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We know that we ought to be thankful for the good things and use the not so great things to teach us to count our blessings.

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One of the greatest blessing in our lives is to love and know love.

It is far too easy to camouflage the very people we love that make life worthwhile, with the business and busyness of life.

Tis the Season-
It’s Christmas, it’s a miracle, it’s love, it’s a gift –
To fall in love is a precious gift, a miracle.

Would you like to fall in love all over again?

To fall in love all over again brings tears to my heart and rain to my eyes.

Would you like to fall in love again this Christmas season?

To look into the eyes of creator God afresh and see the miracles of his love for you. To once again have hope because of the Man whose birth we celebrate on Christmas Day. To fall in love with the creator not just his creation.

To look into the eyes of your spouse as once you did and caused that head over heels butterfly feeling. The commitment in your heart of your youth to never take him/her for granted.

As a youth or young adult in love it is so natural to want to explore, to touch, to feel that warm body of another human being. To immerse in that sensual electrifying experience. The desire to be in love came so naturally; could that happen again?

I believe that one of the biggest reasons that people are miserable especially at Christmas is because they refuse to let go of the hurts, disappointment, and offenses of others. They justify their pain and keep themselves and others locked in a prison of unforgiveness. Believe me It isn’t easy making the choice to forgive But living with unforgiveness can be deadly! There is a great need to forgive.

A need to rekindle, refresh, fan the flame of love.

To make a date every day. Re-establish connection with your life-companion the forever friendship. There’s a good man in there- there’s a good woman in there.
In sickness and in health. To be captivated once again.

To look into the eyes of your now grown child/ren and remember the naivety of that new mom feeling. To remember your heart swell with love for the little one. The smell, the touch of his/her silky newborn skin of this little human who needs you every second of every day. The promise you made to nurture and keep them safe all wrapped in the warmth of your love. To disrespect or allow harm near your child would be unthinkable. Remember – you would never let anyone or anything interfere with that sweet baby smile. Honor your children.

As we fall in love with God, spouse and child remember those who suffer. For those who are ill, forgotten, lonely; for those who are homeless and are huddled on dark winter nights in the unseen corners of cities all over the world.

Don’t let this season be the greatest regret of your life.
Let it be the greatest love’s rebirth of your Existence. Let it bring you back to life.
To feel, to touch, to hug, to forgive, to kiss, to recommit, bringing joy thought lost.

No it doesn’t have to be a fairy tale but true life.

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It’s been a difficult few weeks..No signs of drastic improvement but there is change so for that I am most grateful.  This lull that I have felt has pulled me in once again with reflection.

What is it I really need in this life?

Whom shall I talk to to unload this burden?

Where shall I run for solace?

 

Where shall I Run

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Where should I run?

 

In that moment

of encumbrance

when faith would wane

grapple with grace

and wonderment

i want to run away,

where too should i run?

i shall run to you

to silence

near the fountain of all being

at the fane

where wizards of wonderment

and wisdom are free

grand graces grow

transfigured

by a-mazing voyage

i run to the centre

of who i am –

the Eye of the Universe….©

Beverleyhoyles

May 11, 2013

A teardrop on earth summons the King of heaven.  Chuck Swindoll

Have a glorious Day!

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Impossibilities!

This is the cover of my book with slight changes to adapt to this blog post!

feet first and impossibilities

Impossibilities!

There comes a time in the life of every person when they are faced with a seemingly impossible situation.

How do we conduct ourselves during these times?

Why does God allow them?

Can we really prepare for them?
How will we respond?

 

I do believe in the creator [my choice] and often I have to say there is only one thing to do.

Meet the creator in meditation and prayer and walk in faith.

Why would we become discouraged?

Why would my heart become troubled?

What happens when fear and faith collide?

When we are faced with impossibilities; words begin forming in our minds such as give up, fear, loss, abandon, hopeless, no direction but down. Sounds so familiar doesn’t it?

To accept your lot in life and just make the best of it is what society teaches.

But in Faith I want to alter my/your reasoning concerning the difficult occurrences in each of our lives.

In many respects adversities turn into an opportunity of blessing. I’m just an ordinary person facing the impossibilities BUT believing in the possibilities.

No, the day may not transpire as I had planned BUT there are impossibilities to overcome.

I purpose in my heart to bring honor to God to man and myself…I know I may fail at times but as-God-as-my-witness I SHALL pick myself up and see the OPPORTUNITIES the POSSIBILITIES outweigh the impossibilities.

WHY?

Because the more time I spend with the creator in  meditation and respect the more I gain in faith.

Impossible
the tide gone forth
storm revealed
innermost
without,
vicious, savage
tempest-tossed
no way out
painful and sad
spirit moans and groans
of the unthinkable,
 
with one hand
companioned
blitse of prayer
bursting for
positiive embrace
the soul is fired
in hope
of the smallest grain
dare to run
venture to fight
destroy the
brute force trauma,
 
a revolution
start of an army
one mind
one thought
believe
initiate faith
to finally see
what was unseen
the impossibility
disguised
incognito
as a
brilliant
beautiful
blusterous
opportunity…

beverleyhoyles

april 7, 2013

possibilities

May your day be well.

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Have Yourself A Very Merry Christmas Now!

While we are participating in our traditions and celebrations let’s take a moment to pray for those less fortunate.  Also take the time to donate, give, do random acts of kindness and make someone’s Christmas in your community.  I am sure you are doing just that..

It doesn’t appear that I will get what I hoped for [Yet] with regard to relationships/parents/siblings but my children and grandchildren will be around me at different times during this Christmas season AND for that I am eternally grateful. I so love my children and grandchildren.

Merry Christmas

Christmas can be a season of great joy and rejoicing.

It is a time of God showing His great love for us.

It can be a time of healing and renewed strength.

For me, Christmas is when we celebrate the birth of the Christ child. God sent His Son, Jesus, into the world to be born. His birth brought great joy to the world. Shepherds, wise men, and angels all shared in the excitement of knowing about this great event. They knew this was no ordinary baby. The prophets had told of His coming hundreds of years before. The star stopped over Bethlehem just to mark the way for those who were looking for this special child.

One thing I know for sure Christmas is Love, Life, Laughter, Kindness, Compassion, Thanksgiving and Peace and that special cloak/presence of God I cannot explain!

Christmas heart

Linus Monologue – A Charlie Brown Christmas

Christmas Carols – Christmas Time Is Here (Charlie Brown)

Have yourself a very merry Christmas Now! With Kenny G…..Now This is a wonderful Video; Hope you watch this one also!

http://www.metacafe.com/watch/sy-18086069/kenny_g_have_yourself_a_merry_little_christmas_official_music_video/

Schroeder – Jingle Bells

Have a Merry Christmas!

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Day 29 of my 30 Day Thankfulness Challenge; I am thankful for the essence of Family.  😀

Family for me; includes parents, brothers and sisters, caregivers, extended family of my spouse, sons-in law’s and daughter-in law’s family, people I have met that are now a part of my family, people from different churches, even pets, and people from the most unusual places such as Facebook.  For friends that have stayed faithful  to me through many years are all really family. For others there are blended families and many more complexities form families.

The key to any family is to love lavishly. Care cuddles, provide safety and comfort for each member. Kids thirst for parental acceptance — they long for their mother and father to reinforce their worth. Parental priority is to purpose in guiding each child’s emotional life.

If a parent fails here and reinforce a dysfunctional family by any type of abuse or trauma or neglect or suppression that child’s life is changed forever.

Being parents or leaders of a family is God-given with an important duty to meet a child’s need for affirmation. First and foremost is to pour blessing not cursing upon your child.

God has given mother and father but especially mothers the loving, nurturing quality that care for our children – feeding them, dressing them, changing diaper after diaper, it is God who gives them breath so we are not in this alone. God knows the number of hairs on their head and the days of their life.

As I ponder the life of children I am amazed once more by the awesome power of God to give life. I cannot begin to imagine that there is another out there that could love my children, grandchildren more than me except God.  I am comforted on many occasions knowing That God hold them and me in the creator’s hands.

A very important part of the family is forgiveness.  We all need forgiveness at different times.  Some have to forgive normal ordinary things others have to forgive abuse or crime or addiction.

Forgiveness is letting it go, to release.  With all one’s heart/wholeheartedly, freely granting freedom and blessing. Mind you it has little to do with feelings or trust.  It is a decision to let it go, let go of disappointments, let go of hurts and pain, let go of regrets or what we view as justice or what is right.

In abusive relationships the dynamics and healing process is critical.

Lily Tomlin said: To forgive is to give up all hope for a better past.

“There comes a critical time in each person’s life when the truth is accessible. Faced with it, you can either run and hide, denying it, or you can face your truth, accept it, and grow stronger,” wrote Gregory Jantz in Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse.

“While the optimum situation is for both parties in an abusive situation to seek help, Dr. Tim Clinton, President of the American Association of Counselors, insists one person can change the relationship. 

“Change a person; change a relationship,” he says.

Dr. Tim Clinton says that “with professional help—and by following some basic principles you can break the cycle of abuse in your life and begin your healing journey”

I know I have oversimplified 6 of his suggestions but you get the drift.

  • Truth and disclosure is the first step
  • Seek professional help and guidance
  • Set appropriate boundaries
  • Find and maintain healthy relationships by surrounding yourself with a group of people that will support you
  • Do what you can and trust God for added strength
  • Forgiveness is not denying but opens door to healing

In Any Family – Love, respect, kindness, warmth, fun, challenge, learning and affection are some important ingredients in the family. If we’re going to grow and mature in spirit, then we’ve got to grow in love.

Stages of Family

The family is like a human body everyone needs each other, and everyone helps another.

I really want a family atmosphere that will be a center of love, created in such a way that any hurts, brokenness, worry or fear is healed and God is seen always. Plenty of hugs, kindness, tears and laughter given freely.

Pertinent Quotes:

“This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.”

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love”

Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.”   ― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving

When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice. – Cherokee

Psalmist said, Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me.

Continually forgive others. Forgive AT ONCE, not one second later, not one half second later, because if you hesitate to forgive, jealousy comes in the door, than hatred and envy. Forgive instantly as Christ forgives instantly.  Gerontissa Makrina

“When love, acceptance and forgiveness prevail, the church becomes what Jesus was in the world: a center of love, designed for the healing of broken people, and a force for God… One of the greatest services a church can offer a community is to provide a place for people to be brought to wholeness – to be healed physically, spiritually and emotionally… People are fragmented. They are torn. Life doesn’t work for them because they are without Jesus… They need a place to be healed.” (Jerry Cook).

 

We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves.  Henry Ward Beecher

People who have good relationships at home are more effective in the marketplace. Zig Ziglar

Charity begins at home, but should not end there.  Thomas Fuller

Proverb  “The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.”

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Day of Tragedy

It’s late Friday Night and my second lot of company has left.

I am at a loss of what to say except to realize that our world needs more love; more peace; more kindness.

I worked for the better part of today and then we had unexpected company;  So I was late hearing the news of the tragedy in Newtown.  A man opened fire Friday/today inside two classrooms at Sandy  Hook Elementary School.

By mid-morning break at the Sandy Hook Elementary School, a reported 20 children and seven adults – including the alleged gunman – were also dead, pointlessly killed as they went about their peaceful business of teaching and being taught.

As a world, all we are left with are chilling pictures of frightened
school children clutching each other in a line, weeping in fear and in horror at what they have just witnessed.

Naturally, like you, my heart is broken.  The tragedy and enormous loss of these beautiful people who died at the hands of another is devastating to the world.  The immense tragedy, the unthinkable evil happened and now the parents, family, neighbors try to pick up the pieces.  I can only imagine the enormous loss and emptiness, life will never be the same and fun and laughter is the furthest from their minds.

It is now worldwide grief.

All I can feel is Nobody knows but Jesus. “Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows”

This is President Obama’s statement about CT shooting. http://t.co/WpkQOQN7

Last year there were 14,612 murders in the U.S. 40 a day. The number has not been below 14,000 since 1968.

Surely something has to change.

In this somber time there isn’t a lot we can say.

This is what the LORD says: “A voice is heard in Ramah, mourning and great weeping, Rachel weeping for her children and refusing to be comforted, because her children are no more.”

Please let’s join in praying for the families and loved ones affected by the devastating tragedy in Newtown, Connecticut. We are standing with you for healing and comfort!

May the tragedy remind us to continue to love our kids and never stop telling them and showing them.

Stay Safe and God Bless You today!

Beverley

 

I am diverging a little, well a lot, to what I normally write on this blog. My goal is to have a positive and inspirational blog. I hope to have guest bloggers in the near future and highlight inspirational stories. I love the story telling skills of other authors and artists. There is so much negative in the world it is nice to have a positive place.  I try to write things that will allow people to know they are loved, uplifted and encouraged..

Today I will take a moment to mention sexual abuse.  A nasty topic but sadly a reality. With education and action maybe we can abolish this in our lifetime.

What I have to say today can apply to any problem you or I may have. This is not meant to be an in depth study and certainly will not provide all the answers and most likely cause more questions.  But that’s okay as well.

The horror and trauma of sexual abuse is that no matter how severe the physical pain, the mental torment is even worse.

This is a tribute to all Victims of all forms of abuse

in the beginning

God created you

no matter where conceived

you are beautiful…

God created you perfect

but the bloody abuser

tried to ruin you

I believe you are beautiful…

blood mixed in night sweats

self harm of depression

broken wounds linger near

I feel you are beautiful…

deep calleth unto deep

the pain the dark

the misery

I perceive you are beautiful…

confused internal pain

I want to dry your tears

bring you back from despair

I trust you are beautiful…

on behalf of those

who committed heinous actions

I apologize

for all wounds inflicted

punishment within

I validate you as a human being

I know you are beautiful…

in your suffering from abuse

it was wrong and without excuse

if I could turn back time and space

I would go back and prevent

the hurt caused or any

feelings of dimishment  of your

humanity and manhood

for I am sure you are beautiful….

I would exchange hopelessness for hope

nightmares for dreams

fears for courageous love

sense of loss for peace

please know you are not less

then perfect

yes you are beautiful….

you are not alone

you will know you are complete

and whole

someday the glorious

martyr’s crown

but for now,

remain inside the hug

remember you ARE beautiful…©

by beverley hoyles -06 12 –


I
have met far too many people who still suffer from abuse.

From her voice – “The actual pain of the sexual abuse ended when I was eleven; but I still feel an inner pain and distress at 76.”

The trauma of sexual molestation is so horrific and distorts our self-image. Sadly the horrific acts replay like a sadistic recorder over and over. Anxiety, guilt and shame and depletion of energy making you sick. Physical Sickness, depression, self harm and so much more is a recurrent among sexual abuse victims.

Does this sound like little hope? No, Healing is available.

I hope you will continue to read…

In order to reach the level of growth and healing and life you need to not only know but acknowledge the reality of the mess the abuser caused you to be in.  A mess of pain, depression and for some near death. Healing begins when the secret is disclosed and the chains and shackles of silence and inward pain are broken.

I know the hurt has many layers like an onion and  can make you cry – deep calleth unto deep.  I also realize each of us have different coping skills but we don’t have to settle just with coping alone.

I am a believer that there can be an exchange; in reality a miracle. I Know this sounds bizarre to so many. I assure you I am not a weirdo just someone who truly believes in God’s willingness and power to help us.  I also believe Creator God will make a way where the impossible grins at you and where there seems to be absolutely NO Way..

I have experienced this myself.  It is real. I believe in the power of God and God’s word the Bible and that there are keys of passages of scripture that can give us a roadmap/guidance out of the hurt, anger, fear, depression and confusion. I have seen instant miracles but for most its a long journey but God accompanies you every step of the way.

It is possible you will also need professional help; there are some great counselors willing to help you. 

Don’t feel you are alone because I am travelling with you and so is God.

Probably you may have thought God was also the abuser and cannot be trusted. After all, is He not the one who saw what was going on and did nothing about it?  Even though the church has failed us in many aspects there are still many who are compassionate and willing to help us.

Jesus knows what it means to suffer for others’ wrongdoing. It doesn’t seem fair that someone should hurt you so deeply and then leave you wounded by the road as he goes on his merry way through life with no signs of guilt or remorse, no desire to make things right or compensate in some way for your loss of innocence. The abuser did the abuse and sinning, but you have done the suffering.

So when you come to God with the anguish of abuse and your sense of separation from the world and relationships, the creator God  understands.  Draw near, knowing that the caring God is “touched with the feeling of [your] infirmities” -This has calmed me many times…

  • God feels what you feel and is touched by your sense of hopelessness. 

  • God is profoundly impacted by your hurt.

  • God is profoundly impacted by your confusion and depression or whatever you have right now in your life.

  • God mourns with you.

  • God has compassion. You can talk openly and honestly with God.

  • God is angry over the crimes committed against you.

  • God is near the broken hearted. Take heart and take faith.

If you think you do not have faith and desire to have faith; ask God for faith first!

There can be a unique spiritual exchange at Calvary. Jesus takes all your humiliation, pain, emotional turmoil, hatred, failure, in exchange you receive perfection and honor and holiness and life. I firmly believe that on this journey at the place where we would be willing to pass to Jesus all this humiliation; we can receive peace and healing.

Regardless your believe system;I do respect differences; I have found Jesus to be honest, loving and of a great example.

God says; I have loved you with an everlasting love and I will build you up at the pace you are able to handle.  Don’t feel you are alone. God cares about you. How God wants to show you great love.

There are people who do not believe in God nor the power of Jesus blood; For that I am very sad.

Your past may always be a heavy load, but you can lighten that heavy load of baggage by shifting your focus from what happened to you back then to what God is doing or can do in you right now. Abuse is not good, but growing into God’s likeness is good. It is very, very good. 

You are not suddenly gonna lose your memory but the sting will eventually go away.

The next step is to rebuild your self-esteem.

It may sound unbelievable but I can assure you; You can become strong.  Surround yourself with people who believe in you, who value you. You will know they are true friends when they cause you to be better, encouraged and uplifted.

People who have suffered abuse feel completely powerless. Gain new strength and confidence by facing your fears one at a time.

Baby steps. Let God be a part of your healing process.

I firmly believe you will find yourself on the road of forgiveness to thriving…

When God looks at you – God does not see “contaminated or damaged goods.”

God sees a person of value and worth.

You are beautiful.

Allow God’s love to flow into every wound, over your pain and sweeten every thought.

Victims of Self Abuse/harm have to deal with a whole gamut of healing in relation to their present relationships but it is possible.

These are most comforting words for me:

You are the everlasting God

The everlasting God

You do not faint,

You won’t grow weary

You’re the defender of

The Weak

You comfort Those in Need

You lift us up on

Wings like Eagles

What has been stolen from you God wants to restore…..Allow Him to create new thoughts, emotions, feelings, patterns.

God is not against you BUT FOR YOU!  

God loves you with an everlasting love and  will build you up at the pace you are able to handle.

God wants to rebuild your life, to restore, repairing the broken thoughts, renovate our broken dreams and lives.

God understands what you have gone through- When you pass through the waters, God will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.

I can assure you that Self-destructive behaviors—alcohol, drugs, eating disorders, promiscuity, poor health habits, negative attitudes, and threats of suicide— fade away as we surrender to God’s help.

Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.

Hugs to You!
Did you know [I’m sure you do] that human contact through hugs lowers blood pressure and reduces stress.

Hugs have also been shown to improve overall mood, increase nerve activity, and a host of other beneficial effects. Positive physical touch has an immediate anti-stress effect, slowing breathing and heart rate.

A good hug speaks directly to your body and soul, making you feel loved and special- in fact –

Hugging is a natural and wonderful medicine; a salve if you will on the sores of your heart and soul.

Begin to see yourself  free from the chains of the abuser …

My next blog will be entitled “Kindness”  I think you will enjoy it..

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