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Ta Da

what you talkin

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it’s the amazin

race of  my life

it’s the new outfit

it’s speaking up

it’s the rhythm

it’s music

it’s the voice

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it’s sharin

it’s the speed

it’s the faith

making bad days bet-ter

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it’s the kiss

it’s the upside down dream

it’s the day i was created

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it’s the tears that flow

it’s the bucket list

it’s your birthday bear

it’s your death

it’s rebirth

after many years

it’s closing your eyes

see me everywhere

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it’s the freedom

it’s walls come tumbling down

it’s never tearing us apart

it’s the laughter

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it’s finding the time

it’s incomprehensible

now eureka

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it’s the cocoa with marshmallows

it’s s’mores

it’s salty chips

it’s the family fire

it’s the smell of smoke

it’s the cheers

it’s always there

take a bow

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it’s celebration of wisdom

finished product

it’s inspiring

learn something new

not the end

it’s the power of

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BeverleyHoyles

May 14, 2014

 

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EncourageWordleIn my lifetime, I have been at the nadir of despair –on occasion was not quite sure what to do next – someone called, wrote, or spoke a word of absolute encouragement. It was magical, miraculous and meaningful.

I would imagine you have felt that moment of encouragement.

I think it’s time that I take this opportunity to encourage you. 

Of course I encourage you to continue to encourage others – you just never know who needs it today.

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A story is told about a banker who always tossed a coin in the cup of a legless beggar who sat on the street outside the bank. But, unlike most people, the banker would always insist on getting one of the pencils the man had beside him. “You are a merchant,” the banker would say, “and I always expect to receive good value from merchants I do business with.” One day the legless man was not on the sidewalk. Time passed and the banker forgot about him, until he walked into a public building and there in the concessions stand sat the former beggar. He was obviously the owner of his own small business now. “I have always hoped you might come by someday,” the man said. “You are largely responsible for me being here. You kept telling me that I was a ’merchant’. I started thinking of myself that way, instead of a beggar receiving gifts. I started selling pencils — lots of them. You gave me self-respect, caused me to look at myself differently.”

Now isn’t that just the greatest story.

Many People often think of encouragement as ordinary, but I am more inclined to think it can be one amazing gift – so valuable.

1. Like a Birthday, Christmas, Anniversary Gift:  It’s free. Encouragement cost the recipient $0 but may at times cost the giver creativity and thoughtfulness; But isn’t that the fun if it all.

2. Unlike many of our gift giving It requires no, nil, zilch shopping. You can email, call or write a card/note of support.

3. Again, unlike other gifts It doesn’t have to be gift bagged/wrapped. It stands alone in its beauty. A Personal custom design -With a little thought you can give the best words of comfort, motivation, or support.

4. And guess what- no ever-ready batteries necessary – Aren’t you just sick of having to remember to get batteries.

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Just by example -you encourage a child – I will guarantee -It will last a lifetime. What other gift  could you give a child that will have value for years to come! Encouragement can lead a child, stop a suicide, cause growth, boost self esteem; comfort, console, strengthen.

 

May you continue to encourage and let it be a way of life.

While I was compiling my thoughts on encouragement, my daughter, Donna was having a very special moment in her life. I had to include it in my blog post. Hopefully it will encourage you as well.

Here is her brief Facebook excerpt of her day:

Helping others breathes life into your soul.

Was at St. Josephs [Hospital]for a bone density test. Was on my way to the elevators when an extremely old man who was partly blind and could barely walk was speaking out loud saying, “help me, I can’t see and I need to find where my appointment is”. I was waiting for the elevator doors to open. (I’m not the best person to ask for directions, not ashamed to vocalize that.. Hehe!) I said I can help guide you. (I’m in a lot of pain today and can barely walk myself) and the man said, “you’re in just as bad as shape as me.” I said, that’s ok, we’ll hold each other up and make sure we get to where we need to be.”

He said, “you’re such a beautiful girl”. I said thank you, I get that every now and then. He said, “no your outer beauty is very obvious, I nearly melted when I saw that smile. It’s what you have so strongly inside of you. I can tell. Do you love Jesus?”. Then of course I cried.. I said, “yes, yes I do, more and more each day He amazes me and I can’t live without Him.”

He said, “don’t worry sweet angel, before you know it you’re pain will be a distant memory. Don’t give up. See how God provided for me today? Your beautiful arms guiding me to safety. “

Ok… Break time.. Wiping the waterfall of tears…. K.. Back

It amazes me daily how God knows everything, and when we need a massive pick me up. Imagine if I allowed my weakness “of not doing well with directions” hold me back, I would have missed this blessing today. I really wanted to get out of there. (The pain in my body was awful).. But I did it anyway. It’s always best to listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit.

The man promised to pray for me and I promised to pray for him. GOD ROCKS!!!!

May you have a beautiful and encouraging day!

Thanks for coming back to read my blog!

I am truly honored.

Inconvenient time

It’s an inconvenient time.

Here are some of my Ramblings.

More specifically Not convenient, not accessible; hard to reach, not suited to one’s comfort, purpose, or needs, inopportune time.
It’s 2 am and finally you fell asleep after a horrific day, the baby awakes oops throwing up and is sick. You don’t say this is not a good time but mommy/daddy mode – kicks in as a nurse/doctor/loving parent. You do what you have to do to make your child comfortable and complete steps to his/her complete wellness including lots of love and tenderness.
Be there even if it messes up your day!

Be kind whenever possible and the trick is it is always possible.

If you want contentment and happiness; try kindness and a helping hand.
I agree it is an inconvenient day in which we live, especially with so much evil, wrong, sickness, violence in the wake. Compassion often fails us and maybe just maybe we want to shut the door on it all and pretend it’s just us and no one needs us.

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Sadly for some the time that someone needs you is at an inconvenient time. 

However the more we allow our hearts to be generous and giving there is never an inconvenient time.

Life and death could be in someone’s path today; family issues, traumas or just plain bad days. So let’s make someone’s day better.

My new motto: leave a room better than when you entered.  LEAVE a person’s life better than when you entered it.

The Mystery of the Mop

Everyone at the State University knew that Donner Hall had the best parties. All-night dancing and beer guzzling attracted the largest weekend crowds by far – especially on the notorious second floor.

By midnight every Friday and Saturday, the entire second floor was three inches deep in smashed beer cans, empty wine bottles, and stale potato chips.

But by about 7:00 a.m. the next morning, all of the garbage was removed.
The second floor residents assumed the conscientious school janitors came bright and early, before anyone woke up, to sweep up the mess.

Early one Saturday morning, Chris, still hung over from Friday night’s party, stumbled out of his bed to head for the bathroom.

Noticing a freshly vacuumed second floor, he mumbled to himself, “I guess the janitors came early again to get rid of the mess.”

On reaching the bathroom, however, his nose warned him the mess wasn’t completely eliminated.

A trail of vomit soiled the bathroom floor, ending at the point where someone was just then mopping it up.

Chris thought to himself, I’m glad the janitor is doing the dirty work so we don’t have to.

At the sound of Chris’s shuffling, the supposed janitor looked up.
Shocked, Chris realized the person mopping up the vomit was Marco, his next-door neighbor.

“Marco, man, what are you doing?” Chris asked.
Marco answered simply, “I’m cleaning up.”
“Why?” You weren’t even at the party last night.”
“Because I’m a Christian.”

No janitor had ever cared enough to clean up every Monday morning.
It had been Marco the whole time.
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Marco’s model of servant leadership is required of all who follow the creator’s path.

 
In what ways have you shown yourself to be willing to serve others—Even when it’s inconvenient?

Serving isn’t about what you get out of it, whether you’re looking to be entertained, or have a fun time. It’s simply putting yourself in the place of other’s thoughts and situations even if it’s inconvenient.

THIS week my daughter’s dad passed away so she is going with her Husband [my son] to Newfoundland to attend the funeral and help with the necessities that follow such an event.  There will be times of joy and sorrow.  A most wonderful man whom we adore.  The only thing that we can do [ my husband and I ] is to look after their two children [ our precious grand children ] while they are away.  For us it is a privilege to care for them.  For some that would be an inconvenience but for us it is a convenient privilege.  Many times it is a matter of attitude and how you approach a situation.

At times, it’s an inconvenience for us to go out of our way to help someone that has either hurt us or that we don’t especially like when we know of something that can benefit them instead of us.

We get ticked off at the circumstance we’re in at the moment, and our attitude prevents us from seeing God’s magnitude.

I think each of you have such amazing qualities keep sharing them.

Your day, your life is faced with trauma or just a bundle of getting nowhere fast.  Someone calls or meets you.  Maybe they need you in some way. The time is now!  You are faced with a situation, a dilemma, a choice, if you answer the call.  Is it possible you could change the fate of an individual; their life, their choices, their attitude,  their commitment, their love. Maybe this inconvenient time isn’t so inconvenient after all.  The creator ordained it.

Prayer in action is love, and love in action is service. Try to give unconditionally whatever a person needs in the moment. The point is to do something, however small, and show you care through your actions by giving your time … We are all God’s children so it is important to share His gifts. Do not worry about why problems exist in the world – just respond to people’s needs … We feel what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean, but that ocean would be less without that drop.“- Mother Teresa

A man has honor if he holds himself to an ideal of conduct though it is inconvenient, unprofitable, or danerous to do so.  Walter Lippmann

Change is not made without inconvenience, even from worse to better. – Richard Hooker

You Raise Me Up!

From a Distance

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May you have hope today in your heart!

Feet First

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Y is for Yogurt and Yield!

Yogurt or yoghurt or yoghourt; is a dairy product (nut milks, such as almond milk, and coconut milk can also be used) produced by bacterial fermentation of milk. The bacteria used to make yogurt are known as “yogurt cultures”. Fermentation of lactose by these bacteria produces lactic acid, which acts on milk protein to give yogurt its texture and its characteristic tang.[Wikpedia.]

Yogurt is nutritionally rich in protein, calcium, riboflavin, vitamin B6 and vitamin B12. It has nutritional benefits beyond those of milk. Lactose-intolerant individuals can sometimes tolerate yogurt better than other dairy products.

To offset its natural sourness, yogurt is also sold sweetened, flavoured or in containers with fruit or fruit jam on the bottom.

Nondairy yogurts -Since at least 1977 yogurt has been made from soymilk.

Yogurt is pretty much enjoyed all over the world.

DEanas Yogurt

I love yogurt with fruit/granola or wheat germ. More and more my family enjoys Greek yogurt or yogurt made from goat’s milk.

In today’s society of nutritional awareness Yogurt does not yield to sugar.

Yield – one amazing often troublesome word.

Yield  may refer to [so says Wikipedia]:

Physics/chemistry

Earth science

Finance

Other uses

BUT what does Yield really mean:

  • to give or render as fitting, rightfully owed, or required
  • to give up possession of on claim or demand
  • to surrender or relinquish
  • to surrender or submit (oneself) to another
  • to give (oneself) up to a temptation or habit
  • to relinquish one’s possession of (as a position of advantage or point of superiority)
  • to be fruitful or productive
  • to give up and cease resistance or contention -submit
  • give way to pressure, persuasion
  • to give way under physical force (as bending, stretching, or breaking)
  • to give place or precedence or acknowledge the superiority of someone else
  • to give way to or become succeeded by someone or something else

In this self-usurping/self-sufficient/don’t tell-me-what-to-do society; Yield is a very difficult word!  Don’t go off the cuff let’s slow down just for a few moments. Yield is not necessarily a bad thing.  Yes I agree in some rare cases it is.

In its place there is nothing wrong with a surrender or submit (oneself) to another:

In New Brunswick I came to a covered, one lane bridge with a yield sign on both end. Yes yield signs had been placed at both ends of the bridge. Drivers from both directions were requested to give right of way. It was a reasonable and gracious way of preventing a head-on collision.


I personally try my best to follow the commands of the Bible one of which is to “be subject to one another”- it is simply a reasonable and gracious command to let the other have the right of way and avoid interpersonal head-on collisions.

In the summer of 1986, two ships collided in the Black Sea off the coast of Russia. Hundreds of passengers died as they were hurled into the icy waters below. News of the disaster was further darkened when an investigation revealed the cause of the accident. It wasn’t a technology problem like radar malfunction–or even thick fog. The cause was human stubbornness. Each captain was aware of the other ship’s presence nearby. Both could have steered clear, but according to news reports, neither captain wanted to give way to the other. Each was too proud to yield first. By the time they came to their senses, it was too late.

The word ‘Yield’ is also obedience to what is right. Here is a funny; hilarious story.

Neil Marten, a member of the British Parliament, was once giving a group of his constituents a guided tour of the Houses of Parliament. During the course of the visit, the group happened to meet Lord Hailsham, then lord chancellor, wearing all the regalia of his office. Hailsham recognized Marten among the group and cried, “Neil!” Not daring to question or disobey the “command,” the entire band of visitors promptly fell to their knees!  You get it NEIL not KNEEL.


Back to the thought of submitting/surrender or acknowledge someone of superiority.

When I say I follow God and the principles of Jesus Christ it does not absolve me of my responsibilities in life nor the consequences of my decisions or lack thereof. There are so many variables and uncertainties in life we need the power of heaven to guide us.  To follow an example of perfection always helps and guides and produces growth.


Open to learn and change.

Be open to learning and change no matter where the advice comes from. Simply this; when we are criticized we ought to ask ourselves is there any truth to the criticism. If it does, we should learn from it, even when it’s not in the right motivation or right spirit. IF you acted wrongly; admit and go on with a new vigor to change.

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Surrender your walk, journey, lessons, reputation to please the creator and bring honor to yourself and your community and family.


There are some things we should never allow to dictate how we should live our lives and succeed.

CRADLES OF EMINENCE

In a famous study by Victor and Mildred Goertzel, entitled Cradles of Eminence, the home backgrounds of 300 highly successful people were investigated. These 300 subjects had made it to the top. They were men and women whose names everyone would recognize as brilliant in their fields, such as Franklin D. Roosevelt, Helen Keller, Winston Churchill, Albert Schweitzer, Clara Barton, Gandhi, Einstein, and Freud. The intensive investigation into their early home lives yielded some surprising findings:

* Three fourths of the children were troubled either by poverty, by a broken home, or by rejecting, over possessive, or dominating parents.

* Seventy-four of 85 writers of fiction or drama and 16 of the 20 poets came from homes where, as children, they saw tense psychological drama played out by their parents.

* Physical handicaps such as blindness, deafness, or crippled limbs characterized over one-fourth of the sample.

And yet from such poor circumstances, God was able to bring success.

SOURCE: Cradles of Eminence by Victor and Mildred Goertzel. Little Brown & Company, June 1962

There are some things we never yield to. There are some pressures we never bow to. To give way to dysfunctional pressure, abuse, violence, demeaning behaviour where we find ourselves lost and undone.  WE can learn to be fearless in the face of fear, abuse and dysfunction.

The flip side to this is when a family is free of abuse and oppression, it can be the place of joyful learning where we share our deepest secrets. Where we are willing to sacrifice to give without losing who we are as individuals but making the family unit beautiful and loved.

I love what J. Dobson says. “By learning to yield to the loving authority…of his/her parents, a child learns to submit to other forms of authority which will confront him later in his life, his teachers, school principal, police, neighbors and employers.”

Gandhi said that all compromise is based on give and take, but there can be no give and take on fundamentals. Any compromise on mere fundamentals is a surrender. For it is all give and no take.

“Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”  Winston Churchill

Tozer speaks of faith. A surrender that does not demean or loss but enhances.  Faith, as Paul saw it, was a living, flaming thing leading to surrender and obedience to the commandments of Christ.

True Godly surrender and worship is more than singing and praising God. Worship involves us doing, not just singing. It involves us caring for others, and meeting the needs of others. If we truly worship God, we will be involved in the activities of kindness, compassion and love selflessly. What God can do with a life who loves and lives in humility. Nothing but amazing.

Rick Warren said that The heart (core) of worship is an attitude of complete surrender to God, which is an unnatural concept in light of today’s competitive culture. But it is the natural response of the Christian into God’s love and mercy.

“God is a Lover and a Liberator, and surrendering to Him brings freedom, not bondage. When we completely surrender ourselves to Jesus, we discover that He is not a tyrant, but a Savior; not a boss, but a Brother; not a dictator, but a Friend.” (pg. 79) Purpose Driven LIfe.

I know there is a certain amount of faith and trust required to trust God to be a major source of living life on this beautiful planet.

For me God is amazing and God’s love is amazing and God helps me be a better me.

The ‘yield’ is more than progeny but the yield of our life. If our yield is great we leave some wonderful memories behind.

May you be blessed this week with wonderful experiences.

Thanks for reading my bLoG!

broadbordered beehawk moth estherPhoto by Esther Hull-Saunders

Today could you take the time to watch this video?

If you give a little love, you can get a little love of your own.  It tells the truth of kindness simply. 

Not complicated.

Thanks for watching!

K is for Kiwi and Kindness!

The kiwifruit or kiwi is the edible berry of a woody vine in the genus Actinidia. Thanks Wikipedia.

The most common kiwifruit is oval, about the size of a large hen’s egg. It has a fibrous greenish-brown skin and bright green with rows of tiny, black, edible seeds.

Kiwifruit is a rich source of vitamin C and vitamin K, and a good source of dietary fiber and vitamin E.

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Kiwi is Kind to your body. A study performed at the University of Oslo in Norway reported that consuming two to three kiwifruit daily for 28 days significantly potentially reducing the risk of blood clots.

Kind.  I like that word.  Simply,  Kindness is the act or the state of being kind, being marked by good and charitable behavior, pleasant disposition, and concern for others.

We are encouraged always to be kind and compassionate to one another.

Many of us on occasion show kindness to our friends and family– But one of the reasons we are kind to them is because we want them to be kind to us. It’s kinda like the theory of Christmas gift giving. Sometimes we give Christmas gifts to others because they give Christmas gifts to us. Wikipedia calls it reciprocal giving. There’s nothing wrong with showing kindness to others because they are kind to you, but God’s kind of love and kindness goes further than that. God encourages us to love your neighbor as yourself.  Well you could ask as so many have in the past;  “Who is my neighbor?” The answer as always is in the parable of  the Good SamaritanTo show kindness to those who can’t repay us.  I believe each of you on occasion have had cause to show kindness to someone who could not repay you and you followed through. Kudos to you for that and God Bless!

Kindness, Love & Sacrifice!

The longer I live the more I learn. One of the things I have learned is these Three Words ‘kindness, love and sacrifice’ go together.

Kindness is truest when you don’t expect anything in return. It is precisely the most wonderful time of the year, perfect time of day when you are kind to someone who can do absolutely nothing in return nor will ever be able to repay you.

Sometimes People will be kind, IF, it doesn’t cost them anything. Kindness has a parallel with Love.

Real Love is a willingness to sacrifice. Sacrifice is giving the bigger piece, better half, bestest of anything to another when you really want it yourself.

John Garmo said, A sacrifice is a gift of the essence or the product of our lives. It may be a gift of our time, a gift of our talent, or a gift of our treasure. Whatever shape it takes, it is a sacrifice given with no regard for a return on the investment.

I am not sure who said it but the quote says; Don’t be yourself – be someone a little nicer – God won’t ask how much overtime you worked, but will ask if you worked overtime for your family and loved ones.

Tuesdays is my day for babysitting grandbaby #3- Baby Emma.  I wanted to make it an extra special day for everyone.  My daughter Donna was feeling a little down and needed to have a change of scenery. I said, if you come visit while I am babysitting Baby Emma then I will cook you a turkey. Dinner with some of the trimmings.  I also said to my daughter Joanne who was at work, the mom of Baby Emma, that I was cooking a Turkey Dinner.  She didn’t realize I was at her house already she thought I was cooking the turkey at my house before I came to her home.   She said that sounds so good; I wish I could have some.  I said you will I am cooking it at your house now.  She was so excited.  I don’t have money, I don’t have things, I don’t have worldly values but I did have a turkey.

Kindness, Love & Sacrifice; These things I aspire to every day; many days I fall flat on my face but I pick myself up and start again. God Bless You!


Quotes I am Pondering Today!

 

“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” 

– Mother Teresa
 

Kindness
is more important than wisdom
and the recognition
of this
is the beginning of wisdom.

Theodore Isaac Rubin

 

Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate

– Albert Schweitzer

 

A little thought and a little kindness are often worth more than a great deal of money.

John Ruskin

Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.

Mark Twain

Here is a video ‘Kindness’ written and performed by my daughter Deana Hoyles.

Here is a video to remind us of those who aren’t receiving Kindness. Let’s take action first by prayer.  I would like to see Child Abuse obliterated in our generation.

‘Concrete Angel’ by Martina McBride!

Thanks for reading my bLoG!

Day 11  of my 30 Day Thankfulness Challenge; I am thankful for Friends. 😀

Real friends stay after seeing your weakness, mistakes, successes, achievements.  They stay near when your world crumbles beneath your feet.  Giving you breathing room to grieve then steps in at the right time to give more comforting hugs. They share in your joys and is the loudest clapper.

A friend loves at all times.  They aren’t afraid to say; No that’s not right now smarten up or that was fabulous.  Friends by their support and commitment like the title of the song ” you raise me up to more than I can be”.

I had 3 really close friends when I was a teen though the provinces and time has kept us from being within visiting opportunities I still value their friendship.  I love them dearly.

Even in these past few years I have gained friends in the oddest of ways including Facebook.  Yes I realize we can’t get to know each other in the perfect sense but we have a camaraderie at its best via internet, Skype and chat.  They have stepped in at a very poignant moment to encourage me. 

Since 2002 I have been on a clear path of going forward but circumstance foundered somewhat just recently but some would dare to hold out their hand to comfort, encourage and uplift.

When you have friends you have the ultimate.

Friends often come via creation. Animals and birds have a tendency to stay close.  For that I am grateful.

OF course my husband is my best friend and he is the most committed of friends.  I thank God for him.

My children have been a blessing as friends as well and for that I am eternally grateful.

When you have friends it feels like home.

Pertinent Quotes:

Proverbs 27:9 “The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.”

“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.” ~ C.S Lewis

“Is any pleasure on earth as great as a circle of Christian friends by a good fire?” ~ C.S Lewis

“The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.” ~ C.S Lewis

Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.

Good friends are like Stars, you don’t always see them, but you know they are always there.

Day 4 of my recent  30 Days of Thankfulness.

I am thankful for Daughter #2 [twin to daughter #1] who has her first CD “For Your Glory”  and first single “Kindness” is available. She can play any musical instrument she decides she would like to play.

Thankfully she has overcome illness as unto death but is now an overcomer.

Excellent qualities too many to name; but she is dedicated in her beliefs and very focused in her direction.  She loves singing and playing all her instruments.  She loves to teach music to anyone who lends an ear. She does have a desire to sing for the rest of her life.

She still maintains a youthful heart of joy and excitement and loves dogs. What can I say all around good person who loves to brag that she is now a godmother to a special little girl.

Two pertinent quotes:

The psalmist said;  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Deana wrote a song “For your Glory” on her album that this beautiful verse certainly applies: You thought evil against me: but God turned it into good, that he might exalt me, as at present you see, and might save many people.

To check out Deana’s website or purchase Deana’s Album/CD click on the album cover below!

Clothe Yourself With Kindness

Personally; I believe we are to be kind and compassionate to one another!

Just for one moment how do you truly want people to treat you? Simple! Treat others the way you’d like to be treated.

The win-win game or strategy is designed to benefit all participants.
So according to Beverley [ that’s me 😀 ] it’s like a man or woman or child who is kind to others – but in reality it benefits oneself.  That’s a true win-win. Kindness brings harmony.

Children instinctively know how to be gentle, kind and loving. These two children showing affection without being prompted to do so.

 


Here is a song entitled “kindness” that says it all.

Kindness by Deana Hoyles

You can go to the site to take a listen –  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oaIhxy-J7vk

 
Verse 1:
  
How can I
be a light
in the Darkest night?
To touch your heart
and break apart the fear.
And speak words that heal
Instead of words that steal.
Can you hear the cries
of the young eyes?
 
 
Chorus:
 
They’re saying:
Kindness is what we need
Kindness is what we need,
Is what I believe.
Your Kindness
Will bring us, peace.
 
 
Verse 2:
 
What will it take
to undo our mistakes?
To awake and erase
their heartache.
And when will we see
We need to believe
in humanity?
Can you hear the cries
of the young eyes?
 
 
 


Quotes on Kindness:
 

Philip Keller -“KINDNESS involves finding ways to “brighten and cheer” the lives of others”.

Stephen Winward – “Kindness includes sympathy, generosity and benevolence.”

Webster defines kindness as- “Of a sympathetic, forbearing, gentle, pleasant nature.”

The KJ translators translate it –  “gentleness.”

Dr. Paul – “Be kind, to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another…..”

When you show kindness to a stranger, they are surprised. Why? Because in today’s society it is no longer a normal behavior. However I am hopeful that we will see kindness on a more regular basis.

I remember a humorous story I read somewhere [I do not recall where] quite a few months ago..

The Confused Samaritan
A man was beaten up by robbers on a road to London. He lay there, half dead and in bad shape. A Vicar came along, saw him and passed by on the other side. Next, a monk came by but also walked quickly on the other side. Finally, a social worker came along, looked at the man and said “Whoever did this needs help!”


Pay it Forward

How can you pay it forward; rephrased; How can you express Kindness?

1000’s of little ways- one act at a time- really it is – however in all  honesty it is going to cost us something in every little way by our time, our convenience, our labor, our strength, our money, our way.

Very few of us can do great things but we all can do numerous small things with great love.

It most certainly should be a purpose behind your acts of kindness.  Why are you doing random acts of kindness? I’m doing this because God has shown His kindness to me and in my lifetime people has shown kindnesses to me. When people have shown me acts of kindness it encouraged/hurried me on my life’s journey.


More inspirational Quotes

What do the greats have to say about kindness?

“For Attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.”  Sam Levenson

Kind hearts are the gardens,
Kind thoughts are the roots,
Kind words are the flowers,
Kind deeds are the fruits,
Take care of your garden
And keep out the weeds,
Fill it with sunshine
Kind words and kind deeds.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


How to teach your kids kindness
:

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.” – Plato

  1. Show them in your own actions; kinda like a model.

  2. Show kindness toward your own kids-Reward your children who show kindness and love acts

  3. Read books on kindness

  4. Pay it forward- join charity groups, benefit events

  5. Show your child how to be a true friend

  6. Speak words that uplift and encourage; negativity is not an option.

  7. Have fun, fun, fun.


Animals Show Kindness

In a Pinch – a story from kids national geographic

The African savanna elephant must have been surprised. He was grazing alone in a swamp, in Kenya’s Masai Mara National Reserve, when a stranger arrived. The stranger was a forest elephant. Forest elephants are smaller and have more rounded ears than savanna elephants do. And they usually stay in the forest.

But this fellow had caught his trunk in a trap. While freeing himself, he’d torn off the tip. “Once the pain stopped, he’d be able to feed on his own,” says wildlife biologist Kayhan Ostovar of Billings, Montana. Until then, he’d need help.

As if to explain, “the injured elephant walked up and stuck his trunk into the healthy elephant’s mouth,” says Ostovar, who witnessed the encounter between the two elephants. And that’s all it took. Elephants often aid members of their herd. But this savanna elephant didn’t care that they weren’t related. He reached down, uprooted a small acacia tree, and stuffed it into his new friend’s mouth.

To see more stories check out  http://kids.nationalgeographic.com


Our Pets/Animals show kindness to our children:


Continue to Show kindness to nature:

Kindness in Marriage

If love is kind and God is love, then God is kind!! Maybe we should allow our hearts to be open to kindness.

Kindness is rare in society and in marriages.  I wonder is that one reason for so many failed marriages.

Admittedly it is easier to be mean and hard and angry when someone does not show love, but the way to overcome [in many cases] is with a reaction of kindness!

I really can’t speak for someone else but for me marriage has to be a priority even over career and activities in this world.

I read a story of a man who committed adultery and wanted to save his marriage. Here is an excerpt.

“At a loss for what to do I sought the advice of another Christian brother. John had committed adultery on his wife several years earlier, and his marriage had made it. When I asked John how long it took his wife to heal from his betrayal, John’s response was short and to the point: “Years.”

My mouth dropped. “Years ???” I said in disbelief. “Years ??? I thought surely you were going to say a few weeks or maybe even months… but… years??!!

“Yes, years” John repeated firmly. “The old marriage you had is dead and you have to build a new one. This is going to take a lot of time and effort on your part; you’ve got to kill her with kindness and win her all over again.”

This story is found at:    http://www.urbanministry.org/bg/brokenmarriage


Final Comments:

Yes People will forget what you said [verbatim] and they may forget what you did for them or the gifts you gave; But people will never forget how you made them feel about themselves and life. Just me thinking….:D

Before I shove off I want to ask a question.

How do you speak to yourself?  Would you speak to others the way you speak to your own thoughts?

Do you criticize, put down or thrash yourself?

  • Give yourself a break.  Be kind to yourself!

  • Start cheering yourself forward.

  • Speak kindly to yourself.

  • Don’t  force yourself to impossible standards.

  • Stop with the harsh judging.

  • Stop comparing yourself to others.

You are Beautiful…Just be your best self…

Who shall separate us from the love of God.  Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?

Nothing…..


Endnote:

I usually try to have my blog ready a month in advance of publishing  just in case something comes up and save myself that last minute panic.

I had this blog `Kindness` ready before I started my pilgrimage of sorts followed by a two day vacation.  I have to admit I relearned some things and had many great reminders along the way.

One of which was actually [ put your money where your mouth is ]….I came face to face with my opening statement. Just for one moment how do you truly want people to treat you? Simple!  Treat others the way you’d like to be treated.

My husband and I knew we had to do some physical maintenance underneath our cottage. It was going to be slow and difficult especially in this July heat. A job that required two people to complete and I would be of little use to the situation. Before we even had a chance to think of how to proceed a relative called. He was upset, actually more of a panic and fed up with life. A thirty something  in the throes of life, on the street, no job,no food, no money. He needed a little money. It is so easy to judge and say your old enough, get a grip, get a job, settle down.  He has had so many misfortunes, made so many bad choices and did not have a very good start in life tainted with drugs, neglect and the center of a custody battle. To say the least – he was looking for love ever since that horrible day.

My husband  and I decided to get him to come to the cottage with us.  He could help with repairs , three square meals, a couple of snacks and we would pay him a decent wage for two or three days. Now we don`t have money but if we didn`t sacrifice for this young man who would.

I had this brilliant plan that if we gave him a bit of money in exchange for his time and labor it would help with food and basic necessities for a few days.  That is so true of many people when giving to anyone in need- give them food, shelter that`s enough. For some that is all they can manage and that’s okay. It was a good thing but as we began to talk to him and get up close you see some larger problems. Teeth rotting, one tooth cracked off and causing him great pain.  Eye Glasses held together with wire. Very little undergarments.  His driver’s license will be run out in four days. So do you still want to be kind and generous.

It always cost us something to love and to be kind. It is often painful to step outside of our comfort zone.  Even if our comfort zone is a mere pittance it gradually becomes a place of comfort.  Are we willing after that to help someone in need.  Do we ignore it and pretend the need does not exist.

Generosity without cost I guess isn’t generosity.

Well what happened?  I’m glad you asked.

Gave him a generous wage for 2 days work and encouraged him to renew his drivers license and see if there were any outstanding fines. Of course there were. A $100 renewal became $239.  On his return I gave him the $230 back..he still has the original amount we gave for his labor.  The delight and excitement in his eyes was priceless.

Someone gave a hoot!

Appointment booked for the extraction of tooth number one.

Now let’s see if we can find some financial support to get him through a 16 week trucker’s course.  Helping a person regain their dignity is worth any price.

A most unusual thing happened a few hours later.  We had a problem with our old jalopy.  My hubby brought it to a friend’s garage.  After 2 or 3 hours of electrical work the problem was fixed.
How much do I owe? Said hubby
Nothing sir, my treat!
What would it have cost? I’m glad you asked.
$ 239…

You cannot outdo kindness and generosity.

MY book “Feet First” Steps to Survival, Forgiveness and Triumph is available at

www.feetfirst-book.com

paperback or kindle edition

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LOVE

What is love?  The short list.

  • emotion
  • affection
  • affirmation
  • virtue representing human kindness, compassion
  • actions toward others
  • compassionate
  • consideration
  • communication
  • forgiveness
  • gateway
  • gracious
  • sacrifice
  • honor
  • laughter
  • pay it forward
  • personal attachment
  • present- in the moment
  • respect
  • sexual
  • not envious
  • not abusive
  • not angry
  • not selfish
  • not hurtful
  • not compromising

 

Here are a few quotes highlighting love:

Jonathan Edwards said, “Love is the sum of all virtue, and love disposes us to good.”

Mother Teresa said, “The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.”

“If a man shuts his ears to the cry of the poor, he too will cry out and not be answered.” – Proverbs

The strength of love is shown in great things; the tenderness of love in little things.”  Robert C. Chapman

Today I want to be  a prompt and a reminder that love and appreciation is very important. It is true our feelings come and go and we oft’ become disoriented in life. Anytime we are side tracked we can find our way back by looking at the perfect example of God’s love.  He invented love.  

Like a lot of other things, love can be enjoyed or abused. Casual or appreciated. Genuine love is an unconditional, sacrificial, kind, caring, faithful, expressive, mature, compassionate, respectful, lifelong commitment. If we say we are Christian and do not love then we do not know truth but have become a liar.

Love is not supposed to be painful. A lot of people misrepresent the Bible and say we have to be obedient to husbands at any cost. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that. Peter did say that wives should respect the authority of their husbands in order to promote harmony within the family; as well as to submit to one another in mutual respect. What the Bible is not suggesting is for wives to become doormats nor feel inferior. If you are an abusive person, please seek help now. Don’t wait until you’ve made a terrible mistake that you will never be able to correct. If you are being abused, please talk to someone you can trust, whether it be a family member, a counselor, a friend, a pastor, a teacher or a doctor. Don’t delay.

Love should be at the forefront of everything that you and I do. Without love, our speaking and doing is noise! Let’s focus on kindness and goodness .

I encourage you to work on your relationships. My prayer for you is a complete, safe and happy relationship.

This week take time to read the entire book of the Song of Solomon.[check the end of this blog to direct you the site] The focus of Song of Solomon/Songs is not progeny but of passion. “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine.”

Do you still get the butterflies when you think of your love? Romantic and sexual  love is an incredible gift from God so don’t give it to just anyone and it will be a wonderful, worthwhile adventure.

You are free to believe as you wish but for me I follow God’s word, the Bible. God wants us to be blessed in love within the context of the marriage. I believe God wants to us to wait for marriage to express sexual love.

At an early age; I envisioned being in a marriage relationship, where there is no shame or bashfulness. You can express every physical desire and have a deep, expressive, loving, wonderful relationship. Ahh  here you can share your hearts, your dreams, your goals, your strengths, your weaknesses, your present, your futures, and your bodies together and without shame!

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. [Romans 12:1-2]

I hope you make time to have a love relationship with your partner, family and with God.

His Rose

A rose
Pink yellow white red or blue
Reminds me of you
Gently takes the thorn
From my skin
Silk and scent
Takes me to the place
Where we spent
Love’s first passionate kiss
Perfection
Is your silhouette
My love is greater
Than ten thousand red
Not a blast of hurry
Stayed on love and bliss
Set free
Unending love forever mine
Like the petals fold
My heart in thankful prayer
Inhale again aroma sweet
Your beauty smile and living
In celebration
Nothing says
I love you
Like His single rose of June
-Beverley Hoyles

Beverley is the author of Feet First: Steps to Survival, Forgiveness & Triumph

To purchase -Check out my website:  www.feetfirst-book.com

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Author-Beverley-Hoyles-Book-Feet-First/156535657739531

Endnotes:

Here are two sites I believe would help you.

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=song%20of%20Solomon%201-9&version=MSG

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Corinthians+13&version=NIV

Laura~LME

@LauraLME ~ @VersesInMotion ~ @VIMMedia ~ @DigitalDotWorld

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