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guilty-conscience

In my opinion;
Some of the most popular literature in the world is found in the book of Psalms; the songbook of Israel which most were set to music.

I am only one of millions who love Psalm 23,The Lord is my Shepherd, Psalm 90, the oldest Psalm, written by Moses, Psalm 46, a favorite read at funerals, God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Post adultery Psalm 51.

Have you ever had trouble- trying to silence a guilty conscience?

Guilt in the back of our minds can drive us nuts.

Many people try all sorts of ways to deal with the terrible feelings of guilt and the low self-esteem that inevitably comes after they’ve messed up.

Some people try to Deny it or make excuses or they try to ignore it

OR you can Deaden your guilt, by eating, drinking, inhaling, or injecting something to make the pain go away.

Sometimes people try to compensate by doing something good -Guilt is a powerful motivator.

It’s not unusual for people to goof up and be stupid or be unwise or get loss in the moment and make a mistake or get lazy let down their guard and commit a sin.

When we do something wrong, you or I can try to cover it up or fess up.

Because I have friends who have suffered the after effects of adultery I often think of the story of King David and his adultery with Bathsheba.

David wrote Psalm 51 after his sin of adultery right after being found out his attempt to cover up didn’t work.

So here’s the true story: David is lazing around in the palace when he should have been at work with his armies [fighting the Ammonites] with too much time on his hands and happens to see a woman taking a bath, and instantly lust takes hold, and he tells his servant, bring her to me. Bathsheba of course, being the wife of Uriah One of the highest ranking men who helped him win many victories…

And wouldn’t you know that after this little affair Bathsheba gets pregnant and the great cover up begins. He brings Uriah home from the war, and try’s several times to get him to sleep with Bathsheba, but being an honorable soldier – he won’t.

Since that didn’t work David put Uriah in front of a battle to get him killed – The plan works, Uriah dies.

David immediately marries Bathsheba.

I wonder, did David have a guilty conscience? I believe the creator was displeased with David’s actions.

I often wonder what 8 months of Bathsheba’s pregnancy were like. Was she suspicious of David, what were his thoughts.

I think he was gonna try to deal with it by not dealing with it.

Ignore it.

But creator God is not gonna let him forget it.

Enter; God’s prophet Nathan came to confront him.

 

What has history told us what David said; “I have sinned against the Lord!”

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Even if you aren’t a Bible believing person Psalm 51- a psalm of David is amazing.

Psalm 51

1  Have mercy on me, O God,
    according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
    blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
    and cleanse me from my sin.

For I know my transgressions,
    and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
    and done what is evil in your sight;
so you are right in your verdict
    and justified when you judge.
Surely I was sinful at birth,
    sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb;
    you taught me wisdom in that secret place.

Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
    wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Let me hear joy and gladness;
    let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
Hide your face from my sins
    and blot out all my iniquity.
10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
    and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
    or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
    and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me

 

I guess what I am saying is that the Only way to deal with a guilty conscience – ADMIT.

 

We are responsible for our own lives and It does no good to blame other people, or blame my circumstances.

Edgar Allen Poe’s story, “The Telltale Heart”?

In that story, the main character has committed murder and he buries the body under floorboards in his house. But the murderer can’t escape the guilt of his deed.

He begins to hear the heartbeat of his dead victim. A cold sweat pours over him as that heartbeat goes on and on, relentlessly, getting louder and louder.

Finally the noise in his head is driving him crazy, he can’t take it anymore, he’s sure everyone else must hear it too, and they’re just taunting him by ignoring, it, just playing with him. And so finally in a fit of desperation, he confesses everything and shows policemen the body.

I would be stupid to think that our/my actions doesn’t hurt others. For me personally because of my commitment I have to make it right with the creator before I can make it right with my family or neighbor.

Guilt is good if we allow it to guide us to better decisions.

Dr. Brand who spent much of his life in India working with leprosy patients made a major discovery – Because of the lack of pain they were constantly injuring themselves which would result in amputation.

Guilt is just as important to our lives as pain and it is a warning sign that helps us know that something needs to change.

There are bad choices, mistakes, neglects that are not sins, but may require forgiveness.  But there are things I choose to believe are sin. We are caught in a web -in a mess, sin, stupidity – we need mercy and grace – well I do.

Mercy to escape the bad, and grace to be given the goodness of forgiveness and freedom to go forward.

Forgiveness does not come cheaply neither physically, emotionally nor spiritually. (Someone pays)

For the psalmist David he understood this –  in his day they dipped hyssop in the blood of sacrificed animals and applied to the altar or doorposts over the house.

As I follow the teachings of Christ – it is inherent in his teachings that if we ( I ) sin it is paid by his shed blood. My relationship with my creator allows a Higher accountability for my thoughts, words and actions.

In the case of adultery blood spills because the lifeblood of the relationship dies.

Rarely, it is recovered through forgiveness.

It’s that powerful force of love That gives us forgiveness, mercy and grace.

The psalmist said Create in me a pure heart, O God, renew a steadfast spirit within me. Restore unto me the joy. We all need strength and power to keep us on tract and stay away from that which caused us guilt in the first place.

What’s the use of guilt alone – but “I’m sorry” “I repent” and I want to make a change is necessary.

A change of heart.
A change of mind.
and A change of direction.

Such contrition removes guilt AND joy replaces inner anguish.

Truly each of us is in charge of our lives and choices and we are often challenged by them.

However, it is important to note that whatever we do there are ripple effects.

Don’t get me wrong; we will make mistakes, but whatever happens in your life – Admit and Go Forward.

I know it’s been a serious tone tonight on my blog, but do come back.

Stay Kind Hearted!
Stay Safe!

 

Thanks for reading my blog.

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S is for Salmon and Sympathy!

Salmon is the common name for several species of fish in the family Salmonidae. Salmon live along the coasts of both the North Atlantic.

Typically, salmon are anadromous: they are born in fresh water, migrate to the ocean, then return to fresh water to reproduce.

Salmon is a highly nutritious food. Of course, it is high in protein, and the “good fats.” But did you know that a 4 oz serving of wild salmon provides a full day’s requirement of vitamin D? It is one of the few foods that can make that claim. That same piece of fish contains over half of the necessary B12, niacin, and selenium, and is an excellent source of B6 and magnesium. Salmon has omega 3, vitamin A.

fried salmon
Salmon fishing is a major part of recreation for the residents of my hometown of Deer Lake. One of the most enjoyed by my husband.

Some of my best memories focus around Big Falls, Newfoundland. Here the salmon is fantastic. Yes it is wonderful to taste the salmon but it is also a joy to watch nature in action.

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It is so refreshing to sit around the falls and watch people fly fishing for a salmon. It is also simply amazing to watch the salmon jump the falls. On one occasion a huge salmon tried to jump the falls and landed in my sister’s lap. Everyone I know has a story to tell about the salmon jumping the falls. How magnificent the fight, how splendid to see a salmon fly mid-air, spectacular sights and sounds of the falls.

salmon fishing at BF

Thes two pictures above is from the magazine from my home province.

http://www.downhomelife.com/

So here is my Newfie lingo coming out now.
It is such a joy and contentment perfect strangers on the waters just light up a conversation and become fast friends. Why, who would have known that a salmon the bonding ingredient to a conversation.

Around the falls watching salmon people in the like – camaraderie of nature open up their heart as unto a therapist. The joys of life and the tragedies that are still fresh in their mind and just opened up to you about. Sincere sympathy is the return in the conversation. Though you may have just met them for the first time it is a genuine response.

http://www.saen.org/?page_id=50

http://www.newfoundlandlabrador.com/planyourtrip/Detail/210319

There’s the magic; sympathy.

Sympathy is an extension of empathic concern, or the perception, understanding, and reaction to the distress or need of another human being. This empathic concern is driven by a switch in viewpoint, from a personal perspective with the perspective of another group or individual who is in need.

Sometimes we forget sympathy, harmony as this story of frustration illustrates.

Zig Ziglar tells a story of a successful big city businessman named Mr. B. Who ends up being late to work one day because of traffic. In the process he misses an important phone call. Irritated at traffic, Mr. B. calls in one of his managers into his office and yells at him about some missing reports he needed YESTERDAY! And guess what….the manager leaves the office noticeably upset.

He stomps right past his secretary and closes the door. She rings in his office and tells him she has an urgent message. He snarls at her, “My door was closed! Can’t you see I’m busy? Leave me alone.” The secretary doesn’t know what hit her. Now SHE is upset and she spends the rest of the day stewing about it is wondering what she did that was so wrong.

When she gets home she is still upset. She passes her 16 year old son’s bedroom. It is a grand mess. She hunts him down and finds him planted in front of the television set playing a video game. And she snaps. “If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you 1000 times, clean your room. Your grounded from electronics until your room is spotless.”

The teenager storms upstairs and heads to his bedroom. And guess who should cross his path but the family pet, “Fluffy” the cat. Without warning the teenager swings his foot back and lets’ fly. He gives Fluffy the cat a swift kick across the room. Fur flies as the cat skitters under the table wondering what it did that was so wrong.

Has the scene ever played out in your home? Zig Ziglar asks this question. He asks, “Wouldn’t it have been a lot easier on everybody if Mr. B went to the secretary’s home and kicked the cat himself?”
We ought to live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Actually to Be understanding of one another on an emotional level.

Here is a keen Illustration

Fathers, Mothers have you ever had one of your daughter’s have a bad day? She comes home from school distraught or crying. As a good father you listen, and you gather all the facts, and when you think you have heard enough of the facts you interject your sagely advice. You think to yourself, “This advice is REALLY GOOD!”

But then your daughter turns to you and stares and finally says, “Dad, you don’t get it. You still don’t understand.”

Father’s mother’s I can tell you, your daughter is not talking about facts. What she wants you to understand is her emotions, how she feels. She is reminding you that you need to try to understand where she is, not factual, but emotionally.

Sympathy and compassion should go hand in hand.

 Be compassionate and humble. Compassion is having a fellow feeling for. It’s allowing our heart to ache when someone else’s heart aches. That’s compassion.

sympathetic to pain

Sympathy is also very important when we see tragedies and death has affected our neighbors and friends.

Great Quotes –

Those we love don’t go away,
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear.
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,
Love leaves a memory no one can steal.

~ From a headstone in Ireland

“May tender memories soften your grief,
May fond recollection bring you relief,
And may you find comfort and peace in the thought
Of the joy that knowing your loved one brought…
For time and space can never divide
Or keep your loved one from your side.
When memory paints in colors true,
the happy hours that belonged to you.”

–Helen Steiner Rice

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