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In a world of adversity, division at its extreme, despair and death; I know I need to learn how to bond and work together so I/we can help more people.

I don’t want to just sit around, moan and groan.

I’m sure I can be outspoken yet tender-hearted and insightful or the very least – willing to learn.

  • Personally I absolutely feel we have to continue to SHOW deep love for each other
  • Cheerfully share y/our home with those who need a meal or a place to stay
  • Use the creative, gifting, heart, strengths to impact the world around you

Coach Vince Lombardi on making a winning team. Lombardi said, “There are a lot of coaches with good ball clubs who know the fundamentals and have plenty of discipline but still don’t win the game. Then you come to the third ingredient: if you’re going to play together as a team, you’ve got to care for one another. You’ve got to love each other. Each player has to be thinking about the next guy. You’ve got to do your job well in order that he can do his. The difference between mediocrity and greatness is the feeling these guys have for each other.”

SPORTS, BUSINESS, CHURCH, EDUCATION, CHARITY, GOVERNMENT, CITY, NATION, COUNTRY – every team must care.

Not just to care But Love not just to love But Show Love.

Love is not an abstract idea. Love must be manifested.

True love is not just something you feel – it’s something you demonstrate!

 

  • Marriages have problems when partners don’t show love to one another. A husband and wife may love each other deeply but have a miserable marriage because they don’t know how to show their love for one another.
  • You can’t raise kids properly without showing them love.
  • You can’t have true, lasting, satisfying friendships if your friends can’t tell that you love them.
  • You can’t experience relationships in the community or in your church family without showing and receiving love.

 

Some people find it rather easy to show love. It’s natural as breathing.

Others find it difficult – in fact they feel uncomfortable – simply because of your upbringing.

So HOW do we show love to others.

Treat others just as you want to be treated -The Golden Rule

This is basic.  How do I want to be treated?

 IN no particular order:

  • Listen to me when I talk
  • Show Love to me
  • Forgive me
  • Try Understanding me
  • Give me a Second chance
  • Respect me
  • Think about me
  • Be in the moment/ engaging
  • Relax with me
  • Meet some of my needs
  • Be patient with me
  • Be kind to me
  • Be Faithful to me
  • Do right by me
  • Remember with me
  • Include me in Making memories
  • Honor me
  • Be genuine with me
  • Appreciate me

Oh Dear

Sounds needy

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.

It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Wow

But in reality we are all fragile, delicate, sensitive and utterly in need of love.

Thanks for stopping by……Beverley

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EncourageWordleIn my lifetime, I have been at the nadir of despair –on occasion was not quite sure what to do next – someone called, wrote, or spoke a word of absolute encouragement. It was magical, miraculous and meaningful.

I would imagine you have felt that moment of encouragement.

I think it’s time that I take this opportunity to encourage you. 

Of course I encourage you to continue to encourage others – you just never know who needs it today.

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A story is told about a banker who always tossed a coin in the cup of a legless beggar who sat on the street outside the bank. But, unlike most people, the banker would always insist on getting one of the pencils the man had beside him. “You are a merchant,” the banker would say, “and I always expect to receive good value from merchants I do business with.” One day the legless man was not on the sidewalk. Time passed and the banker forgot about him, until he walked into a public building and there in the concessions stand sat the former beggar. He was obviously the owner of his own small business now. “I have always hoped you might come by someday,” the man said. “You are largely responsible for me being here. You kept telling me that I was a ’merchant’. I started thinking of myself that way, instead of a beggar receiving gifts. I started selling pencils — lots of them. You gave me self-respect, caused me to look at myself differently.”

Now isn’t that just the greatest story.

Many People often think of encouragement as ordinary, but I am more inclined to think it can be one amazing gift – so valuable.

1. Like a Birthday, Christmas, Anniversary Gift:  It’s free. Encouragement cost the recipient $0 but may at times cost the giver creativity and thoughtfulness; But isn’t that the fun if it all.

2. Unlike many of our gift giving It requires no, nil, zilch shopping. You can email, call or write a card/note of support.

3. Again, unlike other gifts It doesn’t have to be gift bagged/wrapped. It stands alone in its beauty. A Personal custom design -With a little thought you can give the best words of comfort, motivation, or support.

4. And guess what- no ever-ready batteries necessary – Aren’t you just sick of having to remember to get batteries.

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Just by example -you encourage a child – I will guarantee -It will last a lifetime. What other gift  could you give a child that will have value for years to come! Encouragement can lead a child, stop a suicide, cause growth, boost self esteem; comfort, console, strengthen.

 

May you continue to encourage and let it be a way of life.

While I was compiling my thoughts on encouragement, my daughter, Donna was having a very special moment in her life. I had to include it in my blog post. Hopefully it will encourage you as well.

Here is her brief Facebook excerpt of her day:

Helping others breathes life into your soul.

Was at St. Josephs [Hospital]for a bone density test. Was on my way to the elevators when an extremely old man who was partly blind and could barely walk was speaking out loud saying, “help me, I can’t see and I need to find where my appointment is”. I was waiting for the elevator doors to open. (I’m not the best person to ask for directions, not ashamed to vocalize that.. Hehe!) I said I can help guide you. (I’m in a lot of pain today and can barely walk myself) and the man said, “you’re in just as bad as shape as me.” I said, that’s ok, we’ll hold each other up and make sure we get to where we need to be.”

He said, “you’re such a beautiful girl”. I said thank you, I get that every now and then. He said, “no your outer beauty is very obvious, I nearly melted when I saw that smile. It’s what you have so strongly inside of you. I can tell. Do you love Jesus?”. Then of course I cried.. I said, “yes, yes I do, more and more each day He amazes me and I can’t live without Him.”

He said, “don’t worry sweet angel, before you know it you’re pain will be a distant memory. Don’t give up. See how God provided for me today? Your beautiful arms guiding me to safety. “

Ok… Break time.. Wiping the waterfall of tears…. K.. Back

It amazes me daily how God knows everything, and when we need a massive pick me up. Imagine if I allowed my weakness “of not doing well with directions” hold me back, I would have missed this blessing today. I really wanted to get out of there. (The pain in my body was awful).. But I did it anyway. It’s always best to listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit.

The man promised to pray for me and I promised to pray for him. GOD ROCKS!!!!

May you have a beautiful and encouraging day!

Thanks for coming back to read my blog!

I am truly honored.

Words

Encouragement means: “to add courage to”.

I’ll go out on a limb and say that A person who gives words of encouragement is helping another person become bolder and braver and blessed.

By giving encouragement I believe you are adding courage to that person- helping a person stand firmer and go farther.  Often give them meaning in their life.

I remember [many years ago as a youth] my friend and I would run races; she usually came in first and I usually the last. Believe me It doesn’t matter if you are coming in first place or last place – if people are there cheering you on – it gives you the added boost to finish the race.

A wise saying: Encourage each other daily, while it is still called today and keep each other on your toes.

You CAN encourage one another with your WORDS.

This is probably the most common way that we encourage one another – we tell people how much we appreciate them.

A word spoken at the right time is like golden apples on a silver tray.

or better yet

The right word at the right time is like a custom-made piece of jewelry.

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The right word is music to my ears. 😀

But of course; Even when we don’t really mean to, we say dumb things and foul things up. Even when we have high hopes and honorable intentions – words sometimes get all backwards and twisted around.

But please don’t give up trying to encourage.

For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body.

Just think about all the things you said or wanted to say and the effect it did or would have if you would only encourage.

  • The effect the words of a parent have on a child.
  • The effect the husband’s words have on a wife and vice versa.
  • The impact the boss’s words have on an employee.
  • Words said in love to a family member or stranger.
  • Words said in anger.
  • The last words on a death bed.
  • Words help shape y/our lives – just as we have shaped the lives of others.
  • Words that impact a child with self esteem.

 The right word at the right time is like a Priceless Piece of Jewellery.

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power of words

Words must be weighed, not counted.

As a writer counting the words are often important because you/I/they often want a certain word count and page count to complete a book or novel.  Some have an obsession with word count. I’m not sure where it all started but some even believe a good  novel hinges on word count. Hence the controversy over word count.
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Today, however let’s weigh our words.

Do they value?

Do they place value on someone else?

Do they encourage?

Do they incite a positive outcome?

Will our words slander?  John Chrysostom said that Slander is worse than cannibalism.

I would also venture to say that what we say matters and what we do not say matters.  There is also a time for silence; however I won’t be silent today.

Too often we judge people based on our own backgrounds, failures, mistakes, problems  and experiences, but when you understand people’s stories, present circumstances, it’s easier to understand their demeanor and their faults.

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I hope these words will encourage:

    • Don’t look for faults in others, but focus on what YOU can control!
    • Time spent gossiping is a waste of time! Don’t give a place to plant the seed of hypocrisy in your life, because it will destroy you as a role model and your witness for the creator.
    • Be true to the creator God, and  be honest with yourself.
    • Next to God, the most important thing in your life is your family.
    • Remember, a man’s wealth or happiness is not found in the multitude of material things he possesses.
    • Commit uninterrupted time in your schedule for those you love.
    • Learn from your failures and use them as stepping stones to success,
    • Experience is a great teacher and trials result in patience and endurance.

Unless you have never been tempted, don’t pass judgement on anyone who has yielded.  I often fail at this but I try to keep these words before me.

Let’s practice by looking in the mirror first and then proceed to be more concerned with encouraging and building up others and love, love, love.  Looking in the mirror is more than issues of color but of actions, thoughts, deeds and words.

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“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” ― John Holmes

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Day 20 of my recent 30 Day Thankfulness Challenge; I am thankful for movies but especially older movies . 😀

There are many things I am thankful for in the modern age but modern movies usually do not go to the top of my list.  I will agree there are some great movies that have come out in the past  20 years but I am afraid I still prefer the message of the older movies.

Hollywood does not leave much to the imagination. Predominant themes are sex and more sex, immorality, violence with the full blood guts and brawn, potty mouth to the nth degree, disregard for love and marriage is the order of the day so I avoid those and go straight to the sensible movies [in my opinion].

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I actually love all Christmas movies. Dear me I am the proverbial child. lol

Oh my goodness I just realized something I love so many movies I can’t name them all. Oh dear; my name is Beverley Hoyles and I am a movie addict!
😀 Not really I love movies but I’m haven’t gone that far yet!

For me whatever the movie I am watching… it has to get to me on an emotional level.

I must feel something. It must send a message and I have to decide whether it is conducive for me to hang on to.

Personally I don’t like movies that want to cram things that deprave humanity in any way. Propaganda to infiltrate society to believe a criteria to beauty is only in a visual sense. I also dislike the idea of movies that promote immorality and disloyalty.

A good movie should give us pause to think, laugh, motivate to excel, promote goodwill, encourage humanity, deductive reasoning, common sense, highlight integral qualities, courage, values, to love, etc. while entertaining.

So I am strong in my opinion and expect a lot more from the presence of movies.

 

Movies

  • An Affair to Remember
  • Ferdinand the Bull – Walt Disney 1938- Although I didn’t like the gentleman smoking in this kids movie
  • Gone with the Wind – always cry at the ending
  • It’s a wonderful Life – with JImmy Stewart gives you hope in mankind and their kindness to help
  • I love the magic of Scrooge in the 1951- The Christmas Carol  – Alastair Sim is the greatest actor ever
  • Look Whose Coming to Dinner with Sidney Poitier
  • Meet me in St. Louis – During the year before the 1904 St Louis World’s Fair, the four Smith daughters learn lessons of life and love, even as they prepare for a reluctant move to New York
  • Miracle of 34th Street
  • Singing in the Rain – just gotta lift your spirits
  • The Incredible Mr. Limpett – love Don Knotts
  • The Ghost and Mrs. Muir
  • Wizard of Oz – Judy Garland one of my all time favorites
  • White Christmas with Bing Crosby; who don’t love Bing

There are some I like that have been produced in the past few years; here are a few.

  • Anna and the King with Jodie Foster and Chow Yun-Fat
  • Avatar
  • 127 Hours
  • Charlie Brown Christmas
  • Charlotte’s Web
  • Courageous
  • Dances with Wolves
  • Fireproof – beautiful movie about marriage
  • Hachi: Dog Story with Richard Gere
  • Man without a Face
  • Patch Adams- gave me faith in doctors again
  • Prince of Persia: The Sands of Time with Jake Gyllenhal
  • Ratatouille
  • Samurai with Tom Cruize
  • Scrooged
  • Science and Sensibility
  • Shriek
  • Sleepless in Seattle
  • Star Trek with Chris Pine
  • Soul Surfer
  • Taking Chance with Kevin Bacon
  • The Blind Side
  • The Chronicles of Narnia
  • The Green Mile with Tom Hanks
  • The Holiday
  • The Elephant Man
  • The Help
  • The Hurt Locker – couldn’t finish it yet!!!!!
  • The Prince of Egypt – Spielberg
  • The Polar Express
  • Transformers
  • Twilight
  • UP
  • Wall-e
  • War Horse
  • You’ve Got Mail

It is true I love too many movies!

Can you think of some movies that are worth watching that I have not added to my list?

Thanks for reading my blog….Beverley

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