. 9.

Joyful, joyful, we adore Thee, God of glory, Lord of love;
Hearts unfold like flowers before Thee, opening to the sun above.
Melt the clouds of sin and sadness; drive the dark of doubt away;
Giver of immortal gladness, fill us with the light of day!

All Thy works with joy surround Thee, earth and heaven reflect Thy rays,
Stars and angels sing around Thee, center of unbroken praise.
Field and forest, vale and mountain, flowery meadow, flashing sea,
Singing bird and flowing fountain call us to rejoice in Thee.

Thou art giving and forgiving, ever blessing, ever blessed,
Wellspring of the joy of living, ocean depth of happy rest!
Thou our Father, Christ our Brother, all who live in love are Thine;
Teach us how to love each other, lift us to the joy divine.

Mortals, join the happy chorus, which the morning stars began;
Father love is reigning o’er us, brother love binds man to man.
Ever singing, march we onward, victors in the midst of strife,
Joyful music leads us Sunward in the triumph song of life.

Quotes I am Pondering Today!

When we are centered in joy, we attain our wisdom.” Marianne Williamson

“Joy is a sustained sense of well-being and internal peace – a connection to what matters.” Oprah

“We need Joy as we need air.
We need Love as we need water.
We need each other as we need the earth we share.”  Maya Angelou

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I is for Iced Tea and Integrity!

One advertisement of Iced Tea boasts that it is; An iced tea made with a progressive bottling process that extracts oxygen, the cause of food spoilage. With oxygen gone, so is the need to laden the product with chemicals or preservatives. The result is an organic tea that is as pure as any tea freshly prepared.  It is actually very delicious.

Brewed from the same leaves as hot teas, iced tea has the same health benefits as its warmer counterpart. Numerous studies have shown that higher levels of flavonoids and other substances in tea give it many antioxidant properties. Adding lemon juice, which contains high amounts of beneficial vitamin C and potassium, to your iced tea not only lends flavor, but can increase the health benefits as well.

Don’t you just love a Iced Tea with a twist of Lemon on a warm day!!

iced tea

Iced tea assists in increasing the strength of the immune system. It protects teeth from plaque with many health experts recommending it for people looking to shed some weight.

A person who loves his/her tea can sit with an ice tea firm in their integrity.

Whoho  “Integrity”

What is Integrity?

Don’t you just love Wipedia.

Integrity is a concept of consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes. In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one’s actions. Integrity can be regarded as the opposite of hypocrisy,[1] in that integrity regards internal consistency as a virtue, and suggests that parties holding apparently conflicting values should account for the discrepancy or alter their beliefs.

To be a person of integrity can on occasion be a tall order but necessary courage.

A person of integrity is validated by their words and deeds. Integrity is making your daily actions line up with your heart’s values.

In other words, what I say and what I do give evidence as to who I am.

Now that is significant because how I feel in my heart, I Must do, less I become closer to a weakling, a fake, a coward. Oh my that is huge.

Mark Twain said: “Speaking honestly is better. It takes a lot of stress out of our lives. If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything, but if you don’t tell the truth you have to remember what you said.”

If I have integrity then I have a guidance, a peace, a path. No need to worry. I will have a moral compass.

When tested a person of integrity will do what is right.

Since integrity begins in our heart.  For me; that means I must ask God to examine my heart to see if there be anything unbecoming a lady.

My encouragement; don’t cave in.  Even when all things are going wrong remain faithful.  Be a person of integrity.  Be blameless.  Don’t be persuaded by others to diminish your integrity.

“Everybody else is doing it?” This is one of the most lame rationalizations that we could use to justify our actions.

I care what the creator thinks of me.  I want to remain integral in all my dealings!

Again what does integrity look like? If you/I is a person of integrity it will reflect in every facet of our lives. How we act/react in our relationships; our business, our marriage, friendship, acquaintances, writing, words, sports, politics, sickness, spiritual life, thoughts, extra curricular or testing or turmoil.  Nothing goes untouched.

It is open and honest in all y/our dealings! WOW!

Integrity

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Quotes I am Pondering Today!

If you take care of yourself and walk with integrity, you may be confident that God will deal with those who sin against you. Above all, don’t give birth to sin yourself; rather, pray for those who persecute you. God will one day turn your persecution into praise. Warren Wiersbe

Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you.  H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home. Confucius

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F is for Fish and Friendliness and Friendship!

Fish is very good for you.

Some of my Vegetarian and Vegan friends would disagree with me [although maybe you have to aquire a taste for fish] however I stick to my guns…fish is very nutritious.

Fish is an excellent source of omega-3 fatty acids. Fish is low in fat and high in protein. It is said that low levels of omega-fatty acids contribute to many health issues. The omega 3 fatty acids in fish may reduce the risk of cancer, cardiovascular disease, dementia, depression and more.

fish-and-chips

I’m a Newfoundlander and I was raised on fish especially cod, tuna, salmon, trout. Going trouting was a great pastime for many of my friends. It still remains one of my husbands favorite things to do. I remember many occasions where I would build a little fire on shore and sit and sip a tea watching him fish.

Sadly I have to agree that the people of earth are not taking care of our resources thereby slowly but surely the fish of the sea are becoming endangered.

I want to care for our waters so they can remain fish friendly and have food for years to come.

If we can try to be friendly toward our resources surely we can be friendly toward each other.

That’s it ‘Friendliness‘ the word for today.

Friendliness a quality necessary for human interaction but also to be successful. If we want a relationship with others that is warm and successful it means being open, taking the risk, inviting them into a relationship with you. It may seem scary at first but allow yourself to be vulnerable with others. Now don’t be naive and of course I don’t think you are, but not all people will want to reciprocate the gesture.

Time to be Friendly! Bring your heart, Open it up and be Friendly!
First off if you want friends then you must show yourself friendly.

Some people think that showing yourself friendly is a weakness but in fact it is a sign of strength.

The distance between friendliness and friends is huge. Being friendly is an outward show of an inner quality that desires to keep the peace and the surrounding environment calm, warm and enjoyable.

Friendships go beyond being friendly.

The generosity and love and excitement between two people sharing one’s spirit is magnetic. There is much to learn between two friends as they embrace the differences between each other.

winnie th epooh

We are social beings and believe it or not friendship is an incredible part of our life. In fact I believe we need friends.

It is good for you/I to have a friend or friends that inspire us and take our hand and together travel on a higher plane to become our better selves. They also enjoy the simple things with you by kicking back enjoying a tea or laughing at something silly, dance in the rain, reaching out in time of need.

Yes friends make mistakes and break a confidence, or hurt you, and yes some friendships end but don’t let those things steer you away from being a great friend.

I thank God for my 3 friends of my youth whom I still feel close to though time, provinces and reality has placed much space but remain kindred spirits in our hearts.

Of course my hubby is still my best and favorite friend. I am free to be open and honest.

If you have friend/s cherish them, respect them, do your best to not let them down.

Quotes I am Pondering Today!

In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit. Albert Schweitzer

I have friends in overalls whose friendship I would not swap for the favor of the kings of the world.- Thomas A. Edison

True friendship never questions what it costs you. Stephen Richards

Check out this Video  ‘I am a Friend’

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Well it’s tomorrow and it’s 2013!

Don’t be afraid to face life. The only fragrance you need is forgiveness.
May you trust the Creator in Everything.
May you have someone to love, someone who will forgive your faults.
May that someone tell everyone about your wonderful qualities, virtues, and talents.
May your past be a tool to blast past the trash.
May you live the very best life. Each day is a brand new day to make it right.
May you become an amazing triumphant classy dame or gent….
God Bless you All! ♫ ☺♫ 🙂

My dear friend on occasion send and resend the following video; it is so inspiring in a simple way.


It’s already tomorrow…keeping loving OK?

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Quotes I am pondering today:

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows; it empties today of its strength.” Corrie ten Boom

 “When one door closes, another opens, but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.” -Alexander Graham Bell

Fun Love LIfe

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I’M HOPING TO HAVE FUN UNWRAPPING THE MYSTERY OF 2013!

my birthday gift

I will endeavor NOT to hurt the ones I love. Sometimes decisions do not have a blanket approval But I will do my best to honor the creator and honor you while maintaining an honorable self.

We have a memory together. They are not all perfect but a cherished memory nonetheless.

I am so blessed and happy in spite of the bumps in the road.

My Road is paved with roses and love.
I WILL TRY TO LIVE WITHOUT REGRETS.

Here is one of my poems from 2012

pearls
string of pearls

dark
it all came crashing down
under my feet the ground
gave way,
did i hear spurgeon’s voice
look! see
it’s a silvery strand of faith
akin to the strand by silver strand
woven by the spider
its spin of splenderous sheen,

faith feels for certain
what cannot be seen
such a splendid thing,

it’s the thread
upon which the pearls
of the grace are hung
it has always
held the graces not the voices
of vice and depravity,

graces of such pristine value
as dancers through the day
with graceful artistic expression
with elegant hand position
pirouette return to
finish in arabesque
strength and poise
of tip toe in ballet pointe
adagio the slow enfolding
artistic movements
spotting and spinning with
balance
such grace
how the magic flows,

far beyond such majesty
is the pearls upon the silver
strand of faith
graces of gemstone value
love, joy and peace
and the impact so rare of
patience, kindness
nacreous of goodness
refections of
gentleness and self control
and of course your
irridencence display
of faithfulness
when you
stand by me in spite
of time and trouble,

i know i’m truly blessed
because
you
graced me with your graces
in truest
rhapsody…©

beverley hoyles
July 25, 2012

Thank you for your giving into my life. Thank you for those who poured into my life.

I am grateful and I too think to myself what a wonderful world.

Louis Armstrong  Video…

I am grateful for the smiles of love.
I am so grateful I feel love, know love and I want to give it away.
Will you help me do this one thing?

Positive or Negative

why it’s the frown
a mighty negative down
multiple muscle use
spread it’s
negative even now
can you feel
it’s nasty supression

mirror neurons
spread its joy
with every smile
can’t you feel
such positive affect
every time
with great compassion
such love

set in stone
memories cannot change
but our future
not made known
so let’s make
it happen in every zone ©
beverley hoyles Dec 2012

WHAT IF THERE ARE DISAPPOINTMENTS?

Let’s not kid ourselves
We live in a non perfect world and we will have disappointments.

As much as it pleases God to bless you, there will be moments when everything you try goes up in smoke. There will be moments when the one you counted on most walks away and leaves you groping through blinding tears and wailing questions of why. Plans and goals can be circumvented by the most disappointing of times, leaving you learning the art of patience and the acceptance of a denied request. TD Jakes

May I express my gratitude that you are here right now.

Love, Love, Love…

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Beverley

I cannot go without mentioning one of the reasons why I am on this earth!

Stop Abuse! I want to see an end to Abuse!

Martina McBride – Concrete Angel Video

I hope that I can learn the art of marketing while promoting my book in grace because I genuinely believe it is worthwhile and helpful to those who suffer abuse, those who never suffered abuse, those who would like to educate themselves, and of course for those who may or may not have friends who suffer.

It is available on all Amazon sites around the world, Barnes and Noble, Chapters Indigo. Available in paperback or ebooks for kindle or kobo. If you click the book cover below it will direct you to one of the amazon sites.Beverley Hoyles CVR and spine

My book Feet First is also available from our office by emailing from my website http://www.feetfirst-book.com/

A man named Paul; a very bright man said some very interesting words to ponder.

Go ahead dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you:

  • compassion
  • kindness
  • humility
  • quiet strength
  • discipline
  • even-tempered
  • content with second place
  • quick to forgive an offense
  • wear love

It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it. Isn’t that most descriptive and inviting and worthy to action.

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Let the peace of God keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. And cultivate thankfulness. Let the words giving take the lead. Give it plenty of room in your lives. Instruct and direct one another using good common sense. And sing, sing your hearts out to God! Let every detail in your lives—words, actions, whatever—be done in the name of the Creator thanking God every step of the way.
Let the peace of God rule… Peace on earth goodwill toward man!

My interpretation of 4 important words:
Peacekeeping – suggests dealing with conflict like many of our soldiers have been deployed to do.
Peacemaking – spiritual experience and daily requirement.

Thankful – acknowledge, expression.
Gratitude – deeper declaration, motivator and for me require God ‘s help.

A grateful heart should lead to peace. We are to be people of peace.

I believe God is able to help us in our humanity. Allow your grateful heart release peace in y/our daily lives.

The peace of God with understanding will guard your heart and mind.

It’s funny with the center and the core of who we are is at peace how we respond to turmoil and confusion from without. Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when the creator it displaces worry at the center of your life.

Christmas spirit is actually related to the birth of Christ born to exemplify and give peace.
Inward Christmas Peace is necessary to release to others.

The world and many individuals are facing loneliness and stormy days, traumatic events needing peace.    Needing calm.
We need peace but we also need to be so enriched with loving peace that we can give it away daily.

To aid in peace we have to have a more complete thought life. We already think about the things that hurt, negative. We need to add to our thoughts.

Eloquent Paul had more provoking, astonishing, timeless yet encouraging things to say. Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.

Middle Arm Peace by Gladys England Noble

Quotes to Ponder:

I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace. Helen Keller

Happiness without peace is temporal; peace along with happiness is eternal. James H. Aughey

First keep peace with yourself, then you can also bring peace to others. Thomas Kempis

Peace is more than just the absence of war. True peace is justice, true peace is freedom. And true peace dictates the recognition of human rights. Ronald Regan

An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind. Mahatma Gandhi

I think that people want peace so much that one of these days government had better get out of their way and let them have it. Dwight D. Eisenhower

God cannot give us a happiness and peace apart from Himself, because it is not there. There is no such thing. C.S. Lewis


at cayman islands

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I know life is busy and for you to take the time to read this; I am most honored. Blessings!

So this is Christmas, so what have you done?

What a Powerful question.

So this is Christmas
And what have you done
Another year over
And a new one just begun

This time of year I have a Performance Appraisal. It gives me the willies; those old feelings arise, I don’t want to think that I did not measure up somehow.

Ralph Marston said, Don’t lower your expectations to meet your performance. Raise your level of performance to meet your expectations. Expect the best of yourself, and then do what is necessary to make it a reality.

The question still stands!

So what have we done for:

  • Family
  • Charity
  • Neighbor
  • Job
  • Character
  • Personal Growth
  • Thankfulness
  • Pay it Forward
  • Having fun
  • Peace

The question at this time of year; should we measure/compare to others, let us off the hook, to see our strengths, weaknesses, are there any unresolved issues.  Whether we want to or not, we leave a trail of who we are. Only you/I , at the end of the day can answer the questions.

so this is christmas and

It is one thing to succumb to undue pressure another than to move out of our comfort zone to challenge ourselves.

In a psychology course the author said that EXPECTATIONS are made up of OUR experiences, OUR beliefs, OUR values, OUR perceptions, OUR knowledge. And yet we place them on OTHERS to perform to OUR standards not THEIR own.

The REALITY – placing our expectations on others often get an unwanted reaction. Other people are giving what they are capable of out of their experiences, their beliefs, their values, their perceptions, their knowledge. Not y/ours.

Remember that this doesn’t mean that you or I won’t have hurt feelings or disappointments. Let’s not let that define who we are or impede y/our self-worth. We need to move forward and be objective.

In reality there is only one that can present an expectation to all of humanity and that is the creator.  If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. 

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare/well being and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

“Feed your fears and your faith will starve. Feed your faith, and your fears wills.” Max Lucado

“Put your expectations on God, not on people.”  ― Joyce Meyer

“Strive for excellence, not perfection, because we don’t live in a perfect world.” ― Joyce Meyer

Brian Tracy – Your attitude is an expression of your values, beliefs and expectations.

So as Chuck Swindoll will say; The remarkable thing is, we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

Choosing to be positive and having a grateful attitude is going to determine how you’re going to live your life.  Joel Osteen

So we are back to the questions without comparison, undue pressure, but move out of our comfort zone to make a difference.

So This is Christmas and What have you/I Done?

So what will we do for:

    • Family
    • Charity
    • Neighbor
    • Job
    • Character
    • Personal Growth
    • Thankfulness
    • Pay it Forward
    • Having Fun
    • Peace

Now What are we gonna do about our unfinished business?

 

Would you like to take a few minutes to listen to these videos; thanks.

So this is Christmas Celine Dion

Sheryl Crow  Happy Christmas  (War is Over)

John Lennon So This is Christmas

Maroon 5

Thanks for reading my Blog today!  Merry Christmas!

Day 29 of my 30 Day Thankfulness Challenge; I am thankful for the essence of Family.  😀

Family for me; includes parents, brothers and sisters, caregivers, extended family of my spouse, sons-in law’s and daughter-in law’s family, people I have met that are now a part of my family, people from different churches, even pets, and people from the most unusual places such as Facebook.  For friends that have stayed faithful  to me through many years are all really family. For others there are blended families and many more complexities form families.

The key to any family is to love lavishly. Care cuddles, provide safety and comfort for each member. Kids thirst for parental acceptance — they long for their mother and father to reinforce their worth. Parental priority is to purpose in guiding each child’s emotional life.

If a parent fails here and reinforce a dysfunctional family by any type of abuse or trauma or neglect or suppression that child’s life is changed forever.

Being parents or leaders of a family is God-given with an important duty to meet a child’s need for affirmation. First and foremost is to pour blessing not cursing upon your child.

God has given mother and father but especially mothers the loving, nurturing quality that care for our children – feeding them, dressing them, changing diaper after diaper, it is God who gives them breath so we are not in this alone. God knows the number of hairs on their head and the days of their life.

As I ponder the life of children I am amazed once more by the awesome power of God to give life. I cannot begin to imagine that there is another out there that could love my children, grandchildren more than me except God.  I am comforted on many occasions knowing That God hold them and me in the creator’s hands.

A very important part of the family is forgiveness.  We all need forgiveness at different times.  Some have to forgive normal ordinary things others have to forgive abuse or crime or addiction.

Forgiveness is letting it go, to release.  With all one’s heart/wholeheartedly, freely granting freedom and blessing. Mind you it has little to do with feelings or trust.  It is a decision to let it go, let go of disappointments, let go of hurts and pain, let go of regrets or what we view as justice or what is right.

In abusive relationships the dynamics and healing process is critical.

Lily Tomlin said: To forgive is to give up all hope for a better past.

“There comes a critical time in each person’s life when the truth is accessible. Faced with it, you can either run and hide, denying it, or you can face your truth, accept it, and grow stronger,” wrote Gregory Jantz in Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse.

“While the optimum situation is for both parties in an abusive situation to seek help, Dr. Tim Clinton, President of the American Association of Counselors, insists one person can change the relationship. 

“Change a person; change a relationship,” he says.

Dr. Tim Clinton says that “with professional help—and by following some basic principles you can break the cycle of abuse in your life and begin your healing journey”

I know I have oversimplified 6 of his suggestions but you get the drift.

  • Truth and disclosure is the first step
  • Seek professional help and guidance
  • Set appropriate boundaries
  • Find and maintain healthy relationships by surrounding yourself with a group of people that will support you
  • Do what you can and trust God for added strength
  • Forgiveness is not denying but opens door to healing

In Any Family – Love, respect, kindness, warmth, fun, challenge, learning and affection are some important ingredients in the family. If we’re going to grow and mature in spirit, then we’ve got to grow in love.

Stages of Family

The family is like a human body everyone needs each other, and everyone helps another.

I really want a family atmosphere that will be a center of love, created in such a way that any hurts, brokenness, worry or fear is healed and God is seen always. Plenty of hugs, kindness, tears and laughter given freely.

Pertinent Quotes:

“This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.”

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love”

Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.”   ― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving

When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice. – Cherokee

Psalmist said, Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me.

Continually forgive others. Forgive AT ONCE, not one second later, not one half second later, because if you hesitate to forgive, jealousy comes in the door, than hatred and envy. Forgive instantly as Christ forgives instantly.  Gerontissa Makrina

“When love, acceptance and forgiveness prevail, the church becomes what Jesus was in the world: a center of love, designed for the healing of broken people, and a force for God… One of the greatest services a church can offer a community is to provide a place for people to be brought to wholeness – to be healed physically, spiritually and emotionally… People are fragmented. They are torn. Life doesn’t work for them because they are without Jesus… They need a place to be healed.” (Jerry Cook).

 

We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves.  Henry Ward Beecher

People who have good relationships at home are more effective in the marketplace. Zig Ziglar

Charity begins at home, but should not end there.  Thomas Fuller

Proverb  “The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.”

Thanks for reading my bLoG!

Day 26  of my 30 Day Thankfulness Challenge; I am thankful for a kiss.  😀

Nothing like receiving or giving a kiss to child, grandbaby, friend or spouse.

to love you
to kiss you
to hold you
to be with you
and kiss you again
gives meaning
and made my life
worthwhile
every day i live
with many a smile..©
 
beverley
 

It has been said that when ready for commitment; Kissing helps us choose a great mate. I read somewhere that the endorphins produced by kissing are more than 200 times more powerful than morphine.

Kissing is so great that it helps us live longer and enhances self -esteem, a great de-stressor exercises facial muscles and of course there is a bonus; Kissing burns 6 calories.

There is a motherly, sisterly, friendly kiss that is important to relationships. It is a wonderful, kind, loving gesture.

It is simply splendid to hold your little child inside your hug and just kiss their little cheek.  It is one of the most wonderful thing in the world.  It is also a most wonderful privilege to be able to hold your little grandbaby and just kiss their little cheeks and squeeze their chin with delight. To kiss your grandbaby Goodnight is more wonderful than kissing an angel.

Day 26 nanny and emma

Blowing Kisses; how cute is that. Blowing kisses ‘see you later’ type kisses is marvelous cause you know you will see your child or grandchild later. Wow you cannot beat a child’s love.  SO sweet is a child’s love.

Kisses, even to the air, are beautiful.

Louis Armstrong sang a song A Kiss To Build A Dream On – Lyrics by Bert Kalmar, Harry Ruby and Oscar Hammerstein II in 1935.

Give me a kiss to build a dream on
And my imagination will thrive upon that kiss
Sweetheart, I ask no more than this
A kiss to build a dream on ….
Give me a kiss before you leave me
And my imagination will feed my hungry heart
Leave me one thing before we part
A kiss to build a dream on
When I’m alone with my fancies…i’ll be with you
Weaving romances…making believe they’re true
 
Give me your lips for just a moment
And my imagination will make that moment live
Give me what you alone can give
A kiss to build a dream on
(instrumental break)
When I’m alone with my fancies…i’ll be with you
Weaving romances…making believe they’re true
Give me a kiss to build a dream on
And my imagination will thrive upon that kiss
Ah sweetheart, I ask no more than this
A kiss to build a dream on
 
********
Lyrics from:
 
http://www.lyricsfreak.com/l/louis+armstrong/a+kiss+to+build+a+dream+on_20085354.html
or
http://www.elyrics.net/read/l/louis-armstrong-lyrics/a-kiss-to-build-a-dream-on-lyrics.html

The Psalmist said,  Steadfast love and faithfulness meet; righteousness and peace kiss each other.

“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth – for your love is more delightful than wine”

Watch –  Louis is singing the song….Would you take a moment to LISTEN :D..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Y6EMMhDCGo

Thanks for reading my blog…NOW go Kiss someone!

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