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“Twice in a Lifetime”

is still one of my favorite and old TV shows.

 

 

Change is a difficult thing.
Change has haunted my thoughts for many months now.
It has made me laugh but mostly made me cry with many a shed tear. Change and the resulting stretching is good for us; though often painful.
Here is my poem that gives a glimpse into my thoughts. 
 
Caterpillar Butterfly 

Change Change

Amid a world estrange

Seek perfection exchange

 

Change Change

A thousand times

Lord knows I tried

 

Change Change

Compassed this mountain

Long enough

 

Change Change

Herculean pain’s course

Search and check The value source

 

Change Change

Time for change

Season of change

 

Change Change

Tired of going round and round churn

Beyond the point of no return

 

Change Change

Dry bones hopeless

Impossible

 

Change Change

Seek Change

Seduction camouflage estrange

 

Change Change

Evaluate

Time and relationship reflection

In my hand activate

 

Change Change

Coming together

Bone found its matching bone – tether

 

Change Change

Taller than a sunflower

Not in futility rather empowered to flight

 

Change Change

Resist Or Adjust

And be the Butterfly

For real….©

 

Beverley Hoyles

August 10, 2014

 

butterfly emporium by joanne keating

 

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May you have a wonderful Sunday and everyday; May your future be very bright.

 

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Ta Da

what you talkin

‘bout

it’s the amazin

race of  my life

it’s the new outfit

it’s speaking up

it’s the rhythm

it’s music

it’s the voice

ta da

it’s sharin

it’s the speed

it’s the faith

making bad days bet-ter

ta da

it’s the kiss

it’s the upside down dream

it’s the day i was created

ta da

it’s the tears that flow

it’s the bucket list

it’s your birthday bear

it’s your death

it’s rebirth

after many years

it’s closing your eyes

see me everywhere

ta da

it’s the freedom

it’s walls come tumbling down

it’s never tearing us apart

it’s the laughter

ta da

it’s finding the time

it’s incomprehensible

now eureka

ta da

it’s the cocoa with marshmallows

it’s s’mores

it’s salty chips

it’s the family fire

it’s the smell of smoke

it’s the cheers

it’s always there

take a bow

ta da

ha ha moment

it’s celebration of wisdom

finished product

it’s inspiring

learn something new

not the end

it’s the power of

Ta Da…….©

 

BeverleyHoyles

May 14, 2014

 

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May you have a awesome week; Keep on lovin!

 

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guilty-conscience

In my opinion;
Some of the most popular literature in the world is found in the book of Psalms; the songbook of Israel which most were set to music.

I am only one of millions who love Psalm 23,The Lord is my Shepherd, Psalm 90, the oldest Psalm, written by Moses, Psalm 46, a favorite read at funerals, God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Post adultery Psalm 51.

Have you ever had trouble- trying to silence a guilty conscience?

Guilt in the back of our minds can drive us nuts.

Many people try all sorts of ways to deal with the terrible feelings of guilt and the low self-esteem that inevitably comes after they’ve messed up.

Some people try to Deny it or make excuses or they try to ignore it

OR you can Deaden your guilt, by eating, drinking, inhaling, or injecting something to make the pain go away.

Sometimes people try to compensate by doing something good -Guilt is a powerful motivator.

It’s not unusual for people to goof up and be stupid or be unwise or get loss in the moment and make a mistake or get lazy let down their guard and commit a sin.

When we do something wrong, you or I can try to cover it up or fess up.

Because I have friends who have suffered the after effects of adultery I often think of the story of King David and his adultery with Bathsheba.

David wrote Psalm 51 after his sin of adultery right after being found out his attempt to cover up didn’t work.

So here’s the true story: David is lazing around in the palace when he should have been at work with his armies [fighting the Ammonites] with too much time on his hands and happens to see a woman taking a bath, and instantly lust takes hold, and he tells his servant, bring her to me. Bathsheba of course, being the wife of Uriah One of the highest ranking men who helped him win many victories…

And wouldn’t you know that after this little affair Bathsheba gets pregnant and the great cover up begins. He brings Uriah home from the war, and try’s several times to get him to sleep with Bathsheba, but being an honorable soldier – he won’t.

Since that didn’t work David put Uriah in front of a battle to get him killed – The plan works, Uriah dies.

David immediately marries Bathsheba.

I wonder, did David have a guilty conscience? I believe the creator was displeased with David’s actions.

I often wonder what 8 months of Bathsheba’s pregnancy were like. Was she suspicious of David, what were his thoughts.

I think he was gonna try to deal with it by not dealing with it.

Ignore it.

But creator God is not gonna let him forget it.

Enter; God’s prophet Nathan came to confront him.

 

What has history told us what David said; “I have sinned against the Lord!”

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Even if you aren’t a Bible believing person Psalm 51- a psalm of David is amazing.

Psalm 51

1  Have mercy on me, O God,
    according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
    blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
    and cleanse me from my sin.

For I know my transgressions,
    and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
    and done what is evil in your sight;
so you are right in your verdict
    and justified when you judge.
Surely I was sinful at birth,
    sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb;
    you taught me wisdom in that secret place.

Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
    wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Let me hear joy and gladness;
    let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
Hide your face from my sins
    and blot out all my iniquity.
10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
    and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
    or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
    and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me

 

I guess what I am saying is that the Only way to deal with a guilty conscience – ADMIT.

 

We are responsible for our own lives and It does no good to blame other people, or blame my circumstances.

Edgar Allen Poe’s story, “The Telltale Heart”?

In that story, the main character has committed murder and he buries the body under floorboards in his house. But the murderer can’t escape the guilt of his deed.

He begins to hear the heartbeat of his dead victim. A cold sweat pours over him as that heartbeat goes on and on, relentlessly, getting louder and louder.

Finally the noise in his head is driving him crazy, he can’t take it anymore, he’s sure everyone else must hear it too, and they’re just taunting him by ignoring, it, just playing with him. And so finally in a fit of desperation, he confesses everything and shows policemen the body.

I would be stupid to think that our/my actions doesn’t hurt others. For me personally because of my commitment I have to make it right with the creator before I can make it right with my family or neighbor.

Guilt is good if we allow it to guide us to better decisions.

Dr. Brand who spent much of his life in India working with leprosy patients made a major discovery – Because of the lack of pain they were constantly injuring themselves which would result in amputation.

Guilt is just as important to our lives as pain and it is a warning sign that helps us know that something needs to change.

There are bad choices, mistakes, neglects that are not sins, but may require forgiveness.  But there are things I choose to believe are sin. We are caught in a web -in a mess, sin, stupidity – we need mercy and grace – well I do.

Mercy to escape the bad, and grace to be given the goodness of forgiveness and freedom to go forward.

Forgiveness does not come cheaply neither physically, emotionally nor spiritually. (Someone pays)

For the psalmist David he understood this –  in his day they dipped hyssop in the blood of sacrificed animals and applied to the altar or doorposts over the house.

As I follow the teachings of Christ – it is inherent in his teachings that if we ( I ) sin it is paid by his shed blood. My relationship with my creator allows a Higher accountability for my thoughts, words and actions.

In the case of adultery blood spills because the lifeblood of the relationship dies.

Rarely, it is recovered through forgiveness.

It’s that powerful force of love That gives us forgiveness, mercy and grace.

The psalmist said Create in me a pure heart, O God, renew a steadfast spirit within me. Restore unto me the joy. We all need strength and power to keep us on tract and stay away from that which caused us guilt in the first place.

What’s the use of guilt alone – but “I’m sorry” “I repent” and I want to make a change is necessary.

A change of heart.
A change of mind.
and A change of direction.

Such contrition removes guilt AND joy replaces inner anguish.

Truly each of us is in charge of our lives and choices and we are often challenged by them.

However, it is important to note that whatever we do there are ripple effects.

Don’t get me wrong; we will make mistakes, but whatever happens in your life – Admit and Go Forward.

I know it’s been a serious tone tonight on my blog, but do come back.

Stay Kind Hearted!
Stay Safe!

 

Thanks for reading my blog.

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The truth so help me God.

Surreal God moment that I did not orchestrate.
It was a compulsion to write, yes it was cathartic and yes it changed my life forever.

I don’t do something of this magnitude (writing my life story exposing secrets of my heart) in a rash way.
I thought, prayed, weighed it time and again. But there was a moment of no return; Through tears and sobs and soul’s agony as the words began to pour out.

60 days to write and 10 years in draft format then to the publisher. All our life savings and what seem to be a thousand conversations, legalities, explanations, edits and approvals.

I remember the day my husband and i went to the publisher – my hubby waited in the car as I went inside. It was like a spiritual walk. I was taken to the conference room and actually feeling a little anxious. The lady in charge of my book entered the room and after a few formalities gave me the first copy. Holding it close meant I was holding my whole life and others close to my heart. I have to admit it was a huge surreal moment.

The copy of the book was a result of a type of birth that should not be trifled with but looked at, touched, felt and cherished, examined, loved even, but then again that’s an author’s viewpoint.

At first I thought family and friends supported ME and FEET FIRST.
It was false. Many lacked courage to read it. Many felt by reading somehow betrayed my mother.

Yes I faced disappointment.
The question was asked of me: “why you? Why did you have to write it, there are thousands of books written about abuse?”

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Truth doesn’t always give the response you expect.
Truth doesn’t mean you don’t love.
In fact courage to speak truth for me was the greatest love.

I found that in speaking truth brought an array of disappointments.

Some read the book in critical condescending ways with a criticism to find ways to destroy my credibility. Others got bits and pieces from the book via another’s negative opinion thereby tarnishing what would have been something special for them.

I have tried to overlook that part of the disappointment for many reasons.

Then there were numerous people via the Internet, amazon, book signings came a multitude of comments, emails, thank you’s and calls. Simply an unexpected humbling experience.

Do I give up because some would not support my efforts?
No!
I am in the draft process of the manual that would accompany Feet First.

It has been mind-boggling when I think of the people who have contributed to the manual.

I am humbled AND honored by the path to each one of them.

I know I may not have a ‘come over for tea on Saturday and we’ll chat’ type relationship but my life has been enriched by them, their values, blogs, books, heart.

I took 9 months off; a type of sabbatical from the manual because I felt physically drained but I’m ready to get cracking again toward its completion.

I pray someday that all of my family would have the courage to read my book Feet First.

I do hope many more will  read Feet First on sale at amazon or available from our office. It’s okay you can love it or hate it; your choice.

If you are willing to do a review I will give you a complimentary hard copy or Ebook format.

Here are three ways to purchase Feet First from Amazon:
Amazon UK

Amazon .COM

Amazon.CA
Or by email at:  feetfirstbook@gmail.com

It’s silly to say I wrote a book for no one to read it. I want people to read it and be blessed or the very least, a book to read.

Childhood abuse can cast a long shadow over your life influencing your emotional state, psychological state, physical state, health and how you relate to others. I believe I learned that while writing the book as the author of my life story and so much more as I am writing this second book.

I guess that gives clarity of why I wrote Feet First. I would like to lighten the shadow on the lives of my siblings, my family, my friends, my world. To personally make a positive impact on anyone that would allow my words to enter their world. To expose abuse for what it is and be willing to warn, to educate.

Patty Rase Hopson said that Abuse changes your life…Fight Back and change the life of your abusers by Breaking Your Silence on Abuse!

I believe this initial step puts the control of your life back into your hands and a necessary step toward healing and recovery.  I also sincerely believe it will help thousands in peril at this very moment.

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For not only does sound reason direct us to refuse the guidance of those who do or teach anything wrong, but it is by all means vital for the lover of truth, regardless of the threat of death, to choose to do and say what is right even before saving his own life. A.W. Tozer

Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now – always.   Albert Schweitzer

Even in literature and art, no man who bothers about originality will ever be original: whereas if you simply try to tell the truth (without caring twopence how often it has been told before) you will, nine times out of ten, become original without ever having noticed it.”
― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

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First may I say I hope everyone had a great weekend.

Also here in Canada we just celebrated Mother`s Day.  I hope you took time to let someone know how special they are whether it is a mother by blood or choice.

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To change the subject I love some of the advice nuggets that I read from Jim Rohn.  Today I would like to honor some of his work in a very simple format.


Three Keys to Greatness by Jim Rohn

Awhile back, I went into the studio and created a 56-minute video for teenagers called “Three Keys to Greatness.”  Although my focus was for teenagers, the principles I shared certainly apply to adults as well.

Recently I was asked to list these three things using one to two sentences for each.  Now for your benefit here they are again.

1.  Setting Goals.  I call it the view of the future.  Most people, including kids, will pay the price if they can see the promise of the future.  So we need to help our kids see a well-defined future, so they will be motivated to pay the price today to attain the rewards of tomorrow.  Goals help them do this.

2.  Personal Development.  Simply making consistent investments in our self-education and knowledge banks pays major dividends throughout our lives.  I suggest having a minimum amount of time set aside for reading books, listening to CDs, attending seminars,keeping a journal and spending time with other successful people.  Charlie “Tremendous” Jones says you will be in five years the sum total of the books you read and the people you are around.

3. Financial Planning.  I call it the 73/30.  After receiving your paycheck or paying yourself, simply setting aside 10% for saving, 10% for investing, and 10% for giving, over time this will guarantee financial independence for a teenager.

IF a young person, or for that matter an adult, focused on doing these three simple things over a long period of time I believe they will be assured success!

Here is Jim`s site:
http://www.jimrohn.com/index.php?main_page=products_all&cPath=9&sub=author&value=Jim+Rohn

Thanks for reading my bLoG!

For UK customers here is the link to purchase my book Feet First!

Feet First

ATTITUDE

With the help of Wikipedia:
An attitude is a favorable or an unfavorable evaluation of something. Attitudes are generally positive or negative views of a person, place, thing, or event— this is often referred to as the attitude object. People can also be conflicted or ambivalent toward an object, meaning that they simultaneously possess both positive and negative attitudes toward the item in question.

What we think is as important as what we do

Not only are words and action important by law, relational, emotional etc, but so are y/our thoughts. We are taught that holding a grudge or wishing someone harm is just as bad as hurting them. This is because what we think inspires what we do. Negative self-talk can have devastating effects on y/our selfesteem as well.

Matthew another cool guy, made a very important point – But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the person. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:

Clearly y/our attitude is much deeper than just a few thoughts you might think or not think. Your attitude comes out of the core of your being. Y/our attitude represents y/our disposition, y/our outlook, y/our very character.  So I gues we better make sure that what is in y/our heart are good things hey.

Attitude

We can choose what attitude we will embrace for today.

I recently met a 78 year old man who was quite upset about a decision made by government that affected him. It wasn’t long before he ranted and raved about his hatred for different ethnic peoples using threats and words of violence and potential death threats. Suffice it to say I was perturbed, appalled by such blatant display of hatred. My mind was reeling from the exposure of hatred. It took some time for to become calm again and detox my mind and turn towards a more positive attitude.

Some people think that the whole world stinks. Once a cranky grandpa laid down to take a nap. To have a little fun, his grandson put some limburger cheese on his mustache, right under his nose. Grandpa awoke with a snort, staggered out of the bedroom and shouted, “This room stinks!” On through the house he went, shouting louder, “This whole house stinks!” He charged out on the porch and shouted as loud as he could, “The whole world stinks!” The truth is, it was grandpa who stunk. The problem was right under his own nose.
“We are a culture that relies on technology over community, a society in which spoken and written words are cheap, easy to come by, and excessive. Our culture says anything goes; fear of God is almost unheard of. We are slow to listen, quick to speak, and quick to become angry.”
— Francis Chan (Crazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God)

With that quote in mind; attitude and subsequent actions are so very important.

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Positive and Grateful attitude can determine how you live your life.

A Proverb “For as a man thinks in his heart, so he is…”
What a difference your attitude makes! Your attitude affects every relationship in your life. And sometimes relationships will never get started in the first place — because many times your attitude has built up walls… making it difficult for people to be around you.

Tips to a Good Attitude!

• Be calm – Meditate/ calm your thoughts
• Believe the best about everyone
• Be a-Warm-Smiling -Smile
• Be thankful
• Be happy – think happy thoughts
• Be Kind – Don’t Gossip
• Be Positive – any old fish can be negative. Helps self esteem

Is it possible that attitude can:
• MAKE OR BREAK YOU
• HEAL OR HURT YOU
• MAKE YOU FRIENDS OR MAKE YOU ENEMIES
• MAKE YOU HAPPY OR MAKE YOU MISERABLE
• MAKE YOU A SUCCESS OR MAKE YOU A FAILURE

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by: Charles Swindoll

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you/I… we are in charge of our attitudes.

Check this website
http://drjamesdobson.org/Solid-Answers/Answers?a=63dc2a64-a70a-43f1-8d5a-cc43c8e77abc

Another Story

The story is told of a wonderful, elderly lady. She had very little money and lived in a rundown house, but she was always praising the God. Her only problem was with the old man who lived next door. He was always trying to prove to her that there was no God. One day, as the old man was walking by her house, he noticed the woman through an open window. She was kneeling down in prayer, so he crept over to the window to see if he could hear. She was praying, ” God, you’ve always given me what I’ve needed.” She prayed. “And now you know that I don’t have any money, and I’m completely out of groceries, and I won’t get another check for a week.” She continued, “somehow, Lord, can you get me some groceries.” The man had heard all he needed. He crept away from the window and ran down to the grocery store. He bought milk, bread, and lunch meat. He ran back to the woman’s house carrying the groceries. He set the bag down on by her door, rang the doorbell, and hid beside of the house. You can imagine how the woman reacted to seeing the bag of groceries. She threw her hands over head and began praising God.  “Thank you,” she shouted. “I was without food and you provided the groceries.” About that time the old man jumped out and said, “I’ve got you now.” She was too busy shouting thank yous to pay any attention. “I told you there was no God,” the old man said, ” it wasn’t God who gave you those groceries it was me.” “Oh no,” the woman said. “God got me these goroceries and made the devil pay for them.” She had the right attitude for God albeit a little strange toward her neighbor.

That’s what friends are for – it may sound too idyllic…but we should aspire to be good friends..that is a part of a good attitude.

Song “That’s What Freinds for Sure”

Alexander Tsiaras: Conception to birth — visualized

As much as you think you are alone so often; I beg to differ!

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I have a Maker
He formed my heart
Before even time began
My life was in his hands

I have a Father
He calls me His own
He’ll never leave me
No matter where I go

He knows my name
He knows my every thought
He sees each tear that falls
And He hears me when I call
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Who taught the sun where to stand in the morning
Who told the ocean you an only come this far?
Who showed the moon where to hide ’til evening
Whose words alone can catch a falling star?

Well I know my Redeemer lives
I know my Redeemer lives
All of creation testify
This life within me cries
I know my Redeemer lives

The very same God that spins things in orbit
He runs to the weary, the worn and the weak
And the same gentle hands that hold me when I’m broken
They conquered death to bring me victory

Now I know my Redeemer lives
I know my Redemer lives
Let all creation testify
Let this life wihtin me cry
I know my Redeemer, He lives

To take away my shame
And He lives forever I’ll proclaim
That the payment for my sin
Was the precious life He gave
But now He’s alive
And there’s an empty grave.

And I know my Redeemer, He lives
I know my Redeemer lives
Let all creation testify
This life within me cries
I know my Redeemer lives

Thanks for Reading my bLoG!

The photos in this post are not mine…

O is for Onions and Optimism!

The Onion (Allium cepa), which is also known as the bulb onion, common onion is the most widely cultivated species of the genus Allium.  Wikipedia

When an onion is cut, certain compounds are released causing the lacrimal gland in the eyes to become irritated, releasing tears.

Here is a list of some of the different types of onions: baby, pearl, bermuda, cipollini, egyptian, red, green, purple, boiling, leeks, maui, scallion.

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IN spite of the fact that I cry many times peeling onions; I love onions.  

There is nothing like an onion to give optimism to any food dish.

So there it is; OPTIMISM.  Yeah.

Optimists have a tendency to make lemonade out of lemons, and see the glass as half-full when it’s half-empty.   

Putting a positive spin does not change the situation but it can certainly reduce damage and put things into a better perspective. Optimism is an admirable quality, one that can positively affect mental and physical health.

 

Optimism
 
why down in the mouth?
why a frown?
why a negative thought?
 
aim high
hope in the darkest
focus in the brightest
never give up
setbacks are fleeting
so start every day, first
by encouraging others
see the good in every-thing,
and
remember in the darkest sky
there’s lots of stars
each day
an opportunity
in every difficulty
a blessing in dis-guise,
 
get up
with a smile
I bet you’ll go the extra mile
run around, dance or play
have a fun filled day….@

beverleyhoyles

jan 31, 2013

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Quotes to Ponder!

“Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.”
Victor Hugo, Les Misérables

“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

I can do all things through God who strengtheneth me

I LOVE THIS STORY:  A small boy had a positive attitude while out in the yard playing by himself.  He said to himself, “I’m the greatest batter in the whole world.”  Then he threw the ball into the air, took a swing … and missed.  Strike one!  He said it again: “I’m the greatest batter in the whole world.”  He threw the ball in the air, took a swing … and missed it again.  Strike two!  He repeated the process for the third time … swung … and missed.  Strike three!  Unwilling to be defeated of his optimism, he thought a minute and said, “Wow, I’m the greatest PITCHER in the whole world!”

Watch this video by Dalai Lama

TD Jakes on Optimism

Thanks for reading my bLoG!

H is for Honeydew and Humility!

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I love honeydew. Are you surprised?

A honeydew slightly oval shape about 8″ long. The flesh is usually pale green in color while the peel is greenish to yellow. Honeydew has seeds. Here in Canada you can pretty much get a Honeydew anytime. Many people use honeydew for deserts or eaten as is. Quality [I was told] is determined by the honeydew having a nearly spherical shape with a surface free of scars or defects. A honeydew should feel heavy for its size and have a waxy (not fuzzy) surface. 

Honeydew melon is low in Sodium and Calories, and very low in Saturated Fat and Cholesterol. It’s also a good source of Vitamin B6, Folate and Potassium, and a very good source of Vitamin C.

Napoleon and Pope John Paul II both considered Honeydew melons their favorite fruit.

Honeydew is just a humble fruit; it’s not spectacular in appearance but on the inside it is scrumptious.

Humble is another great word; The quality or condition of being humble. A modest opinion or estimate of one’s own importance.

Humility or Humbleness is a quality of being courteously respectful of others. It is the opposite of aggressiveness, arrogance, boastfulness, and vanity. Rather than, “Me first” humility says, “No, you first.” – Humility is the quality that lets us to be generous to help others.

The demeanor of humility is exactly what is needed to live in peace and harmony with others. Humility dissipates anger and heals old wounds. Humility allows us to see the dignity and worth of all God’s people despite color, creed etc.  Humility has that special something that can distinguish the wise leader from the arrogant power-hungry.

Acting with humility does not in any way deny our own self worth.

The humble person keeps his/her accomplishments, gifts, and talents in a proper perspective. It is self-knowledge with an awareness of one’s limitations. Humble individuals value the life, well being and welfare of other people.

Our modern culture downplays humility with prerequisite to the forcefulness and aggression in many areas.

Humility is not inferiority or poor self-esteem; it is seeing our strengths and weaknesses honestly, and not letting either keep us from accomplishing what we need to do.

Humility produces thankfulness as a normal aspect of our daily living.

Turtle on the Fence:

A humble recognition of the need in the Creator God’s help and wisdom is key to his success of life and living [my personal view].  Sometimes however with great success one can ride the ego cart and think all things are self oriented. It is far superior to be humbled in the blessings and successes. 

Alex Haley, the author of Roots, has a picture in his office, showing a turtle sitting atop a fence. The picture is there to remind him of a lesson he learned long ago: “If you see a turtle on a fence post, you know he had some help.”
Haley said, “Every time I write something significant, and begin to feel proud of myself, I’ll look at the turtle on top of the fence post and remember that he didn’t get there on his own. He had some help.”

Turtle on a Fencepost

Quotes I am Pondering Today!

There is something in humility which strangely exalts the heart. Augustine

True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. C.S. Lewis

Humility is to make a right estimate of oneself. Charles H. Spurgeon

 A man’s pride will bring him low, But the humble in spirit will retain honor. Proverbs

Josh Groban and Celine Dion – The Prayer!

Here is a very classic video on Humility the music is superb!

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I’M HOPING TO HAVE FUN UNWRAPPING THE MYSTERY OF 2013!

my birthday gift

I will endeavor NOT to hurt the ones I love. Sometimes decisions do not have a blanket approval But I will do my best to honor the creator and honor you while maintaining an honorable self.

We have a memory together. They are not all perfect but a cherished memory nonetheless.

I am so blessed and happy in spite of the bumps in the road.

My Road is paved with roses and love.
I WILL TRY TO LIVE WITHOUT REGRETS.

Here is one of my poems from 2012

pearls
string of pearls

dark
it all came crashing down
under my feet the ground
gave way,
did i hear spurgeon’s voice
look! see
it’s a silvery strand of faith
akin to the strand by silver strand
woven by the spider
its spin of splenderous sheen,

faith feels for certain
what cannot be seen
such a splendid thing,

it’s the thread
upon which the pearls
of the grace are hung
it has always
held the graces not the voices
of vice and depravity,

graces of such pristine value
as dancers through the day
with graceful artistic expression
with elegant hand position
pirouette return to
finish in arabesque
strength and poise
of tip toe in ballet pointe
adagio the slow enfolding
artistic movements
spotting and spinning with
balance
such grace
how the magic flows,

far beyond such majesty
is the pearls upon the silver
strand of faith
graces of gemstone value
love, joy and peace
and the impact so rare of
patience, kindness
nacreous of goodness
refections of
gentleness and self control
and of course your
irridencence display
of faithfulness
when you
stand by me in spite
of time and trouble,

i know i’m truly blessed
because
you
graced me with your graces
in truest
rhapsody…©

beverley hoyles
July 25, 2012

Thank you for your giving into my life. Thank you for those who poured into my life.

I am grateful and I too think to myself what a wonderful world.

Louis Armstrong  Video…

I am grateful for the smiles of love.
I am so grateful I feel love, know love and I want to give it away.
Will you help me do this one thing?

Positive or Negative

why it’s the frown
a mighty negative down
multiple muscle use
spread it’s
negative even now
can you feel
it’s nasty supression

mirror neurons
spread its joy
with every smile
can’t you feel
such positive affect
every time
with great compassion
such love

set in stone
memories cannot change
but our future
not made known
so let’s make
it happen in every zone ©
beverley hoyles Dec 2012

WHAT IF THERE ARE DISAPPOINTMENTS?

Let’s not kid ourselves
We live in a non perfect world and we will have disappointments.

As much as it pleases God to bless you, there will be moments when everything you try goes up in smoke. There will be moments when the one you counted on most walks away and leaves you groping through blinding tears and wailing questions of why. Plans and goals can be circumvented by the most disappointing of times, leaving you learning the art of patience and the acceptance of a denied request. TD Jakes

May I express my gratitude that you are here right now.

Love, Love, Love…

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Beverley

I cannot go without mentioning one of the reasons why I am on this earth!

Stop Abuse! I want to see an end to Abuse!

Martina McBride – Concrete Angel Video

I hope that I can learn the art of marketing while promoting my book in grace because I genuinely believe it is worthwhile and helpful to those who suffer abuse, those who never suffered abuse, those who would like to educate themselves, and of course for those who may or may not have friends who suffer.

It is available on all Amazon sites around the world, Barnes and Noble, Chapters Indigo. Available in paperback or ebooks for kindle or kobo. If you click the book cover below it will direct you to one of the amazon sites.Beverley Hoyles CVR and spine

My book Feet First is also available from our office by emailing from my website http://www.feetfirst-book.com/

Day 28 of my 30 Day Thankfulness Challenge; I am thankful for Writing . 😀

I actually am very grateful that I have the opportunity to write.

It gives me a way to transpose the events of the day, life in general, personal issues, trauma, sorrows, glories of creation, family, happiness, death, disappointment, friends, the majesty of God and my  relationship with God.

Poetry gives me one of the greatest and most fun outlet of all. I would like to reiterate my former blog on the ‘writer’ and ‘the written word‘.

J. B. Priestly says, “Perhaps it would be better not to be a writer, but if you must, then write. If it all feels helpless, if that famous ‘inspiration’ will not come, write. If you are a genius, you’ll make your own rules, but if not—and the odds are against it—go to your desk, no matter what your mood, face the challenge of the paper—write.”

That’s good advice but I don’t want mindless drivel. I seriously would like to fill the page with the breathings, the battles and the bliss of my heart and soul. Not just words but phrases that would illuminate not to deceive nor depress. I admit sometimes ‘to illuminate and encourage’ one must show the dark side of things or go to a place in the past.

The ‘written word’ is perhaps the most influential, the most important, most dynamic of all time. Naturally we cannot depend upon our limited human memory. I can forget a thought from one side of the room to the other. The written word can be a timeless record whether it is bad or great writing preserved for generations way off into the future.

These words can provide food for the mind, for the soul, for understanding, and for awareness. It is unbelievable that we can put our words together and placed in a timeless Zone.

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William Hazzlitt says, “The more a man writes, the more he can write.”
I believe the elitist writers of our time will concur that writing is a distinct durable and transmittable way to convey your thoughts. I believe they will also concur that it is very important to set the standard high to have skilled writers. It is there that sometimes I fall short many times but I will not give up.
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Personally I have always written for a cause. I realize many write for the sheer enjoyment, a mythology muse and a variety of other reasons.

Initially at a naive age I felt a desire to write but chose to remain silent. There is a price to pay for silence in writing as well as disclosure of abuse. Methinks the majority of health issue fall into this category of silence.

“God wants you to be delivered from what you have done and from what has been done to you – Both are equally important to God.” Joyce Meyer, Beauty for Ashes

Surprisingly with my limited experience I found a profound, inspiring, freeing connection between writing and healing.

The written word, my words became a catharsis at first because I broke the silence and vented. However the experience of the written word began to allow me the opportunity to reduce my stress and depression.

Through the experience of the written word something had occurred but I had no professional scientific comparison. Not only did I begin to understand other people but my own essence opened up as a fountain. Something more began to happen when I wrote only ‘negatively’ the fountain did not flow the same. However when I expressed both negative and positive in words something truly magical happened. I literally felt better on the inside and it expressed openly in my demeanor and actions.

The fountain of passion changed; I not only wanted to help me to true life and living but I wanted to help others. Now it felt possible.

A writer has to figure it out on their own many times but I feel it is not enough to disclose abuse though monstrous as it is. Disclosure is important for our emotional health but that in itself is not enough. We have to face and examine the past and understand the abuse and realize the child isn’t to blame. From there begin to understand our hurt and pain and give credence to the pain we can actually begin to understand the polars of pain.

The next step is finding the path to forgiveness and allow ourselves to learn; it actually will boost our physical well being. So it is the words of negative and positive allows for a healthy well being.  It is the words that are penned; the indescribable and overwhelming to become describable and less overbearing. The words gave freedom.

A survivor of child abuse I will continue to campaign for the advocacy of putting a stop to all forms of abuse. My desire is to be a vessel of honor for God who wishes to speak for those who can’t speak about their traumatic pasts. I Put Creator God First and Know God’s power can help us.

“The reason one writes isn’t the fact he wants to say something. He writes because he has something to say”. – F. Scott Fitzgerald

“Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart.” –William Wordsworth

“I have to continually balance ‘being a writer’ with being a wife and mother. It’s a matter of putting two different things first, simultaneously.” Madeleine L’Engle

Writing is a form of therapy; sometimes I wonder how all those who do not write, compose or paint can manage to escape the madness, melancholia, the panic and fear which is inherent in a human situation. Graham Greene

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Keep WrItInG!

Laura~LME

@LauraLME ~ @VersesInMotion ~ @VIMMedia ~ @DigitalDotWorld

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