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On Being Positive

I want to keep  ‘that’ light,  ‘that’ sparkle, ‘that’ positive vibe in my life.

To be completely honest I’ve had to fight to maintain that lately.

I learned from my childhood that a negative attitude brings grief to the whole family. My mom hardly ever had a conversation that was not negative. No matter the day, the situation, meal hour at the table, in the yard, after school, bedtime, my siblings and I had a bad stomach as a result of the stress.  I must say now in her 70’s she is making an effort to change. I understand her more now.

An abusive past that included childhood, adolescence,  periods of public life gave me the foundation to be negative.

Our choices especially wrong, immoral, unthoughtful, unsafe, inconsiderate, selfish choices impacts those around us. Although choices made by people with health and mental illness are not always choices but challenges that affect us and totally a different matter.

I remember; I determined at a young age to be a positive influence however that did not always translate into reality.

Personally I thing good choices have good consequences. Choices I make today affect my body, soul and spirit that affect others. To begin the process of good choices I certainly need a positive attitude, God’s guidance and some good ole common sense. If my choices are good then that is very good.

I know instinctively I have to Focus on the Positive. At 62 the days of daydreaming for a better life is over, I can watch as many romantic, feel good, get rich, Christmas movies I want but my life is what it is. When I thought the worse was over; My heart breaks knowing that someone close to me is suffering cyber bulling, another with marital issues, a dear friend has just been diagnosed with cancer, and far to many of my friends are now dealing with life threatening diseases.  To know that someone I know is homeless.

The goals I have not realized YET now seem insignificant compared to these concerns. Still I must go on, life still happens and the choice is mine to persevere and pursue dreams, loves. I’m  thinkin’ many have experienced accomplishments later in life and in spite of tragedy and difficulty.

Michelangelo sculptured masterfully at eighty-nine. Monet painted his best pictures after he was eighty-five so maybe I should get back to painting. I am still a 60’s Possibility.

It was only the catharsis of writing my book  “Feet First ” and the grace and mercy of God that I’ve moved beyond abuse.

While I have overcome the pain of the past there are hurdles in the ‘here and now’ on a daily basis we all must overcome.

I must at any cost practice positive thinking.

Say Yes here’s another hurdle that I must stop and ask, how shall God and I overcome this thing?

Say thank you for everything.

Say I shall do good today.

You See- when I focus on the positive side it actually help me make more choices to look on the bright side.

I’m naturally a serious person but I do try to relax and shake it off. I want to anticipate a fun future even if I do not have at present a plan for our senior years. I’m still workin’ on that.

There is So much I can get bitter about But then why don’t I have the right to get angry and stay angry? So many arbitrarily choose things to impact and hurt me, why not?

Bitterness the unresolved anger turned inward eventually becomes hate towards all those that have wronged me.

BUT I want to be SWEET not a sourpuss.

What of you? Have you experiences in the past that caused you deep hurts whether it is illness or choices by others?

O God help me see there is positive in this day in spite of a new bump in the road.

How?

Firstly, to get a best perspective on today, Help me to be helpful and maintain a servants caring attitude just like the lowly carpenter.

Secondly, help me to continue to praise you and uplift others.

Thirdly, I wish to be grateful every day.

It’s not hard to believe I get discouraged but every kind word; smile I give to others through my discouragement is like a natural injection of meds.

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a downcast spirit dries the bones. (Prov. 17:22) Yesterday as I was writing this post a dagger of disappointment pierced my soul when a family member gives me more news that breaks the heart and darkens my countenance as a blind.

Then just as quickly I was reminded of  David who said ‘I WILL’ encourage myself in The Lord.

“WE are pressed on every side by troubles, but not crushed and broken. We are perplexed because we don’t know why things happen as they do, but we don’t give up and quit. We are hunted down, but God never abandons us. We get knocked down, but we get up again and keep going.”

I want to be ‘that’ light  ‘that’ sparkle of encouragement for my children  and grandchildren. You may not give credence to scripture but may it be an encouragement to you anyway; it helps me daily.

Philippians 4: 4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Today serendipitously the following example was given to me and I would love to share it.

So often many are like Gideon; at our weakest moment to be found a prisoner of fear and hiding in the most inappropriate place like an awful wine press. I too have been so afraid of losing and living in the dungeon of fear, frustrated, perspiring. But then suddenly an Angel of the Lord appeared and said; The Lord is with you, you mighty man/woman of fearless courage.  Judges 6  

A mighty person of courage while others may see a loser; God sees a winner. Wow. I am so glad the way God sees me…He sees more in us then we see ourselves.

May You and I be Sweet!

Thanks for stopping by.

Beverley

 

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IMG_8395 ‘Aurora borealis’

 

Missed opportunity

Missed opportunities
When
We
Don’t
Listen

Missed opportunities
Seize the Day
Living in the moment
Being sensitive
Gracious in speech
Bring out the best In others
See good
Listen before you speak
Forgive now
Willing servant
Love
Smile

What makes my
Life sincere
All of the above
But remember
Let the
Missed opportunities
Become opportunities
Don’t shed bitter tears
Over unsaid words
Words undone
Live now
Reconnect
Stop stalling

Don’t miss an opportunity
To make a positive difference
To be a blessing
To be prepared
To be a good neighbor
To be honest
To be fruitful

We are human
And humans make
Mistakes
What’s
Important
It’s how we
Fix it

Don’t miss another opportunity….©

Beverley Hoyles

February 2014

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world-gone-mad

Have you ever come against a brick wall or felt that every good deed or action came to naught. Or maybe you felt discouraged by society and the destruction seems to be on the rise.

Is it just me or do you often think that there is a kinda madness sweeping o’er the world? If we just look at society in general we would only see the violent, selfish, injustice, flawed social policies, overall irrational behaviour.

The day to day news is filled with negative while the rich get richer and the poor seem to get poorer. Mankind appears to have digressed instead of maturing. Murders, debt, pollution, madness, greed, robbery, bitterness, fear on every corner.

Periodically I get overwhelmed with it all and I admit a little fed-up.

 

World is going mad
Secrets
Leaks
Coverup
Dissemination
Of truth
Investigation
Inquiry
Tensions
Less truth
Protection
Self preservation
Oh
When
Will
This
End?

Beverleyhoyles
May 13. 2013

 

I guess ultimately we each are responsible to make sure we are grounded and not get caught up in the madness cyclonic effect. To tend to the inner spiritual self and nurture ourselves to strength.

For God’s sake, yourself, your kids, your friends and the world; Be kind, treat all living things with compassion, remember that honesty is still the best policy in spite off and the very least will make you a teeny tiny wee bit happy for not lying.

I try to maintain a positive thought pattern, a positive outlook, a positive word.  So to that end I will say after the pity party let’s pick up y/our positive cloak and put it back on. Stand out from the crowd and if we have to, start a minority of good thoughts, good living, good graces. 😀

 

“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
Abraham Lincoln

Choosing to be positive and having a grateful attitude is going to determine how you’re going to live your life. : Joel Osteen

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So today I shall remind myself   – Attitudes are more important than facts.

Now I’m gonna go look for something to make me laugh!

Thanks for reading my bLoG!

 

photo by Joanne Hoyles Keating Newfoundland

Have you been Out looking for HOPE?

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Over the past several weeks and months our family has endured tremendous amounts of stress, disappointment, sickness and trials.
Watching the changes of the weather back and forth wondering when spring will come.
One thing I am sure off Spring WILL Come.
Nature has a way of reminding us that there is hope.

crocus

So if you are having a difficult time today go outside for a walk and look for hope. Look for HOPE in nature. See what you can find.
I have always had a fascination for Nature.
On your nature walk did you hear a robin sing, a flower growing up through concrete, a vine clinging to an abandoned building.
It is so hopeful!


Here is my poem entitled Finding ‘Hope”

Finding ‘Hope’

Do you think
 life sucks, stinks, phoey
woe is me
downcast
hope lost
trials and tribulations
got you down
life filled with sorrow
no way out,
don’t give up
go for a walk
look for ‘hope’
put on your cardigan
close the door
see you later,
a luminous welcome
sun, splashed its rays around
fluffy clouds
with a mighty statement
robins singing
joy oh joy
 spring is a comin,
 roundin the turn
on the ragged path
 hear tinklin trickling stream
 singin in unison
with the wind
and angels wings,
thanks to ancient rain
brought life and hope
never
underestimate
lucid liquid gold of water,
 i believe there’s a ity bity bug
on that there tree
a bulrush
made it through winter
appeared out
of nowhere a single butterfly,
 kicking the blassy bough
revealed another baby tree
junior rabbit
crossed my path
with a wiggle
come and play,
the sounds of nature
a gentle musical
opus
as wind bows to kiss
my cheek
with a whisper
‘hope’
suddenly
the roar of the waterfall
 good -news nature choir,
further on
daffodil takes a peek
crocus arrived with a grin
cute baby critters
everywhere,
 as sure as shootin
spring follows winter
 ‘hope’ is comin
 nature prepin
for spring,
look to nature
find ‘hope’
so the journey
through the woods
not in vain
know how
 blessed i am,
 nature-
creator’s garden
filled with ‘hope’
and life
the heavens our canopy,
the creator
exchanged
the
cloak
of
despair
to
‘Hope’
Made
My
Day….

BeverleyHoyles
March 24, 2013

So did you see HOPE?

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Thanks for reading my bLoG!

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All pictures were taken in Newfoundland by my daughter Joanne during our Vacation.
xxoo

ATTITUDE

With the help of Wikipedia:
An attitude is a favorable or an unfavorable evaluation of something. Attitudes are generally positive or negative views of a person, place, thing, or event— this is often referred to as the attitude object. People can also be conflicted or ambivalent toward an object, meaning that they simultaneously possess both positive and negative attitudes toward the item in question.

What we think is as important as what we do

Not only are words and action important by law, relational, emotional etc, but so are y/our thoughts. We are taught that holding a grudge or wishing someone harm is just as bad as hurting them. This is because what we think inspires what we do. Negative self-talk can have devastating effects on y/our selfesteem as well.

Matthew another cool guy, made a very important point – But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the person. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:

Clearly y/our attitude is much deeper than just a few thoughts you might think or not think. Your attitude comes out of the core of your being. Y/our attitude represents y/our disposition, y/our outlook, y/our very character.  So I gues we better make sure that what is in y/our heart are good things hey.

Attitude

We can choose what attitude we will embrace for today.

I recently met a 78 year old man who was quite upset about a decision made by government that affected him. It wasn’t long before he ranted and raved about his hatred for different ethnic peoples using threats and words of violence and potential death threats. Suffice it to say I was perturbed, appalled by such blatant display of hatred. My mind was reeling from the exposure of hatred. It took some time for to become calm again and detox my mind and turn towards a more positive attitude.

Some people think that the whole world stinks. Once a cranky grandpa laid down to take a nap. To have a little fun, his grandson put some limburger cheese on his mustache, right under his nose. Grandpa awoke with a snort, staggered out of the bedroom and shouted, “This room stinks!” On through the house he went, shouting louder, “This whole house stinks!” He charged out on the porch and shouted as loud as he could, “The whole world stinks!” The truth is, it was grandpa who stunk. The problem was right under his own nose.
“We are a culture that relies on technology over community, a society in which spoken and written words are cheap, easy to come by, and excessive. Our culture says anything goes; fear of God is almost unheard of. We are slow to listen, quick to speak, and quick to become angry.”
— Francis Chan (Crazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God)

With that quote in mind; attitude and subsequent actions are so very important.

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Positive and Grateful attitude can determine how you live your life.

A Proverb “For as a man thinks in his heart, so he is…”
What a difference your attitude makes! Your attitude affects every relationship in your life. And sometimes relationships will never get started in the first place — because many times your attitude has built up walls… making it difficult for people to be around you.

Tips to a Good Attitude!

• Be calm – Meditate/ calm your thoughts
• Believe the best about everyone
• Be a-Warm-Smiling -Smile
• Be thankful
• Be happy – think happy thoughts
• Be Kind – Don’t Gossip
• Be Positive – any old fish can be negative. Helps self esteem

Is it possible that attitude can:
• MAKE OR BREAK YOU
• HEAL OR HURT YOU
• MAKE YOU FRIENDS OR MAKE YOU ENEMIES
• MAKE YOU HAPPY OR MAKE YOU MISERABLE
• MAKE YOU A SUCCESS OR MAKE YOU A FAILURE

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by: Charles Swindoll

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you/I… we are in charge of our attitudes.

Check this website
http://drjamesdobson.org/Solid-Answers/Answers?a=63dc2a64-a70a-43f1-8d5a-cc43c8e77abc

Another Story

The story is told of a wonderful, elderly lady. She had very little money and lived in a rundown house, but she was always praising the God. Her only problem was with the old man who lived next door. He was always trying to prove to her that there was no God. One day, as the old man was walking by her house, he noticed the woman through an open window. She was kneeling down in prayer, so he crept over to the window to see if he could hear. She was praying, ” God, you’ve always given me what I’ve needed.” She prayed. “And now you know that I don’t have any money, and I’m completely out of groceries, and I won’t get another check for a week.” She continued, “somehow, Lord, can you get me some groceries.” The man had heard all he needed. He crept away from the window and ran down to the grocery store. He bought milk, bread, and lunch meat. He ran back to the woman’s house carrying the groceries. He set the bag down on by her door, rang the doorbell, and hid beside of the house. You can imagine how the woman reacted to seeing the bag of groceries. She threw her hands over head and began praising God.  “Thank you,” she shouted. “I was without food and you provided the groceries.” About that time the old man jumped out and said, “I’ve got you now.” She was too busy shouting thank yous to pay any attention. “I told you there was no God,” the old man said, ” it wasn’t God who gave you those groceries it was me.” “Oh no,” the woman said. “God got me these goroceries and made the devil pay for them.” She had the right attitude for God albeit a little strange toward her neighbor.

That’s what friends are for – it may sound too idyllic…but we should aspire to be good friends..that is a part of a good attitude.

Song “That’s What Freinds for Sure”

Alexander Tsiaras: Conception to birth — visualized

As much as you think you are alone so often; I beg to differ!

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I have a Maker
He formed my heart
Before even time began
My life was in his hands

I have a Father
He calls me His own
He’ll never leave me
No matter where I go

He knows my name
He knows my every thought
He sees each tear that falls
And He hears me when I call
*

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Who taught the sun where to stand in the morning
Who told the ocean you an only come this far?
Who showed the moon where to hide ’til evening
Whose words alone can catch a falling star?

Well I know my Redeemer lives
I know my Redeemer lives
All of creation testify
This life within me cries
I know my Redeemer lives

The very same God that spins things in orbit
He runs to the weary, the worn and the weak
And the same gentle hands that hold me when I’m broken
They conquered death to bring me victory

Now I know my Redeemer lives
I know my Redemer lives
Let all creation testify
Let this life wihtin me cry
I know my Redeemer, He lives

To take away my shame
And He lives forever I’ll proclaim
That the payment for my sin
Was the precious life He gave
But now He’s alive
And there’s an empty grave.

And I know my Redeemer, He lives
I know my Redeemer lives
Let all creation testify
This life within me cries
I know my Redeemer lives

Thanks for Reading my bLoG!

The photos in this post are not mine…

As a kid I heard the saying,

‘What’s down in the well will come up in the bucket’ so with that in mind here is a good proverb…

“Above all else guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life”

What’s in the well comes up the bucket!

It’s always a good thing when something bothers you, deal with it that day or it will surely stay in the well. I know this to be true but when I want to speak to the person about the matter I trivialize ‘nah won’t bother’.

My personal attitude is to face change with courage, face disappointment and get on with it, choose happiness get over it, you can do this cause no matter what God loves you.
But what happens when you face disappointment day in day out.

Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. Similar to regret, it differs in that a person feeling regret focuses primarily on the personal choices that contributed to a poor outcome, while a person feeling disappointment focuses on the outcome itself.   It is a source of psychological stress.

After awhile ‘nah I won’t bother’ is a little more difficult because the well is murky.

Sleep is more restless, patience wears a little thin when plans go a muck.
Relationships are strained and tears begin to fall.

To back track for several weeks I have been having a lot of chest pain [to make a long story short of course I’m never short] meant I am wearing a heart monitor these past two weeks.  Going about my daily routine the blooming monitor began to make its recording beep -another unusual reading from my heart. Time and again this would happen it certainly would give a person a heart attack.

Naturally I do not believe I have a heart problem. Me who thinks I’m a doctor and believe she is a physiologist began to ponder.

I was not listening to my own body language. The well water has gone far beyond murky.  It was time to take a peek. Why did I feel so disappointed?

Sudden Lost of a Full time job 3 years ago change in our financial status and lack of overtime hours for my husband and possibly losing our house has brought us to a fork in the road.

Remembering the unbelievable pride and that electric feeling  my book “Feet First” is published April 2011.  I believe it to be a very important book and the accompaniment manual I am presently working on with the submissions of many people around the world is proving to be a very good Resource Manual.

What has happened? No volunteer reviewers for Feet First.  I have read every possible article, blog on Indie writers and their books. Certainly I need a publicist. The quest to be heard has brought me to a fork in the road.

Something simple as a planned family event proved to be a bit daunting.  It too has brought me to a fork in the road.

2012 a paramount year for me; I’ll be 60.  So why am I not happy about that.  The thought of my 60th birthday has consumed my thoughts now for at least 6 months. I attribute 60 with the realization we have no retirement plan or financial package.  Suddenly the illogical wishing we could live in a warm climate on a river boat has brought me to a fork in the road.

So many complicated things have ocurred over several weeks and it has brought me to a fork in the road.

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. – Maya Angelou

Today as I was with my youngest grandbaby watching her tantrums, crying to be heard.  She has had a bad week with a cold, missing mom and dad, cutting her teeth she seemed to be at a crossroads. I let her cry it out for a while then encouraged her to get up in my arms.  She fought me on that one for a few minutes and as I was giving her her bottle she closed her eyes and began to fall asleep  with a background melodic nanny singing. She didn’t want to go in her crib and settle in so I allowed her to nap in my arms for an hour and half.  Not good I know but I thought she needed the consolation.

An hour and a half in almost silence just my humming gave credence to think once again.

Looking down into her beautiful face was simply breathtaking. Listening to the deep sighs a release from her previous episodes of cries was heartbreaking.


No I didn’t have a brain wave and all my problems are solved.  No solutions at this point just an attitude check.

The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.  – Arnold Glasow

As much as it pleases God to bless you, there will be moments when everything you try goes up in smoke. There will be moments when the one you counted on most walks away and leaves you groping through blinding tears and wailing questions of why. Plans and goals can be circumvented by the most disappointing of times, leaving you learning the art of patience and the acceptance of a denied request.  T. D. Jakes

Just a Detour

My passion to promote awareness about abuse and ways we can make changes with my book “Feet First” is still valid.  We each can play a part in making a difference in the well being of a child.

Far too many adults are living fractured, separated lives and the multiple complexities that accompany their being. This impacts all our children in the care of the church & community. There isn’t time to mope about but to keep talking, sharing, educating and challenging people on the subject of abuse.

In researching abuse in general or specifics there is clear, scientific evidence shows abuse has long-term physiological, neurological, emotional and developmental impact.

Victimized people commonly develop problems secondary to their abuse, including anxiety and depression.

A survivor of child abuse I will continue to campaign for the advocacy of putting a stop to all forms of abuse. My desire is to be a vessel of honor for God who wishes to speak for those who can’t speak about their traumatic pasts.

Patty  Rase Hopson said, “You Can Shut Me Out…But You Can Not Shut Me Up! I Broke My Silence!”

 

Abuse changed my life and now I must never forget to continue to fight back.

The well is a little clearer now!

Broken Wings Video!

You can purchase my book “Feet First” at Amazon.com or Amazon.ca or Amazon.co.uk

Check my website:  www.feetfirstbook.com

Laura~LME

@LauraLME ~ @VersesInMotion ~ @VIMMedia ~ @DigitalDotWorld

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