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A Safe Place

There is this line in the song
…looking for one safe place…
That triggered my thoughts.

Marc Cohn – One Safe Place Lyrics

How many roads you’ve traveled
How many dreams you’ve chased
Across sand and sky and gravel
Looking for one safe place

Will you make a smoother landing
When you break your fall from grace
Into the arms of understanding
Looking for one safe place

Oh, life is a trial by fire
And love’s the sweetest taste
And I pray it lifts us higher
To one safe place

How many roads we’ve traveled
How many dreams we’ve chased
Across sand and sky and gravel
Looking for one safe place

The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned. Maya Angelou

I think every human on the planet will admit our basic physical needs are for food, water, sleep, and warmth. I believe the needs close to those basic needs is the need for safety and security.

safety

Every child should have a safe place in their life. Joe Manchin
There is a place of reconciliation.
There is a place for forgiveness.
AT least for those that want it with the person/s who has abused you.

There is a place where you have never spoken the truth about the abuse with the abuser.

There is a place where you can pretend a normal relationship with the abuser and pretend it never happened but as we get older that plays havoc with your body and mind and emotions. You will gradually get sicker and sicker. Your spirit and psyche will become more disturbed.

No man or woman on the face of this earth can ignore it forever without suffering for it.

Some say a safe place may be where we live or maybe in whom we live.

I believe a safe place is compiled of many things and if either is damaged we could live in a non-safe zone. Safety is required where we live, how we live, where we were raised, and in whom we trust in our spiritual safety.

For me spiritual safety is simple I walk the path knowing that the creator God is behind me, before me, in my footsteps.

Where I live is fairly simple most of the time. I trust that my immediate family will be respectful and loving. Will protect me when I’m sick. Will see that I am cared for in my aging process and probable death. My husband and I try to keep working to maintain a safe home.

How I live is sometimes Dicey but I simply apply some honest cardinal rules that assist in living safe. My spiritual beliefs flow into how I live which actually protects me and I am free to be as creative and excited about living and learning. The How helps me to be loving albeit I sometimes lose my patience with people but I try to keep the what I consider to be spiritual fruits before me and make it my life long goal to daily work at each of them. Namely; love, temperance, peace, joy, goodness, gentleness, patience, self-control and kindness. Of course they are worthless if I did not continue to do service for others and acts of grace each day.

I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings. This would give credence to spiritual security.
 
I saved this one for last; Safety in where [how] we raised.
I have made peace with the person/s that have abused me in my childhood. I have forgiven long ago and I have done all I could to make things right. Some would say then that’s the end of it. It’s all over now.

No.

I feel I must speak about abuse, be an advocate, educate about abuse, help those who neglect or cannot seek for recovery.

The door to safety hinges on our common sense.

When safety is taken from a child it messes up adult safety.
How we raise our kids is imperative to their safety, to their emotional safety, their spiritual safety, their growth, their whole humanity.

Nothing is too difficult for a creator God to help us to handle. It doesn’t mean you will bypass the necessary steps of hard work to healing.

One encouragement I would give: start a journal, write, talk about the pain. It will start the journey to healing.
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“We attach our feelings to the moment when we were hurt, endowing it with immortality. And we let it assault us every time it comes to mind. It travels with us, sleeps with us, hovers over us while we make love, and broods over us while we die. Our hate does not even have the decency to die when those we hate die–for it is a parasite sucking OUR blood, not theirs. There is only one remedy for it. [forgiveness] Lewis B. Smedes – Forgive & Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve

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All the years you have waited for them to “make it up to you” and all the energy you expended trying to make them change (or make them pay) kept the old wounds from healing and gave pain from the past free rein to shape and even damage your life. And still they may not have changed. Nothing you have done has made them change. Indeed, they may never change. Inner peace is found by changing yourself, not the people who hurt you. And you change yourself for yourself, for the joy, serenity, peace of mind, understanding, compassion, laughter, and bright future that you get.” –   Lewis B. Smedes – The Art of Forgiving: When You Need To Forgive And Don’t Know How

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“Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.”    —Lewis B. Smedes

Talking about abuse helps.

I Turned 60 Christmas 2012 and I have so much to learn. All I know for sure I have to keep loving the best I can and then learn some more and then loving the best I can.

ShootingStars

I am
sojourner of truth
on the path
not sauntering
a racer
in
the
race of my life
where to you ask?
to the golden streets
to the tree by the river eternal
musical realm
it’s heaven
a place
i want to be
every step every sprint
every movement
through earth
is like a shooting star
to my destiny
but
between
here
and
there
no looking back
a time to prepare
learn love
share love
now..©

Beverleyhoyles
May 6, 2013

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J is for Jam and Joyful!

Fruit preserves are preparations of fruits, vegetables and sugar, often canned or sealed for long-term storage. The preparation of fruit preserves today often involves adding commercial or natural pectin as a gelling agent, although sugar or honey may be used.

Putting Jam on bread or biscuit is simply delicious. Jam adds a Joyful Delight to an ordinary mundane cracker or croissant.

I like that word Joyful.

Feeling, causing, or indicating joy. Glad!

When was the last time you laughed and was happy and warm fuzzies just for the sheer joyfulness of life and living?

Try laughing out loud even if you don’t feel like it.  Smile even if you don’t feel like it…Something triggers our innermost self.

Joy is untouched by circumstance

We don’t live in a stress-free, trouble-free world; so we should learn to live it with joy.  Joy is an internal constant.  So if it’s not there then you have to rethink your heart.  Our viewpoint, perspective is very important and a direct link to that internal place of joy.

Internal JOY says; you meant it for evil but God meant it for Good.  IN other words this day is the pits but I am thankful and Joyful because I am living this day no matter what. All things will work out for the good in the end.

God is my center, innermost being that stirs a delight in my existence to life.

The psalmist encourages to “Delight yourself in the Lord and God will give you the desires of your heart.”

Once we have allowed ourselves the time and practice of a calmer joyful self there is little room for meltdowns and frazzled feelings. Once we realize that life doesn’t have to be perfect to be joyful and even happy.

I must confess the central source of my joy comes from God.  There are many who do not believe in a greater power and that is certainly their choice. However for me God gives me a center, balance and harmony. The joy of the Lord is my strength. That joyful inner strength cannot be accessed if I always want more and more but is accessed when I am gracious and tolerant and kind.

Please be encouraged. That internal joy helps us see the important things today. See the big picture.

Have you ever had moments when your spirit is frustrated or upset and not sure why?  I have and I have had to take a moment and think why?  Then I remember oOoOh it was that lapse in judgement or that moment I got angry, or that moment I was worried or that negative thought or that was selfish!  The negative overshadowed.  

I realize that there are many who suffer from depression and their day is most excruciating.  They find it hard to find their balance, their central joy.  Be assured of God’s love for you and God is touched and aware of feelings of y/our infirmities. Through my darkest hours I have encouraged myself by saying;  I can do all things through God who strengthens me.  If you are at a place of acute depression my prayer is you will find a caring professional help.

You or I can do things during these depressing times by making large projects or tasks into smaller segments thereby more manageable. Don’t stay in bed too long; change things up. Don’t expect too much from yourself doing the worst moments.
Though you may feel like you are being pulled under the shadow of despair find ways to resist lethargy, procrastination, obsession, negativity and the pull of violence.  Keep working, moving forward. Every step of movement will actually help you.
Fight to maintain positive thoughts. Keep working on making joy your goal.  Appreciate the little things.

If you are interested in understanding, a starting point of depression, here is a great book entitled Undoing Depression here is the site:

http://www.amazon.com/Undoing-Depression-Therapy-Doesnt-Medication/dp/0425166791

There is a Proverb that says Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flows the springs of life.

I encourage you and myself to supporting those who suffer from despair, depression and disappointment.  We all need Love; We all need Joy; We all need Hugs; We all need Acceptance; We all need Respect!  In giving love, joy, hugs, acceptance and respect; You guessed it we reap more JOY!

I declare; I’m not lettin anybody/anything steal my joy.


There is something about a child, innocence and an innate virtue of joyfulness.

Photo taken by Twila Auger Austin Photography

Photo taken by Twila Auger Austin Photography


I try to keep an inner humor, childlike joyful even silly humor alive especially for my grandbabies.

Q. How do you make seven an even number?

A. Take the s out!

Joyful springs to mind a movie Sister Act 2.

I love watching the movie starring Whoopi Goldberg] wtih Laurn HIll  singing with the choir an oldie but a goodie written “Joyful, Joyful We Adore Thee” is a poem written by Henry van Dyke in 1907 with the intention of musically setting it to the famous “Ode to Joy” melody of the final movement of Ludwig van Beethoven‘s final symphony, Symphony No. 9.

Joyful, joyful, we adore Thee, God of glory, Lord of love;
Hearts unfold like flowers before Thee, opening to the sun above.
Melt the clouds of sin and sadness; drive the dark of doubt away;
Giver of immortal gladness, fill us with the light of day!

All Thy works with joy surround Thee, earth and heaven reflect Thy rays,
Stars and angels sing around Thee, center of unbroken praise.
Field and forest, vale and mountain, flowery meadow, flashing sea,
Singing bird and flowing fountain call us to rejoice in Thee.

Thou art giving and forgiving, ever blessing, ever blessed,
Wellspring of the joy of living, ocean depth of happy rest!
Thou our Father, Christ our Brother, all who live in love are Thine;
Teach us how to love each other, lift us to the joy divine.

Mortals, join the happy chorus, which the morning stars began;
Father love is reigning o’er us, brother love binds man to man.
Ever singing, march we onward, victors in the midst of strife,
Joyful music leads us Sunward in the triumph song of life.

Quotes I am Pondering Today!

When we are centered in joy, we attain our wisdom.” Marianne Williamson

“Joy is a sustained sense of well-being and internal peace – a connection to what matters.” Oprah

“We need Joy as we need air.
We need Love as we need water.
We need each other as we need the earth we share.”  Maya Angelou

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