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On Being Positive

I want to keep  ‘that’ light,  ‘that’ sparkle, ‘that’ positive vibe in my life.

To be completely honest I’ve had to fight to maintain that lately.

I learned from my childhood that a negative attitude brings grief to the whole family. My mom hardly ever had a conversation that was not negative. No matter the day, the situation, meal hour at the table, in the yard, after school, bedtime, my siblings and I had a bad stomach as a result of the stress.  I must say now in her 70’s she is making an effort to change. I understand her more now.

An abusive past that included childhood, adolescence,  periods of public life gave me the foundation to be negative.

Our choices especially wrong, immoral, unthoughtful, unsafe, inconsiderate, selfish choices impacts those around us. Although choices made by people with health and mental illness are not always choices but challenges that affect us and totally a different matter.

I remember; I determined at a young age to be a positive influence however that did not always translate into reality.

Personally I thing good choices have good consequences. Choices I make today affect my body, soul and spirit that affect others. To begin the process of good choices I certainly need a positive attitude, God’s guidance and some good ole common sense. If my choices are good then that is very good.

I know instinctively I have to Focus on the Positive. At 62 the days of daydreaming for a better life is over, I can watch as many romantic, feel good, get rich, Christmas movies I want but my life is what it is. When I thought the worse was over; My heart breaks knowing that someone close to me is suffering cyber bulling, another with marital issues, a dear friend has just been diagnosed with cancer, and far to many of my friends are now dealing with life threatening diseases.  To know that someone I know is homeless.

The goals I have not realized YET now seem insignificant compared to these concerns. Still I must go on, life still happens and the choice is mine to persevere and pursue dreams, loves. I’m  thinkin’ many have experienced accomplishments later in life and in spite of tragedy and difficulty.

Michelangelo sculptured masterfully at eighty-nine. Monet painted his best pictures after he was eighty-five so maybe I should get back to painting. I am still a 60’s Possibility.

It was only the catharsis of writing my book  “Feet First ” and the grace and mercy of God that I’ve moved beyond abuse.

While I have overcome the pain of the past there are hurdles in the ‘here and now’ on a daily basis we all must overcome.

I must at any cost practice positive thinking.

Say Yes here’s another hurdle that I must stop and ask, how shall God and I overcome this thing?

Say thank you for everything.

Say I shall do good today.

You See- when I focus on the positive side it actually help me make more choices to look on the bright side.

I’m naturally a serious person but I do try to relax and shake it off. I want to anticipate a fun future even if I do not have at present a plan for our senior years. I’m still workin’ on that.

There is So much I can get bitter about But then why don’t I have the right to get angry and stay angry? So many arbitrarily choose things to impact and hurt me, why not?

Bitterness the unresolved anger turned inward eventually becomes hate towards all those that have wronged me.

BUT I want to be SWEET not a sourpuss.

What of you? Have you experiences in the past that caused you deep hurts whether it is illness or choices by others?

O God help me see there is positive in this day in spite of a new bump in the road.

How?

Firstly, to get a best perspective on today, Help me to be helpful and maintain a servants caring attitude just like the lowly carpenter.

Secondly, help me to continue to praise you and uplift others.

Thirdly, I wish to be grateful every day.

It’s not hard to believe I get discouraged but every kind word; smile I give to others through my discouragement is like a natural injection of meds.

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a downcast spirit dries the bones. (Prov. 17:22) Yesterday as I was writing this post a dagger of disappointment pierced my soul when a family member gives me more news that breaks the heart and darkens my countenance as a blind.

Then just as quickly I was reminded of  David who said ‘I WILL’ encourage myself in The Lord.

“WE are pressed on every side by troubles, but not crushed and broken. We are perplexed because we don’t know why things happen as they do, but we don’t give up and quit. We are hunted down, but God never abandons us. We get knocked down, but we get up again and keep going.”

I want to be ‘that’ light  ‘that’ sparkle of encouragement for my children  and grandchildren. You may not give credence to scripture but may it be an encouragement to you anyway; it helps me daily.

Philippians 4: 4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Today serendipitously the following example was given to me and I would love to share it.

So often many are like Gideon; at our weakest moment to be found a prisoner of fear and hiding in the most inappropriate place like an awful wine press. I too have been so afraid of losing and living in the dungeon of fear, frustrated, perspiring. But then suddenly an Angel of the Lord appeared and said; The Lord is with you, you mighty man/woman of fearless courage.  Judges 6  

A mighty person of courage while others may see a loser; God sees a winner. Wow. I am so glad the way God sees me…He sees more in us then we see ourselves.

May You and I be Sweet!

Thanks for stopping by.

Beverley

 

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Are you Positive or Negative?
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Check your spirit’s temperature.

  • Negative thoughts are caused by the inner debate about self-esteem, security, money, people, life in general
  • Negative feelings can go from anger, frustration, irritability, to even anxiety and depression
  • Negativity breeds more negativity and goes on a witch hunt for more to collect to the end of your imprisonment
  • Constant hammering thoughts about others and yourself day by day WILL take its toll and you could lose yourself
  • It’s a waste of time- not one single benefit of thinking negatively – SO THINK POSITIVE
  • Be aware of your thoughts and think why
  • Make a list of things about yourself to make changes; go on you can do it
  • Find a path to forgiveness of the past or it will kill your present
  • Negativity produces toxic waste in our emotions, body, psyche and spirit
  • Stop and consider your thoughts and stop the negativity. Practice making that change.
  •  Surround yourself with positive people and positive situations.
  • You don’t have to be negative because someone else is living a negative vibe.
  • Watch your perspective/attitude
  • Be kind
  • Look for the Positive
  • Go for a walk or run to release the brain chemicals to enhance an overall good feeling
  • Meditate
  • Relax
  • Have a gratitude Spirit
  • Banish Self Pity
  • You deserve the best life; see what great qualities you have and nurture them

I will go so far as to say that negativity and negative thoughts can be  dangerous to your health!

Toxic Waste

Prisoner
of unwanted thoughts,
identified
trauma and perspiration
perpetuation
questions and visions
what ifs?
why not?
how come?
why?
ralley to threaten
disturbing
intrusive
trance rapid
movement
repettitive
irritating
uncomfortable
intense head pain,
negativity
eminating
enemy within
tentataclous spectrum
tantalizing
trouble
trouble,
tell tale
i will let you down
again
and make you cry,
alone
desperate
surrender,
activate,
initiating
auto-self-destruct
and counting
10, 9, 8 ….

Beverleyhoyles
March 22, 2013

My prayer for you is for a new spirit of vitality and more positivity.  May you feel liberated unto Joy!

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ATTITUDE

With the help of Wikipedia:
An attitude is a favorable or an unfavorable evaluation of something. Attitudes are generally positive or negative views of a person, place, thing, or event— this is often referred to as the attitude object. People can also be conflicted or ambivalent toward an object, meaning that they simultaneously possess both positive and negative attitudes toward the item in question.

What we think is as important as what we do

Not only are words and action important by law, relational, emotional etc, but so are y/our thoughts. We are taught that holding a grudge or wishing someone harm is just as bad as hurting them. This is because what we think inspires what we do. Negative self-talk can have devastating effects on y/our selfesteem as well.

Matthew another cool guy, made a very important point – But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the person. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:

Clearly y/our attitude is much deeper than just a few thoughts you might think or not think. Your attitude comes out of the core of your being. Y/our attitude represents y/our disposition, y/our outlook, y/our very character.  So I gues we better make sure that what is in y/our heart are good things hey.

Attitude

We can choose what attitude we will embrace for today.

I recently met a 78 year old man who was quite upset about a decision made by government that affected him. It wasn’t long before he ranted and raved about his hatred for different ethnic peoples using threats and words of violence and potential death threats. Suffice it to say I was perturbed, appalled by such blatant display of hatred. My mind was reeling from the exposure of hatred. It took some time for to become calm again and detox my mind and turn towards a more positive attitude.

Some people think that the whole world stinks. Once a cranky grandpa laid down to take a nap. To have a little fun, his grandson put some limburger cheese on his mustache, right under his nose. Grandpa awoke with a snort, staggered out of the bedroom and shouted, “This room stinks!” On through the house he went, shouting louder, “This whole house stinks!” He charged out on the porch and shouted as loud as he could, “The whole world stinks!” The truth is, it was grandpa who stunk. The problem was right under his own nose.
“We are a culture that relies on technology over community, a society in which spoken and written words are cheap, easy to come by, and excessive. Our culture says anything goes; fear of God is almost unheard of. We are slow to listen, quick to speak, and quick to become angry.”
— Francis Chan (Crazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God)

With that quote in mind; attitude and subsequent actions are so very important.

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Positive and Grateful attitude can determine how you live your life.

A Proverb “For as a man thinks in his heart, so he is…”
What a difference your attitude makes! Your attitude affects every relationship in your life. And sometimes relationships will never get started in the first place — because many times your attitude has built up walls… making it difficult for people to be around you.

Tips to a Good Attitude!

• Be calm – Meditate/ calm your thoughts
• Believe the best about everyone
• Be a-Warm-Smiling -Smile
• Be thankful
• Be happy – think happy thoughts
• Be Kind – Don’t Gossip
• Be Positive – any old fish can be negative. Helps self esteem

Is it possible that attitude can:
• MAKE OR BREAK YOU
• HEAL OR HURT YOU
• MAKE YOU FRIENDS OR MAKE YOU ENEMIES
• MAKE YOU HAPPY OR MAKE YOU MISERABLE
• MAKE YOU A SUCCESS OR MAKE YOU A FAILURE

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by: Charles Swindoll

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you/I… we are in charge of our attitudes.

Check this website
http://drjamesdobson.org/Solid-Answers/Answers?a=63dc2a64-a70a-43f1-8d5a-cc43c8e77abc

Another Story

The story is told of a wonderful, elderly lady. She had very little money and lived in a rundown house, but she was always praising the God. Her only problem was with the old man who lived next door. He was always trying to prove to her that there was no God. One day, as the old man was walking by her house, he noticed the woman through an open window. She was kneeling down in prayer, so he crept over to the window to see if he could hear. She was praying, ” God, you’ve always given me what I’ve needed.” She prayed. “And now you know that I don’t have any money, and I’m completely out of groceries, and I won’t get another check for a week.” She continued, “somehow, Lord, can you get me some groceries.” The man had heard all he needed. He crept away from the window and ran down to the grocery store. He bought milk, bread, and lunch meat. He ran back to the woman’s house carrying the groceries. He set the bag down on by her door, rang the doorbell, and hid beside of the house. You can imagine how the woman reacted to seeing the bag of groceries. She threw her hands over head and began praising God.  “Thank you,” she shouted. “I was without food and you provided the groceries.” About that time the old man jumped out and said, “I’ve got you now.” She was too busy shouting thank yous to pay any attention. “I told you there was no God,” the old man said, ” it wasn’t God who gave you those groceries it was me.” “Oh no,” the woman said. “God got me these goroceries and made the devil pay for them.” She had the right attitude for God albeit a little strange toward her neighbor.

That’s what friends are for – it may sound too idyllic…but we should aspire to be good friends..that is a part of a good attitude.

Song “That’s What Freinds for Sure”

Alexander Tsiaras: Conception to birth — visualized

As much as you think you are alone so often; I beg to differ!

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I have a Maker
He formed my heart
Before even time began
My life was in his hands

I have a Father
He calls me His own
He’ll never leave me
No matter where I go

He knows my name
He knows my every thought
He sees each tear that falls
And He hears me when I call
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Who taught the sun where to stand in the morning
Who told the ocean you an only come this far?
Who showed the moon where to hide ’til evening
Whose words alone can catch a falling star?

Well I know my Redeemer lives
I know my Redeemer lives
All of creation testify
This life within me cries
I know my Redeemer lives

The very same God that spins things in orbit
He runs to the weary, the worn and the weak
And the same gentle hands that hold me when I’m broken
They conquered death to bring me victory

Now I know my Redeemer lives
I know my Redemer lives
Let all creation testify
Let this life wihtin me cry
I know my Redeemer, He lives

To take away my shame
And He lives forever I’ll proclaim
That the payment for my sin
Was the precious life He gave
But now He’s alive
And there’s an empty grave.

And I know my Redeemer, He lives
I know my Redeemer lives
Let all creation testify
This life within me cries
I know my Redeemer lives

Thanks for Reading my bLoG!

The photos in this post are not mine…

R is for Rhubarb and Respect

Rhubarb are perennials growing from short, thick root. They have large leaves that are somewhat triangular, with long fleshy stem. They have small flowers grouped in large compound leafy greenish-white to rose-red inflorescences [group or cluster of flowers].

Rhubarb is usually considered to be a vegetable; however some people consider it a fruit.

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Rhubarb is a source of calcium, Vitamin C, and potassium.

One cup (250 mL) raw, diced has 27 calories.

Rhubarb also contains glycosides especially rhein, glucorhein and emodin which impart cathartic and laxative activities to it. It is hence useful as a cathartic in case of constipation.

Rhubarb is ready to be consumed as soon as it is harvested, and freshly cut stalks will be firm and glossy.

Rhubarb will grow year-round in warm climates, but in temperate climates, the above ground portion of the plant completely withers away at the onset of freezing temperature; the plant grows from the root at the return of warm weather.

The colour of rhubarb stalks can vary from the commonly associated crimson red, through speckled light pink, to simply light green. Rhubarb stalks are poetically described as “crimson stalks”.!

Rhubarb made a delightful jam and dessert dish.

As a kid it was common that many neighbors had rhubarb growing in their garden. As well it was out of respect and kindness that one would share their rhubarb with their neighbors.

Respect that’s a good attribute to have.

Respect gives a positive feeling of esteem or deference for a person or other entity (such as a nation or a religion), and also specific actions and conduct representative of that esteem. Respect can be a specific feeling of regard for the actual qualities of the one respected. Wikipedia

In practical terms what is respect?

  • A feeling of appreciative, often deferential regard; esteem
  • The state of being regarded with honor or esteem
  • Willingness to show consideration or appreciation
  • Respects, Polite expressions of consideration or admiration

How we treat one another with RESPECT is so important.

  • No matter how difficult an older person is, we need to treat them with respect- There’s so much we can learn from the older generation
  • Young people should also RESPECT the older generation – you can learn much as well
  • We need to treat women with respect
  • Men if you can’t respect a woman or women in general then I would guess you have a lot of growing up to do
  • Women if you see single parents or woman in need help look after women -women know women
  • Women I think it isn’t necessary to brow beat men the pendulum swings both ways.
  • Men don’t allow the many men who have failed their woman, children and society to go unnoticed and leave only a negative impact – continue a respectful and honorable example
  • Lack of respect is an epidemic in our society
  • Respect goes beyond admiration you need to put it into practice

Practical Advice for Teaching and Requiring Our Children to Respect Other People

  • Talk the talk
  • Walk the walk
  • Speak respect
  • Train children intentionally about respect
  • Respect others as you would have others respect you – be the example
  • Don’t give up
  • Respect is an attitude first
  • Respect helps children succeed in life

If children don’t have respect for themselves, peers, or authority, it’s almost impossible for them to succeed.

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Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Quotes I am pondering today!

“Only those who respect the personality of others can be of real use to them” – Albert Schweitzer

“The capacity for getting along with our neighbor depends to a large extent on the capacity for getting along with ourselves. The self-respecting individual will try to be as tolerant of his neighbor’s shortcomings as he is of his own.” – Eric Hoffer

“They cannot take away our self-respect if we do not give it to them.” – Mohandas K. Gand

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H is for Honeydew and Humility!

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I love honeydew. Are you surprised?

A honeydew slightly oval shape about 8″ long. The flesh is usually pale green in color while the peel is greenish to yellow. Honeydew has seeds. Here in Canada you can pretty much get a Honeydew anytime. Many people use honeydew for deserts or eaten as is. Quality [I was told] is determined by the honeydew having a nearly spherical shape with a surface free of scars or defects. A honeydew should feel heavy for its size and have a waxy (not fuzzy) surface. 

Honeydew melon is low in Sodium and Calories, and very low in Saturated Fat and Cholesterol. It’s also a good source of Vitamin B6, Folate and Potassium, and a very good source of Vitamin C.

Napoleon and Pope John Paul II both considered Honeydew melons their favorite fruit.

Honeydew is just a humble fruit; it’s not spectacular in appearance but on the inside it is scrumptious.

Humble is another great word; The quality or condition of being humble. A modest opinion or estimate of one’s own importance.

Humility or Humbleness is a quality of being courteously respectful of others. It is the opposite of aggressiveness, arrogance, boastfulness, and vanity. Rather than, “Me first” humility says, “No, you first.” – Humility is the quality that lets us to be generous to help others.

The demeanor of humility is exactly what is needed to live in peace and harmony with others. Humility dissipates anger and heals old wounds. Humility allows us to see the dignity and worth of all God’s people despite color, creed etc.  Humility has that special something that can distinguish the wise leader from the arrogant power-hungry.

Acting with humility does not in any way deny our own self worth.

The humble person keeps his/her accomplishments, gifts, and talents in a proper perspective. It is self-knowledge with an awareness of one’s limitations. Humble individuals value the life, well being and welfare of other people.

Our modern culture downplays humility with prerequisite to the forcefulness and aggression in many areas.

Humility is not inferiority or poor self-esteem; it is seeing our strengths and weaknesses honestly, and not letting either keep us from accomplishing what we need to do.

Humility produces thankfulness as a normal aspect of our daily living.

Turtle on the Fence:

A humble recognition of the need in the Creator God’s help and wisdom is key to his success of life and living [my personal view].  Sometimes however with great success one can ride the ego cart and think all things are self oriented. It is far superior to be humbled in the blessings and successes. 

Alex Haley, the author of Roots, has a picture in his office, showing a turtle sitting atop a fence. The picture is there to remind him of a lesson he learned long ago: “If you see a turtle on a fence post, you know he had some help.”
Haley said, “Every time I write something significant, and begin to feel proud of myself, I’ll look at the turtle on top of the fence post and remember that he didn’t get there on his own. He had some help.”

Turtle on a Fencepost

Quotes I am Pondering Today!

There is something in humility which strangely exalts the heart. Augustine

True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. C.S. Lewis

Humility is to make a right estimate of oneself. Charles H. Spurgeon

 A man’s pride will bring him low, But the humble in spirit will retain honor. Proverbs

Josh Groban and Celine Dion – The Prayer!

Here is a very classic video on Humility the music is superb!

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