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In a world of adversity, division at its extreme, despair and death; I know I need to learn how to bond and work together so I/we can help more people.

I don’t want to just sit around, moan and groan.

I’m sure I can be outspoken yet tender-hearted and insightful or the very least – willing to learn.

  • Personally I absolutely feel we have to continue to SHOW deep love for each other
  • Cheerfully share y/our home with those who need a meal or a place to stay
  • Use the creative, gifting, heart, strengths to impact the world around you

Coach Vince Lombardi on making a winning team. Lombardi said, “There are a lot of coaches with good ball clubs who know the fundamentals and have plenty of discipline but still don’t win the game. Then you come to the third ingredient: if you’re going to play together as a team, you’ve got to care for one another. You’ve got to love each other. Each player has to be thinking about the next guy. You’ve got to do your job well in order that he can do his. The difference between mediocrity and greatness is the feeling these guys have for each other.”

SPORTS, BUSINESS, CHURCH, EDUCATION, CHARITY, GOVERNMENT, CITY, NATION, COUNTRY – every team must care.

Not just to care But Love not just to love But Show Love.

Love is not an abstract idea. Love must be manifested.

True love is not just something you feel – it’s something you demonstrate!

 

  • Marriages have problems when partners don’t show love to one another. A husband and wife may love each other deeply but have a miserable marriage because they don’t know how to show their love for one another.
  • You can’t raise kids properly without showing them love.
  • You can’t have true, lasting, satisfying friendships if your friends can’t tell that you love them.
  • You can’t experience relationships in the community or in your church family without showing and receiving love.

 

Some people find it rather easy to show love. It’s natural as breathing.

Others find it difficult – in fact they feel uncomfortable – simply because of your upbringing.

So HOW do we show love to others.

Treat others just as you want to be treated -The Golden Rule

This is basic.  How do I want to be treated?

 IN no particular order:

  • Listen to me when I talk
  • Show Love to me
  • Forgive me
  • Try Understanding me
  • Give me a Second chance
  • Respect me
  • Think about me
  • Be in the moment/ engaging
  • Relax with me
  • Meet some of my needs
  • Be patient with me
  • Be kind to me
  • Be Faithful to me
  • Do right by me
  • Remember with me
  • Include me in Making memories
  • Honor me
  • Be genuine with me
  • Appreciate me

Oh Dear

Sounds needy

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.

It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Wow

But in reality we are all fragile, delicate, sensitive and utterly in need of love.

Thanks for stopping by……Beverley

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“Once Upon A Time” or Maybe I could call it “The Princess Lessons”

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Once upon a time there was a young princess who lived in a beautiful castle.
Living in luxury; nice clothes, tasty food, fun toys, playmates and family.

Over time she grew bored and tired of where and what she lived in.

She lost a Contentment in her surroundings.

Unknowingly She looked at her world with regret.

One day as she was strolling around the castle grounds she became more discontented. Envy crept into her heart also.

She made her way to her high tower.

Standing at the highest point in the tower of her castle looked across the land.

To her surprise, she saw a magnificent castle that emanated a golden glow. She saw a land pristine and green. In her heart rose an angry jealousy. She demanded THAT castle.

Hurriedly the princess demanded her servants to prepare for their journey. Exhausted from days of travelling; she finally arrived at her destination.

Clearly upset she said, this cannot be the castle. Looking throughout the castle, she slowly felt that THIS castle was not elaborate as she thought.

She quickly went to the tower to get a better view. Suddenly she began to scream; I KNEW we did not arrive at the correct castle. See there it is, over there. That golden glow is stupendous. But my lady, said a servant, that is YOUR castle.
It IS, she said sheepishly.

The journey back to her castle was a humbling experience. During the rigorous journey towards home, the princess had many reflective moments.

Everything that looks like gold isn’t Gold. It was the glow and reflection of the sun that made the other castle look like gold.
Finally, she arrived home, After Such a rigorous but pondering journey.

A hot bath relaxed her tired bones. A glass of cool water quenched her thirst and warm meal satisfied her hunger.

Slowly looking at her familiar surroundings, she realized the grass truly isn’t greener on the other side.

Feeling refreshed, she ran towards her father’s outstretched arms. She said, “Home”

It’s up to you how you end the story…

 

What are some reflective moments:
• Appreciate what you have and not desire what belongs to someone else. Do not touch what does not belong to you.
• Sometimes what you see is often obscured by the vantage point; present circumstances.
• When we allow our heart to look elsewhere, there will be disappointment.
• Don’t run/ travel to temptation; run away.
• Don’t exhaust yourself looking in other directions for something or someone better.
• Selfishness caused her to forget all lovely people in her life.
• Be grateful for the people in your life and stop with the regrets and what if’s. Humbling moments aren’t deadly but can be enriching.
• Don’t be fooled. Temptation usually comes through the door that has been deliberately left open.
• Own up; resist the things that do not have the Creator and angels approval. But if you make a mistake, simply confess immediately.
• Learn to appreciate what you have; wealth is all in one’s point of view.
• What lens do you use to see life?
• Sometimes you’re blessed and don’t even know.

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Childhood lessons also reflect adult lessons.

Little Discipline and lack of restraints can often affect your future.

I think it is very unfortunate that our culture places such a high premium on the things of this world. What the “eye” see and desires, the hand is all too ready to take. This society is more accepting of immorality, pornography, greed, strife, hate, unkindness, intolerance, crime and revenge.

Learn to think of your problems positively for example your relationships. People who cannot look at their own relationship problems/conditions positively go on to make dumb mistakes/choices.

Truly know in your heart what is right and wrong. Learn to have self control.

Who are the monsters in the story; yeah, they are sneaky like ninja’s that come out of the shadows:
Self-centeredness
Ungratefulness
Wrong thinking
Anger
Lust of the eyes
Envy
Jealousy
Pride
Fear
Over familiarity
Negativity
Immorality

If we allow it, WE can become monsterous.

But God made you beautiful and glorious, so pull up your boot straps live your best life and make me proud.
Be courageous you have it in you.
Be positive it gets easier with practice.
Be committed to God, family, to yourself.
See the good in you- you’re more than An angel
Be forgiving
Be gracious
Love others, even When they don’t meet your expectation.
Do what is right

Stay beautiful God made you after His image.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

 

I hope you are having a great day and being blessed and blessing others.

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In my opinion;
Some of the most popular literature in the world is found in the book of Psalms; the songbook of Israel which most were set to music.

I am only one of millions who love Psalm 23,The Lord is my Shepherd, Psalm 90, the oldest Psalm, written by Moses, Psalm 46, a favorite read at funerals, God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Post adultery Psalm 51.

Have you ever had trouble- trying to silence a guilty conscience?

Guilt in the back of our minds can drive us nuts.

Many people try all sorts of ways to deal with the terrible feelings of guilt and the low self-esteem that inevitably comes after they’ve messed up.

Some people try to Deny it or make excuses or they try to ignore it

OR you can Deaden your guilt, by eating, drinking, inhaling, or injecting something to make the pain go away.

Sometimes people try to compensate by doing something good -Guilt is a powerful motivator.

It’s not unusual for people to goof up and be stupid or be unwise or get loss in the moment and make a mistake or get lazy let down their guard and commit a sin.

When we do something wrong, you or I can try to cover it up or fess up.

Because I have friends who have suffered the after effects of adultery I often think of the story of King David and his adultery with Bathsheba.

David wrote Psalm 51 after his sin of adultery right after being found out his attempt to cover up didn’t work.

So here’s the true story: David is lazing around in the palace when he should have been at work with his armies [fighting the Ammonites] with too much time on his hands and happens to see a woman taking a bath, and instantly lust takes hold, and he tells his servant, bring her to me. Bathsheba of course, being the wife of Uriah One of the highest ranking men who helped him win many victories…

And wouldn’t you know that after this little affair Bathsheba gets pregnant and the great cover up begins. He brings Uriah home from the war, and try’s several times to get him to sleep with Bathsheba, but being an honorable soldier – he won’t.

Since that didn’t work David put Uriah in front of a battle to get him killed – The plan works, Uriah dies.

David immediately marries Bathsheba.

I wonder, did David have a guilty conscience? I believe the creator was displeased with David’s actions.

I often wonder what 8 months of Bathsheba’s pregnancy were like. Was she suspicious of David, what were his thoughts.

I think he was gonna try to deal with it by not dealing with it.

Ignore it.

But creator God is not gonna let him forget it.

Enter; God’s prophet Nathan came to confront him.

 

What has history told us what David said; “I have sinned against the Lord!”

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Even if you aren’t a Bible believing person Psalm 51- a psalm of David is amazing.

Psalm 51

1  Have mercy on me, O God,
    according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
    blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
    and cleanse me from my sin.

For I know my transgressions,
    and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
    and done what is evil in your sight;
so you are right in your verdict
    and justified when you judge.
Surely I was sinful at birth,
    sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb;
    you taught me wisdom in that secret place.

Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
    wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Let me hear joy and gladness;
    let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
Hide your face from my sins
    and blot out all my iniquity.
10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
    and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
    or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
    and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me

 

I guess what I am saying is that the Only way to deal with a guilty conscience – ADMIT.

 

We are responsible for our own lives and It does no good to blame other people, or blame my circumstances.

Edgar Allen Poe’s story, “The Telltale Heart”?

In that story, the main character has committed murder and he buries the body under floorboards in his house. But the murderer can’t escape the guilt of his deed.

He begins to hear the heartbeat of his dead victim. A cold sweat pours over him as that heartbeat goes on and on, relentlessly, getting louder and louder.

Finally the noise in his head is driving him crazy, he can’t take it anymore, he’s sure everyone else must hear it too, and they’re just taunting him by ignoring, it, just playing with him. And so finally in a fit of desperation, he confesses everything and shows policemen the body.

I would be stupid to think that our/my actions doesn’t hurt others. For me personally because of my commitment I have to make it right with the creator before I can make it right with my family or neighbor.

Guilt is good if we allow it to guide us to better decisions.

Dr. Brand who spent much of his life in India working with leprosy patients made a major discovery – Because of the lack of pain they were constantly injuring themselves which would result in amputation.

Guilt is just as important to our lives as pain and it is a warning sign that helps us know that something needs to change.

There are bad choices, mistakes, neglects that are not sins, but may require forgiveness.  But there are things I choose to believe are sin. We are caught in a web -in a mess, sin, stupidity – we need mercy and grace – well I do.

Mercy to escape the bad, and grace to be given the goodness of forgiveness and freedom to go forward.

Forgiveness does not come cheaply neither physically, emotionally nor spiritually. (Someone pays)

For the psalmist David he understood this –  in his day they dipped hyssop in the blood of sacrificed animals and applied to the altar or doorposts over the house.

As I follow the teachings of Christ – it is inherent in his teachings that if we ( I ) sin it is paid by his shed blood. My relationship with my creator allows a Higher accountability for my thoughts, words and actions.

In the case of adultery blood spills because the lifeblood of the relationship dies.

Rarely, it is recovered through forgiveness.

It’s that powerful force of love That gives us forgiveness, mercy and grace.

The psalmist said Create in me a pure heart, O God, renew a steadfast spirit within me. Restore unto me the joy. We all need strength and power to keep us on tract and stay away from that which caused us guilt in the first place.

What’s the use of guilt alone – but “I’m sorry” “I repent” and I want to make a change is necessary.

A change of heart.
A change of mind.
and A change of direction.

Such contrition removes guilt AND joy replaces inner anguish.

Truly each of us is in charge of our lives and choices and we are often challenged by them.

However, it is important to note that whatever we do there are ripple effects.

Don’t get me wrong; we will make mistakes, but whatever happens in your life – Admit and Go Forward.

I know it’s been a serious tone tonight on my blog, but do come back.

Stay Kind Hearted!
Stay Safe!

 

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One last look

heart heavy
thoughts of pain and tragedy
could not see while viewing
burden of yesteryear
all i could carry
ways and means to continue thus
only misery
darkness
laborious journey
almost to eternity
weary to marrow of my bones
threatening twist
to face malignant demons
each tentacle
eclipsed light, love, happiness
to lift the shrouded darkness
major transform turn around
face haunting past
examine stepping stones
understand let it go
in front, many heaps of ashes lay
pierced my heart to see
the ashes and debris of the past
collective heartbreak
feel dreams, wishes, desires
search for love, slip
through my fingers
burned in ashes lay
to be swept away
as dust
trail laden stench
daunting debris
sat in it’s wake
puddle of despair de’bauchery
unfixable mess
i heard shrieks and screams
god help me see beyond
thickening black
brilliant electrical illuminacity
in twinkling twinning
of love and enlightenment
clarity of thought
transfixed in joy
alien to me
path ahead darkness still
one last look of the past
deep breath
facing new path in faith
suddenly an ambient light
gentle cascade
looking up tril-lions
of wonder and might
shimmering across the sky
to brighten my path
shackels dissipate
ready to move on
lifting my hands t’ward
‘stars’ …

beverley hoyles
oct 12,2012

Thanks for reading one of my older poems.

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Every day children die from long drawn out painful debilitating diseases [cancer is one].
This poem is just my reminder to love our family and those that come in our path As if it was their last day. Make it count!

too many today
are holding
their little one
with all their might
soft touch
hoping
to save their life,
pain too much
disease too strong
as they sing
one last song,
earth’s thistles
and weed
extreme fight
tears
cannot hide
the tragedies,
no reason
for sickness
for grieving,
the pain
spur
to pray
hope
strength
reason
stir,
love
release
of life
is hardest easy
to learn…©.

beverleyholes
october 5, 2013

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It’s been a difficult few weeks..No signs of drastic improvement but there is change so for that I am most grateful.  This lull that I have felt has pulled me in once again with reflection.

What is it I really need in this life?

Whom shall I talk to to unload this burden?

Where shall I run for solace?

 

Where shall I Run

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Where should I run?

 

In that moment

of encumbrance

when faith would wane

grapple with grace

and wonderment

i want to run away,

where too should i run?

i shall run to you

to silence

near the fountain of all being

at the fane

where wizards of wonderment

and wisdom are free

grand graces grow

transfigured

by a-mazing voyage

i run to the centre

of who i am –

the Eye of the Universe….©

Beverleyhoyles

May 11, 2013

A teardrop on earth summons the King of heaven.  Chuck Swindoll

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Words must be weighed, not counted.

As a writer counting the words are often important because you/I/they often want a certain word count and page count to complete a book or novel.  Some have an obsession with word count. I’m not sure where it all started but some even believe a good  novel hinges on word count. Hence the controversy over word count.
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Today, however let’s weigh our words.

Do they value?

Do they place value on someone else?

Do they encourage?

Do they incite a positive outcome?

Will our words slander?  John Chrysostom said that Slander is worse than cannibalism.

I would also venture to say that what we say matters and what we do not say matters.  There is also a time for silence; however I won’t be silent today.

Too often we judge people based on our own backgrounds, failures, mistakes, problems  and experiences, but when you understand people’s stories, present circumstances, it’s easier to understand their demeanor and their faults.

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I hope these words will encourage:

    • Don’t look for faults in others, but focus on what YOU can control!
    • Time spent gossiping is a waste of time! Don’t give a place to plant the seed of hypocrisy in your life, because it will destroy you as a role model and your witness for the creator.
    • Be true to the creator God, and  be honest with yourself.
    • Next to God, the most important thing in your life is your family.
    • Remember, a man’s wealth or happiness is not found in the multitude of material things he possesses.
    • Commit uninterrupted time in your schedule for those you love.
    • Learn from your failures and use them as stepping stones to success,
    • Experience is a great teacher and trials result in patience and endurance.

Unless you have never been tempted, don’t pass judgement on anyone who has yielded.  I often fail at this but I try to keep these words before me.

Let’s practice by looking in the mirror first and then proceed to be more concerned with encouraging and building up others and love, love, love.  Looking in the mirror is more than issues of color but of actions, thoughts, deeds and words.

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“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” ― John Holmes

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Behold the turtle. He makes progress only when he sticks his neck out .”-James. B. Conant

I think it is obvious – for a turtle to get anywhere he has to stick his neck out.

Sticking your neck out for someone is Not just an Emotion but a Concern that Leads us to action.

Just a thought but sticking your neck for someone could end in failure but don’t let that hinder you.

It is always appropriate to remember to be kinder than necessary, for everyone you know or meet is fighting some kind of battle.
In spite of our own disappointments we can experience faith and peace and be a powerful inspiration.
In times of anxiety may we learn to be tender and abound in love and compassion.

In life, there are times you have to stick your neck out and take a risk.
Sometimes it is to help family.

Sometimes it is to help a friend.

Sometimes it is sticking up for a friend.
Sometimes it is to take courage.

Sometimes it is sticking your neck out for your beliefs.
Sometimes it is to move in faith.

Sometimes it is believing in yourself.

Sometimes it is protecting your marriage.

Sometimes it is a determination to take some risks to achieve our goals.

In the end it is listening to our deepest gut feelings, faith and trust.

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Sometimes it is less difficult to stick our neck out as opposed to our Response to someone who would stick their neck out for us?

There are occasions when someone would stick their neck out in the form of an intervention, a heart-to-heart regarding choices, health issues, support, encouragement, to be there in your time of need, just being there or a thousand other scenarios.

It is wonderful to know that someone would care for you/I and indeed stick their neck out for us. [I’m not talking about a nosey individual but a genuine caring person]

We should challenge ourselves on a regular basis. So let’s not be so wrapped up in ourself that we don’t have or see a sense of anyone else.

Today I challenge you: Let each of you look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

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Having said that I will end with a comparison on sticking our neck out for ourselves; qualities of strength and balance. So here are some highlights of a turtle.

  • Turtles have slow metabolisms, teaching us to slow down.
  • Turtles are said to be stable, and constant in their opinions, ideals, and ideas.
  • Turtles are dependable and loyal.
  • Turtles are home anywhere because they carry their houses on their backs.
  • Turtles have good eyesight, reminding us not to judge any of our relations by outward appearances.

Taking risks and chances!

“Never lose your childish enthusiasm and things will come your way.” (Movie quote from Under the Tuscan Sun)

“Live spherically…in many directions.” (Movie quote from Under the Tuscan Sun)
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X is for Xylitol and the X Factor!

Xylitol is a sugar alcohol sweetener used as a sugar substitute. Xylitol is a tooth friendly sugar and is roughly as sweet as sucrose with 33% fewer calories. Unlike other sweeteners, xylitol is actively beneficial for dental health, reducing caries to a third in regular use, and has been shown to reduce the incidence of acute middle ear infection. Xylitol also inhibits the growth of Streptococcus pneumoniae, as well as the attachment of Haemophilus influenzae on the nasopharyngeal cells.

Xylitol is a naturally occurring sugar alcohol sweetener used as a sugar substitute. Pure Xylitol is a white crystalline substance that looks and tastes like sugar. It is a naturally occurring 5-carbon sugar alcohol found in many fruits and vegetables. Xylitol is also produced naturally in our bodies from the foods we eat. Our bodies produce up to 15 grams of Xylitol from other food sources using established energy pathways. Xylitol is not a strange or artificial substance, but a normal part of everyday metabolism!

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Here is Donna’s website that explains xylitol in more detail:
http://ddroot.wordpress.com/category/glycemic-index-of-sweeteners/

Xylotiol has the x factor in benefits…

X Factor; no not the show, but the extra [that’s it] factor/benefits.

The X Factor is that special something that is kinda unspoken and something that you just give off. Some say it’s an energy. Other’s say it’s the spirit/aura of God. I think all people give off an energy or a vibe and I think all other people can sense that.

It’s not like we are puppets but there are things you/I can do to control y/our energy. It’s the focusing on the negative or positive things in your life.

Some would say – Who wants to be around people who are negative, complain a lot, or have nothing good to say? In fact, many would run a mile when they see them coming.

Instead, be the kind of upbeat person who lights up a room with your energy when you enter it. Do it by looking for the best in people and things. Smile warmly, spread good cheer, and enliven others with your presence. Now I didn’t say it is easy but the more in tune with your own self and the creator I believe the easier it will become. I would like to say however that this does not negate the moments of serious conversation and exploring weighty situations.  We all must make time to talk things through with a confident or spouse.

I feel that a person with the X Factor is a person of integrity and values that he or she will never compromise. He or she is a great family man or woman who puts their family first and would protect them with their own life.

A person with the X Factor is really a champion in this world. Sometimes a silent strength other times vocal. A champion that can achieve a difficult goal or overcome challenging obstacles.
A champion is a person that gets up even when they can’t. How you say? With the strength of God the creator who gives all things liberally.

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A person with the X Factor gets involved and is a Great Samaritan. Living a life of passion and not mediocrity and many times a forthright individual.

X Factor compiles the comfort of being in one’s own skin, not haughty but know their positive portrayal is a result of time with the creator. They are humbled by the awareness of the awesomeness of God who loves them.

There is no definable yard stick, set of rules, to have and to hold list but it just is. One thing I do know; I want to have the x factor.

Photo byJoanne Hoyles-Keating

Photo by
Joanne Hoyles-Keating

Quotes to Ponder!

“I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do.” Leonardo da Vinci

 Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude. William James

“I believe He wants us to love others so much that we go to extremes to help them.” – Francis Chan,
Crazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God

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U is for Upside Down Cake and Understanding!

Traditionally An upside-down cake is a cake that is baked in a single pan, then turned over and eaten upside-down. Usually chopped fruits—such as apples, pineapples or cherries—and a butter and sugar topping are placed on the bottom of the pan before the batter is poured in, so that they form a decorative topping once the cake is inverted.

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Rhubarb Upside Down Cake

The caramelized corners are the best part of this moist and tangy cake, which showcases spring-fresh rhubarb.

Preparation Time: 20 minutes
Baking Time: 50 minutes
Servings: 9

Ingredients:

Base:

  • 2 tbsp (25 mL) butter
  • 1/2 cup (125 mL) packed brown sugar
  • 3 cups (750 mL) coarsley sliced Ontario Rhubarb

Cake:

  • 1/2 cup (125 mL) butter, softened
  • 3/4 cup (175 mL) granulated sugar
  • 2 eggs
  • 1 tsp (5 mL) vanilla
  • 1-1/2 cups (375 mL) all-purpose flour
  • 2 tsp (10 mL) baking powder
  • 1/4 tsp (1 mL) salt
  • 1/8 tsp (0.5 mL) nutmeg
  • 1 cup (250 mL) sour cream or plain yogurt
Preparation:

Base: In 8 inch (2 L) square non-aluminium baking dish, heat butter in 350°F (180°C) oven for about 5 minutes or until melted. Sprinkle brown sugar and then rhubarb evenly in dish; set aside.

Cake: In bowl, cream together butter and sugar until fluffy. Beat in eggs, one at a time, beating well after each addition. Add vanilla. Stir together flour, baking powder, salt and nutmeg. Stir into creamed mixture alternately with sour cream, making three additions of each.

Spread batter over rhubarb. Bake in 350°F (180°C) oven for 45 to 50 minutes or until top springs back when lightly pressed. Let cool on rack for 15 minutes. Run knife around edge of pan; invert cake onto serving plate. Serve warm or at room temperature.

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The Alphabet is coming to a close and I had to talk about a well liked desert.  I hope you understand.

That’s it ‘Understand’.  Yeah

Understand the word is actually difficult to explain and easier to understand. You know what I mean.

Understand means to perceive and comprehend the nature and significance of; grasp.

  • To know thoroughly by close contact or long experience with
  • To perceive the significance of
  • To grasp or comprehend the meaning intended or expressed by (another)
  • To comprehend the language, sounds, form, or symbols of
  • To know and be tolerant or sympathetic toward
  • To learn indirectly, as by hearsay
  • To infer
  • To accept (something) as an agreed fact
  • To supply or add (words or a meaning, for example) mentally
  • To have understanding, knowledge, or comprehension
  • To have sympathy or tolerance
  • To learn something indirectly or secondhand; gather

During experiments aboard the space shuttle “Columbia,” scientists discovered that there are twenty-six lakes underneath the Sahara desert. It’s heartrending to think of the people who are starving and dying of thirst because these hidden resources have not yet been tapped.

Maybe there are untapped gifts in each of us.

So How can WE be more Understanding?’

  • Like in a lot of things; Listen
  • Put yourself in the other’s shoes
  • Draw on your own experience and deep waters of grief, hurt, pain and change and impart that tenderness like a gentle lullaby of peace
  • Keep to your values and let them be building blocks
  • Use wisdom
  • Remember the downside of humanity selfishness, forgetfulness, loneliness, negativity
  • Promote positivity
  • Be compassionate
  • The more you understand the less fearful you will become

How wonderful it is to have to try to understand or actually understand especially during your times of diffuclty and trial.  Never underestimate your value when understanding another person.

UNDERSTAND

Some people never understand, no matter how many times you explain it.

How much better is it to get wisdom than gold! And to get understanding rather to be chosen than silver

“Whenever you feel like criticizing any one…just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had.” F. Scott Fitzgerald

“We must learn to regard people less in the light of what they do or omit to do, and more in the light of what they suffer.”  Dietrich Bonhoeffer

There are deterrents to Understanding in Relationships:

  • Neglect in a Relationship
  • Not Dealing with Conflicts
  • Loss of Compassion
  • Withdrawing

Of course the opposite would be:

  • Taking Time Together
  • Nurture the positive experiences
  • Work on any damage or problems
  • Work on a sense of humor
  • Have high standards in a relationship
  • Be in the moment
  • Be supportive in times of difficulty

understanding

Article by Stuart Duncan about Autism

http://www.stuartduncan.name/general/understanding-and-acceptance-means-listening-even-if-you-disagree/

Thnaks for reading by bLoG!

Laura~LME

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